I was invited over to Marcia Meara’s blog to do a guest post today, The Write Stuff. I thought I’d write a post about aging gracefully and how it can sometimes affect the way we feel about ourselves with our changing outward appearance.
I write a lot about self-esteem issues in my books because I grew up suffering from a very low self-esteem and low sense of self-worth. Self-esteem issues begin with the hurts we’ve encountered throughout our lives and manifest as we grow older by the way we feel about ourselves, the way we take care of ourselves, and the way we feel we appear to others. As I grew to understand my feelings of low self-esteem, I chose to learn how to do things that made me feel better about myself, rather than let it take over my life.
In this article, I am writing about the physical aspects of aging. It goes without saying, that there are many other factors involved with the aging process: taking care of our health – body, mind and soul, most importantly. But I chose to write about how the physical part of aging played a part in my life, and share some of my tips on taking care of our skin.
I would also like to say that even though we may strive to be our best ‘me’, if we’ve suffered from low self-esteem issues most of our lives, there is a part of those struggles that many of us still harbor within us no matter how far we overcome our issues. For example: A person who struggled with being overweight all their lives and suddenly loses all the weight, may still tend to look at themselves as ‘fat’ when they look in the mirror. I know I went through that myself when I was younger. The point being, no matter how much we overcome, I know for myself, there is still a little demon of insecurity that keeps residence in a tiny part of my ego. But I sometimes think having a little bit of humility is good to keep us grounded.
Here is the article I wrote for Marcia’s blog:
“An Oxymoron – aging gracefully; pretty words for a difficult time for many who face new dragons at this certain time in life where physical appearance changes, yet some women bow gracefully to the onslaught of face and body alterations.
I admire the attitudes of many women whom just accept the changes, but I am a polar opposite to that kind of acceptance. I will use my last ounce of vanity to seek out the best methods I can find to combat aging. Sure, it’s inevitable; I’m not immortal, but most likely, I’ll leave this world wearing something leopard, a pair of stilettos (if I’m not caught dead at home on my computer wearing slippers), and sporting my signature orange lipstick and flaming red hair. All of these things became a part of me at a younger age, and I’ve maintained them for decades, so why would I cave?
Why should I have to stop striving to be the me that I’m comfortable in just because I’m in my mid fifties? . . .” READ MORE BY CLICKING THE LINK BELOW AND JOIN THE CONVERSATION.
P.S. Marcia is a fascinating woman. She runs her blog www.marciamearawrites.com as a place for writers to help writers. She invites writers to join her blog, feature excerpts from their work, post links, and a place for people to meet and share their thoughts. When you’re done reading this article, please visit Marcia’s WELCOME page and you will learn a lot more of what she does.