Harsh Truths About Writing from Some Writing Legends | Margaret Langstaff


Today’s reblog was borrowed from author, writer, reviewer, Margaret Jean Langstaff’s blog. As you know I often post about famous author’s tales I come across for writer’s inspiration. This article contains some famous quotes from some very famous writers.

Langstaff introduces this post with saying, “Writers, if you are struggling, you are not alone. It’s the typical state of mind for a serious writer! I stumbled on this and thought it worth sharing here. No endorsements intended or implied. Just food for thought and a few reasons to smile.

Harsh Truths About Writing from Some Writing Legends | Margaret Langstaff.

Taking An Overdue Break

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As many of you who follow me all know. Last year and the first part of this one has been quite busy for me. Besides putting out three books in just under a year and writing here, I’ve had my share of ‘life’ to contend with. We searched for a place to rent, put our house for sale, packed up and began moving before year’s end. We buried too many loved ones and right now my only living aunt is terminally ill, unexpectedly, living on borrowed weeks. Needless to say, I will be taking a long overdue vacation this week, and I’ll be back mid-February.

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I just wanted you all to know that it may be a bit quiet from my end during this break, but I won’t leave you high and dry. I have been putting together some terrific reblogs from some talented writers and storing them in my drafts and will aim to put up two posts a week.

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I plan to get to my laptop twice a day, for a limited time as internet can prove to be a bit wonky at sea sometimes, not to mention, last year’s cruise, I couldn’t even access my own website. Apparently the ship’s satellite recognized my site as ‘unsafe’ lol and wouldn’t allow me to log in. That left me with waiting until I got to a port with wifi, and schlep my laptop around an island with me for a day in order to get into my site. Sheesh, I hope I am treated better than spam this time, lol.

So, as always, I will try my best to get to my comments and most likely many blogs I follow may suffer a lack of my visits, but don’t be surprised if I surface somewhere unexpectedly!

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For now I will say Bon Voyage as I get ready for a little sand and sea. And I’m sure I will have some interesting tales and photos when I return!

A Post About Reblogging



I’m writing this post because it has come to my attention several times by some of my readers that they occasionally wanted to reblog some of my posts but commented that there was no ‘reblog‘ button on my page to share.

As readers and writers, we are not all technically gifted and that little button makes it easy to share the blog instantly to your own blog. Unfortunately, when someone owns their own domain, that is, not having their blog on WordPress.com, they aren’t afforded the ability to add a ‘reblog‘ button from the plugins in their dashboards. When I first moved to my own site from WordPress, I had installed a plugin called repost to enable readers to copy my blog post over to their own blog. That button has since become invalid as the owner of the plugin discontinued it, hence I have removed it.

You may notice on many writer’s self-owned blogs, that there isn’t a reblog button on their pages. But there is in fact a way for everyone to be able to reblog any post using “Press This“. This is a tool you can download from your “tools” widget in your dashboards of your blogs which will install a little icon on your tool bar, or you can save to your favourites, wherever you choose it to go.

I use this handy little marklet myself for reblogging other’s posts. All I do is when I’m on a post that I’d like to reblog, is go to my favourites, scroll to “Press This”, click on it, and a screen pops up asking me if I’d like to save or publish the article of the page I am on. It’s that easy and convenient. I then save it so that when I’m ready to put the post together, the link to the blog has been saved to my drafts.

I hope this helps many of you. And remember, the courtesy of reblogging is to always link back to the person’s website in the post where you took the article from. This gives them the recognition for their work that has been shared on your page. This helps immensely to avoid copyright infringements, and beware that there are certain posts that you may have to obtain their permission to use.

When I reblog someone else’s post, I like to message them and let them know I have reposted their work, as a courtesy. Now, feel free to reblog this. 🙂

Click on the highlighted “Press This” if you’d like to read more about “Press This

Find The Tail End Of A Rainbow And Hang On | Healing Beyond Survival





Mandy Smith is a wonderful memoir writer. We connected about a few months ago when we found a common thread about our writing. I was pleasantly surprised when Mandy told me that she had read my memoir, Conflicted Hearts and wrote a lovely review after reading it. Mandy has her own  blog, Healing Beyond Survival. which she writes on the subject of child abuse and shares intimate posts from parts of her upcoming memoir.

Thank you Mandy.

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This review is from: Conflicted Hearts: A Daughter’s Quest for Solace from Emotional Guilt (Kindle Edition)
Child abuse and neglect happen to a lot of people. Many victims of abuse put one foot in front of the other for the rest of their lives and call it surviving. But, D. G. Kaye shows us in “Conflicted Hearts” what it’s like when you catch the tail end of a rainbow—and hang on. Early on in this story, I sensed the strength and tenacity of Kaye as the young girl, coping with a turbulent childhood: Cruel treatment and neglect by her mother and the guilt of feeling like a bad child. Her many successes in early adulthood are overshadowed by the lingering guilt from her childhood abuse. However, “survive” she does. Kaye’s real test comes when she confronts life or death health problems; that’s when the real strength of this author shines—a true example of thriving. I especially loved when she says at the end of the book “when life throws you curve balls you learn to catch.”“Conflicted Hearts” will appeal to survivors of abuse (of any kind), to those who struggle with guilt and, especially, to those who need a reason to believe in rainbows and the recipe to hang on!
Thank you Mandy for reading my book and taking the time to post this lovely review. 🙂
Speaking about this book Conflicted Hearts, I would like to let you all in on two newsworthy items:
1. I have been writing a sequel to this book for the past year now and anticipate it to be finished and hopefully published by year’s end. The first book was left with some unanswered questions and resolution while I wrote and published with unsettled angst because my mother was still alive at the time. I knew when she passed that the pen would guide me to delve into and clarify much of what stayed stuck within me. My mother passed in October of 2014 and even though I had begun writing the sequel long before her passing, there was much more to be said.

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2. Conflicted Hearts will be on Kindle promo for 5 FREE Days beginning this Friday January 23 through January 27th on Amazon. Please feel free to click on the highlighted universal  URL here to have a look inside the book and download. www.smarturl.it/bookconflictedhearts

Saving Relationships

  Kindness, Words We Carry

Having  few good mottos and mantras are some good practices to live by. I have several, and coming from a broken home where many unkind words were said between my parents, made me cringe as a child and sent nervous butterflies swimming around my stomach. Some people follow suit, mimicking words and actions from what they had heard and seen as they were growing up. But gratefully, I took heed to those things, especially when my sensitivity to hurtful things recognized them as unhealthy patterns to follow.

I’ve always been about kindness and compassion, empathy and pathos. I try my best not to hurt anyone intentionally, I look at life and it’s punches with a glass half full attitude, and I also tend to feel others’ pain when they are hurting. Because of these things, one of my mantras has always been “Do unto others as you wish to be done unto you.” I write a lot about hurtful words and how they have the propensity to stick with us through life, most recently in my latest book, Words We Carry. In my book there is a sentence I wrote, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me, is a fallacy.”

A few months ago, I was at my dentist’s office and as always, I shared some great conversation with my hygienist, Miriam. She is a great fan of my books, and when I saw her that day, Miriam thanked me for some words of wisdom I shared with her. We had been chatting about her recent marriage and all that relationships can entail in the early stages of marriage as two young people acclimatize to one another’s lifestyle habits. We all know that life isn’t always a bowl of cherries and we are bound to have disagreements at times.

Miriam was asking me some questions about when couples disagree and get angry with one another, how to avoid blow-ups, which I had written about in my book and she found very useful. I first reminded her to always count to ten in her head before spewing something out of the moment’s anger, because we can never take those words back. Oh sure we can apologize, but the effect those words leave behind will always remain like a stain engraved in the mind of the one who was slighted.

Words are powerful. We must use them wisely. We talked about my method that I use when I’m ticked at something about my husband, the method she found so useful. I reminded her that in our heated moments, we sometimes forget the love we have for our partners and those can become the dangerous moments where words slip out that can hurt and cannot be taken back. I call it my safe method.

If I find myself upset with something my husband may have said or done and don’t feel at the moment that I can continue a civil conversation without my temper escalating and potentially getting me in regrettable hot water, I stay quiet for a few seconds and then I tell him, “I’m not your friend right now.” And then I exit the room immediately. Sometimes he will keep tailing me and try to make me talk and throw out the “Oh you don’t love me?” card.  That is when I reply with: “I love you, but I don’t like you right now, so give me my space.” This always ends the confrontation, gives us the rest of the evening, or sometimes even another day of silence between us, and by then we begin speaking, and can calmly work out our differences without any repercussions or ill feelings for hurtful words that were avoided.

Miriam thanked me for this advice and other things she took from my book and has begun to use it at the appropriate times instead of fighting dirty.I am always so happy when I learn that someone has taken something of value for themselves from my writing and experience. Hence, I love to share my thoughts and practices a lot in all my writing.

We often think the little things we do in daily life are common practice amongst everyone, but that it not always the case. Many people are always looking for helpful hints for situations they may be unaccustomed to or have no prior experience from learning certain things about, particularly because of the environments they were raised in. Perhaps they are shy or inexperienced or didn’t have freedoms or people in their lives to lead good examples in life. One never knows anybody else’s private laundry. So never be afraid to pass on good and helpful information for fear it’s being repeated. Nobody ever suffered from too much kindness.

D.G. Kaye ©2015

I Just Published my Book. Now What? | Nicholas C. Rossis


I found another one of Nicholas Rossis’ gems on his blog and I’m sharing it in the link below. Nicholas often posts great information on writing and publishing and I try not to miss any of his posts.

This post is a detailed report on his findings to help self-publish successfully. He talks about platform building, writing engaging content, choosing the correct categories for our books, and of course he gives us helpful tips on promoting.


I Just Published my Book. Now What? | Nicholas C. Rossis.

Bruised and Confused

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Although I am posting this on the weekend. I wrote this on Day five in my new home. It’s been a brutal five days, especially moving day, last Saturday. We spent the better part of the previous week carting over boxes and small items as I packed them, in order to lessen the load for the movers.

We gave away a lot of our furniture and belongings to family, as we were downsizing once again. These factors apparently didn’t help the move take less than thirteen hours! The weather held up thankfully, through last week as we went back and forth with car loads of items to move. It was not too freezing and no snow was on the ground as we crossed our fingers it would stay like that just until Saturday’s move.

Just as the moving truck was getting ready to pull away from our home, the temps dropped drastically and the blowing snow and sleet had begun. It took the movers an hour to get to our new place which normally would have taken a half an hour. Seven hours later they finished unloading after schlepping our things from the loading dock to the elevators and down a long corridor to our apartment. Some of my furniture came up with actual snow on it, which didn’t leave me a happy camper. I mean, bad enough they left some things uncovered, but common sense . . . WIPE THE DAMN SNOW OFF before ruining my stuff!

Our fair sized condo was laden with boxes. I cleared a narrow path for us to try and walk around as I wondered where to begin unpacking. I spent time being meticulous when packing, so that I would clearly label which room every box belonged in so I wouldn’t have to spend time searching for things. Boxes aren’t cheap, and I had well over a hundred of them! We were lucky enough to get a ton of boxes donated to us by family members from a move in their own family. That was the beginning of some unforeseen mix-ups.

Some boxes had so many labels and scratch outs after being reused that the movers didn’t bother to figure out which room they really belonged in, so the hunt was on for misplaced boxes. My body obtained approximately fourteen bruises from banging into scattered boxes and furniture. I somehow sprained the top of my left foot, or so it felt like it after one day of standing fourteen hours in non-supportive shoes, but I finally found some solace in a pair of crocs I managed to pluck out of one of my too many shoe boxes. My tail bone feels as though it was sawed in half from continuous bending, and my legs and neck and shoulders feel like what I’m sure the Tin Man felt like in the Wizard of Oz.

The first two nights, I don’t think I even slept four hours a night, despite my sheer exhaustion. I woke up many times, as if my body knew it was in a strange environment. You know, that weird ‘where am I?’ feeling you sometimes get when you are on vacation and wake up a bit disoriented? I have moved five times in my fifteen years of marriage. Three of those moves were in the last four and a half years!

One may think I’d be quite used to it by now, but the older I get and the more shit I accumulate really adds up to a toll on the body. For some strange reason, this move felt like the most difficult of all moves. I don’t get it as we have downsized along the way, gave so much away and moved from a house to a condo. Perhaps it was the long and many treks of lugging stuff for days through undergrounds and elevators and corridors just to get inside the condo, but it felt like moving went on forever, and my body has the war wounds to prove it.

It was also difficult for me not to be in touch with my writing world. So many ideas whirled around my head, just wanting to land on paper at most inopportune moments, when I had to stay focused on the task at hand. On this Day five after moving in, I still have two rooms to unpack  and my body is slowly adjusting to the long days it has put in doing physical labour- other than my taped up hips that couldn’t take the punishment of eternal bending, I’m getting used to being stiff. I’m still trying to get used to my new surroundings and glad the bulk of the move is over and done with.

Only now am I looking forward to my winter vacation which I will be leaving for in less than three weeks! Heading down to the Caribbean and out of the minus thirty temps is just what the doctor ordered! A new year, a new life has begun.

In spring, we will be heading off to Arizona for a few weeks, in search of a place to rent for next winter and all winters after. This big move has afforded us for the extended winter stays away, which was the initial plan. Who knows what other great possibilities await me in my new life!

For now, I am still unpacking and stealing more computer time after not being connected for a few days. I know I have missed reading and commenting on so many of your wonderful blogs and hope to catch up in the next few weeks. And oh . . . despite cuts on every one of my knuckles, I managed to not break a single nail!!


►Greek Mythology: “The Sirens, Muses of the Lower World”.- | La Audacia de Aquiles

sue-dreamwalker-drumbeat-award_thumb Today I’d like to thank the lovely Aquileana who writes incredible posts every week with great detail on the topic of Greek mythology. Her in-depth description of mythical characters and how they connect to stories  that are so easily relatable to life as we know it now, is fascinating.

Aquileana has kindly nominated me for a new award that I am thrilled to receive. It is called Hearts As One-Dreamwalker’s Drum Beat Award.

This award was created by Sue Dreamwalker’s Sanctuary; a blog which shares inspiration and kindness. In Sue’s words herself: “This is an award to pass along to bloggers who are sharing posts which are helping show our empathy, Love and Kindness, or who Highlight injustice who beat their own Drum to bring awareness to the world.”

The nominee is to nominate ten bloggers whom they choose to receive this award, display the award logo on their blog, and link back to the blogger who nominated you. Here are my nominees:








Visit Aquileana’s blog below, and read her latest post on La Audacia de Aquiles.

►Greek Mythology: “The Sirens, Muses of the Lower World”.- | La Audacia de Aquiles.