7 Things You Should Not Do To A Woman. | SEX w/ Annie, Let’s Talk about Sex!

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I came across this post on my friend Annie’s blog. Annie writes about women’s sexual issues, erotica and everything women. This was reblogged by an intelligent man, I.G. Malgwi, www.ganzymalgwi.wordpress.com

 

7 Things You Should Not Do To A Woman.


1. Don’t beat her.
2. Don’t verbally abuse her.
3. Don’t disrespect her.
4. Don’t make her feel unloved. 5. Don’t rape
her.
6. Don’t cheat on her.
7. Don’t ignore her love languages.
Give her kindness, she’ll give you love.
Give her smiles, she’ll give you laughter.
Give her your heart, she’ll give you her life.
Give her a house, she’ll give you a home.
Give her an idea, she will give you a plan.
Treat her like a queen, she’ll make you a
king.
Love her, and she’ll submit herself!
Sin against her and she will make your life
miserable. Agreed???

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

 

Sodium Overload

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Last week I wrote a post on grocery shopping tips. I thought I’d revisit the topic and talk about the drawbacks of taking in too much sodium. As a person who is adamant about reading labels in detail of ingredients, I have to admit that until I approached the phase of menopause, I wasn’t too well-versed in the effects that sodium had on me. At that time, my focus was more on fat, fiber and sugar content. But as my bloating days were becoming more frequent and my love for Sushi (soy sauce anyone?) never faltered, I discovered how much excess sodium was a culprit in the distention of my stomach.

 

Health guidelines state we shouldn’t take in more than 2000-2500 milligrams daily and I can tell you, with today’s food industry, you really have to become a detective to be aware of all the sneaky ways sodium gets in our diets. For a shocking preview, next time you are in a grocery store, pick up a can of any chicken soup (which isn’t labeled low-sodium), and take a look at the sodium content. Most cans will list around 480 to 800 milligrams per serving and there is usually two servings to each can, which really doesn’t make it difficult to eat the whole can when it is merely a low calorie soup. Eating that can of soup would bring you to almost half or just over the amount of sodium we should be ingesting in a whole day. All that sodium just from soup?

 

 

Just about everything we eat contains sodium. It’s up to us to become diligent and pay attention to the numbers. Too much sodium can cause seriously high blood pressure, leading to cardiovascular issues.

Fast food outlets produce some of the highest amounts of sodium. Many sauces and marinades we buy pre-made have exceedingly high levels.

I was cleaning out my fridge the other day and I think we all have those bottles in our fridges that stay pushed to the back because we either forget they are there or no longer use them. I decided to stop being a packrat and toss the things I wouldn’t eat and that take up space. I came across a bottle of salmon marinade that I hadn’t used for TWO YEARS! Yes, I knew it was there but hadn’t used it for a few years and yet it hadn’t gone off. That is scary in itself. Sodium and preservatives can make for a frighteningly long shelf life.

Before I finally tossed that bottle, I looked at the label and saw that the whole bottle (8oz.) contained over 9000 milligrams of sodium – 460 milligrams per teaspoon! Holy crap! It wasn’t uncommon to use half a bottle when preparing a meal for two. That is 4500 milligrams divided by two equaling 2250 milligrams per person, just as a marinade! Frightening! No wonder I had stopped using it.

 

I am not a big salt user and I cook almost everything from scratch and make most of my own dressings and marinades for the past few years now. When cooking, I add some sea salt for taste and never put a shaker on the table.

 

Often if I am in a restaurant and order a soup, I find my mouth is overwhelmed with salt and I don’t eat it. Many cooks will add extra salt to bring certain foods back to life – YUCK, or may have no idea what too much is. My taste buds are the first indicator to sodium overload. Next comes the distention of my stomach and swollen feet and fingers. These are sometimes indicators you have taken in a lot of sodium (especially if it isn’t due to a medical issue).

Do your homework. Read labels. Prepare your meals in healthier ways and your heart will thank you.

 

DGKaye ©2014

 

 

 

Which Is More Important? Writing or What We Write? – Helping Writers Become Authors

 

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Which Is More Important? Writing or What We Write? – Helping Writers Become Authors.

Today I am sharing a blog post from one of my favourite, informative blogs I enjoy reading. K.M. Weiland writes a lot about writing. Today she has posted an excerpt from author Bryan Hutchinson’s book Writer’s Doubt.

Bryan writes about how authors struggle with so much internally about their own work. Issues of self-doubt, rejection and many times our internal editor can tend to get in our own way as we write.

For more articles on writing you can check out Bryan’s website at www.positivewriter.com

The Pink Basket

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Lately, I have been reading many books on writing, in particular, writing in memoir. A great book I just read and has now become a great reference book for writing prompts is Old Friend From Far Away, by Natalie Goldberg. Her writing is intense with descriptive words and the lessons she uses to promote ten-minute writing prompts to awaken the creative juices in a flash are so motivating.

One of Goldberg’s first prompts is, “I am looking at …”. She writes, “You have ten minutes to write, go!” I have been using this exercise a lot lately. Since reading her book, sometimes while I’m not writing, I find myself doing something around the house and my attention may be drawn to a mundane object and I begin creating stories in my head about them.

This little story came to me  while I was doing a load of laundry. When I took a load out of the dryer, I placed it into my old faithful, pink laundry basket. Many times when I look at that basket, I chuckle when I think about how old that basket is and where it came from. I began with “I am looking at this pink laundry basket” and my memory took over.

The basket has been around my homes for well over half a century! When I moved away from home as a  teen, I took it with me as my mother prepared to toss it out while we packed up our family home. Everyone was moving. My parents were finally divorcing and my dad sold our beautiful home with the circular driveway.

My father had already moved out. My mother was taking my younger siblings to a smaller home and I was eager to find peace and start life on my own at eighteen. I was young and starting from scratch so I inherited some furniture from our home and I knew I would be needing a laundry basket, and whatever I didn’t have to buy was good enough for me.

I never really gave much thought to the basket other than its usefulness. Through the years I have moved a lot and that basket came everywhere with me. But as the decades passed, it had become very symbolic. With its once bright pink color, it had become faded to a lightened shade of peach. The years had left many marks on it but it is still in perfect condition and sturdier than the flimsy baskets made today.

When I was four years old, I loved to play with that basket. This is certainly quite an odd object for a child to want to play with, but for me it became a kind of safe-haven. I grew up living in much discord and I feared my mother’s temper. When I was very young, I used to imagine I was a princess who would one day be famous and free. Quite a combination for a young child to think about, and the famous part especially was interesting because I didn’t know what I wanted to be famous for. I would jump in my bed and I would put that basket over my head—like a cage, as though I were in solitude. Nobody could find me (I thought) and I was safe from the noise of my mother’s rants.

Once inside my own private world, my imagination took over and I would go into my princess land and I felt safe and content.

Goldberg’s book opens up the imagination. You begin with being prompted such as: “I am looking at,” which starts the writing and your thoughts will drive you to the story from what you are looking at. You don’t stop to think or revise. You follow your thoughts from the initial object you began writing about, and the writing begins to take on a new life about the subject as you continue to write. There are many writing prompts in Old Friend From Far Away which awaken our memories and can be used over and over using different subject matters.

DGKaye©2014

Spring Has Sprung

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After going through one brutally harsh winter here in Toronto, I do believe spring has finally arrived. I hope I’m not jinxing it by writing about it because we did have two warm days a few weeks ago when the natives got overly excited, only to find the temperatures went back down to the mid-forties the very next day. Many questioned whether or not we’d even see summer. Seven long months of winter was more than anyone wants to endure again, yet we don’t know if next year will be a repeat, or hopefully this past thrashing was only a passing fluke in bizarre climate.

As I looked out my kitchen window earlier this week, I was hoping to see a hint of the promise of leaves on the trees, I was hoping that it would only be a matter of having a few nice, consistent warmer days to change the way things were looking. Within a few more days, the temperatures began to rise from forty and fifty degrees to the mid-high sixties.

Yesterday, after seeing only a tiny few buds on some of my trees two days prior, I began seeing new life with a sudden growth spurt. My garden had survived winter’s wrath and peaked out, knowing instinctively that it was safe to come out.

I wanted to post these pictures displaying the new growth around my garden because it is truly remarkable that within three days, it went from bare to this:

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Cover Reveal — Meno-What? A Memoir – Memorable Moments of Menopause

 

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Some of you may have noticed I have been sparse these past few weeks. It’s that busy time once again getting my new book — MENO-WHAT? A Memoir Memorable Moments of Menopause. ready to put out into the world.

It is all the fine-tuning that involves such intricate detail, time for revisions and editors and more revisions. Time to make sure your book cover shines and portrays perfectly what the book is about. And time, again to revise to make sure everything is just right before formatting to prepare for publication.

These are the times when the days turn into nights without notice. The times we find it hard to squeeze in time to even cook a meal, let alone get dressed.

By mid-May, I will be happy to share my new book with all of you. At this time, I would like to share my cover reveal here with the book description listed below.

I was inspired to write this book to show a lighter side of this sizzling phase of life by providing some deja vu moments for some women who have done the dance and to share with others who have yet to experience it, some of the crazy rides menopause can take us on.

Big thanks to my Book Cover Artist and Designer: Yvonne Less, diversepixel.com

 

“I often found myself drifting off the course of normal with a sudden twist of bitch.”

 

From PMS to menopause to what the hell?

D.G. adds a touch of humor to a tale about a not-so-humorous time. While bidding farewell to her dearly departing estrogen, D.G. struggles to tame her raging hormones of fire, relentless dryness, flooding and droughts, and other unflattering symptoms.

Join D.G. on her meno-journey to slay the dragons of menopause as she tries to hold on to her sanity, memory, hair, and so much more!

 

D.G. Kaye ©2014

Meno book cover