#ExcerptWeek – D. G. Kaye @pokecubster | The Write Stuff

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Thanks so much to Marcia Meara, friend and author, for her humor and encouragement through these past few weeks of hurdles I’ve experienced. And for inviting me over to share an excerpt from a chapter of my newest book, P.S. I Forgive You. on her blog – The Write Stuff 

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“Today, I’m very happy to welcome D. G. Kaye to #ExcerptWeek here on The Write Stuff. Deb has been having all kinds of frustrating issues this last week, with both her ability to comment on this and other blogs, and issues getting her latest book formatted and published. I’m happy to say that things are starting to look up, and proud to present this excerpt for your reading pleasure. As always, please remember to share far and wide. And now, the floor is yours, Deb. Take it away!”

P.S. I Forgive You

P.S. I Forgive You is a sequel to Conflicted Hearts, a memoir about my narcissistic mother, and the psychological hold she had on me by instilling guilt and fear when her demands weren’t complied with, and the heartache she bestowed on her loved ones.

This sequel is a stand alone in its own right. It’s a new journey about discovering and overcoming the narcissists inflictions, and ultimately, learning forgiveness, both for myself and my mother. The story is a completion of a life cycle, the cutting of the cord with all its frayed ends.

EXCERPT:                          The End is Near

 

My mother had been dying for years, and through those years she refused to surrender her bitterness and remained in denial of her flaws. The many times I heard she was dying reminded me of the boy who cried wolf. I almost believed she was invincible, and even though I never wanted her to suffer, she did.

I thought it was just a horrible and sad way to die—holding hatred for those she had chased out of her life, living in bitter seclusion, knowing her days were numbered. Her once vibrant life had diminished into . . . Continue Reading 

Source: #ExcerptWeek – D. G. Kaye @pokecubster | The Write Stuff

#Booklaunch – Introducing P.S. I Forgive You – New Book

 

BREAKING NEWS book promotion

Well after much mayhem on all fronts and some unforeseen delays, I am thrilled to announce the publication of my newest book, P.S. I Forgive You. My book is now available in ebook form on Amazon, and the print copies should be following shortly.

 

Writing this book became a true labor of love, and a closure for my angst with resolution of putting things in perspective and coming to terms with my inner conflict and finding forgiveness for both myself and my narcissistic mother. It is a sequel to Conflicted Hearts, but a true standalone book in seeking the path to forgiveness, learning to digest the past and put it in its place where it now belongs . . .in the past.

 

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Blurb:

 

I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

 

Excerpt:

The End is Near

My mother had been dying for years, and through those years she refused to surrender her bitterness and remained in denial of her flaws. The many times I heard she was dying reminded me of the boy who cried wolf. I almost believed she was invincible, and even though I never wanted her to suffer, she did.

I thought it was just a horrible and sad way to die—holding hatred for those she had chased out of her life, living in bitter seclusion, knowing her days were numbered. Her once vibrant life had diminished into a mere existence of watching TV and complaining. She’d also given all her caregivers a difficult time, bitching at them all and letting them know how useless they were to her because of what her life had become. Nobody was exempt.

My book is available NOW on Amazon HERE 

 

 

 

Thank You #Windows10 – Not!

My two cents

Thank you technical gods for the most trying week in my whole cyber life. Besides the numerous delays in my book launch with files flying back and forth all week, and WordPress blocking me all week from commenting on blogs, and then there was the day I was totally unable to get into my website, I’d really like to thank Windows 10 NOT! for sucking the last ounces of nerves and energy from me this weekend.

Thank you Windows 10 for trying to force-feed your incompatible updates on my poor, defenseless Windows 8.1 operating system ever since I fought you tooth and nail and didn’t allow you to install Windows 10 on that computer. You knew they weren’t compatible with my system but kept sending them anyway. I really appreciate the fact that you corrupted my computer and numerous files shoving your Windows 10 updates onto my Windows 8.1 computer, because you can’t be bothered sending updates for appropriate systems, bullying everyone to change over to your terrible new system. Needless to say, I’ve had no security updates for quite some time due to your negligence, resulting in corrupted and infected files infiltrating silently into my cyber home and workplace. Even my MalwareBytes and heavy-duty antivirus army couldn’t fight you off.

 

I also wanted to thank you for falling upon me Friday night and through the weekend, a time where I should have been working. I really enjoyed spending 48 hours searching Google, trying to find ‘Windows’ fixes for broken files, that wouldn’t work. I especially enjoyed the most useless pretend help from your master, Microsoft, who apparently, thinks they can push their way into places they’re not invited.

 

It was very lovely of you to try and push Windows 10 updates into an 8 operating system, so you can ruin computers, so people will have to go buy new ones – with Windows 10 no doubt. Surely that would alleviate any obligation you have to send appropriate updates to servers without Windows 10. By force-feeding Windows 10 down everybody’s throat, you wouldn’t have to come up with updates for every different system, like you used to do before you became the biggest skyjacking greed-monger in the cyber world. And that goes for you also taking over Windows Live Mail and making the most inconvenient email system I’ve ever had to use.

 

I particularly enjoyed spending Sunday from 9:30 am till 5:30 pm with a tech service I found who crawled inside my computer remotely after I exhausted all of your offered lame fixes from the internet. I also enjoyed paying $250 for this service, at this inopportune time when I’m paying editors, formatters and book designers. Oh, and thanks for making me miss out on going to Word On The Street, a Canadian bookfair I was looking forward to going to for months. Perhaps I was lucky my book files weren’t ready to publish yet so you could tear my last nerve having to spend the weekend with you. You made my week complete!

 

WordPress spam issues have nothing on you. You take the cake! But thanks for sharing all these life lessons I learned through all my findings. You made me realize how important it is that the next computer I ever buy will be a Mac.

 

Thank you!

 

 

#BookReview – #Memoir – Finding Hope – Dorothy Sander

book reviews

Today’s review is featuring Dorothy Sander’s book – Finding Hope, a memoir full of insight and inspiration on life and wisdom.

The Blurb:

Mounting life pressures, unexpected change or disappointment can leave us depleted and without hope. In this book the author gives her readers just the lift they need to make it through hard times. Packed with insight and inspiration, this carefully crafted collection of vignettes and quotes by some of the world’s greatest teachers, will help you right your ship and find balance in your life once again.

Finding Hope: Inspiration for the Midlife Journey by [Sander, Dorothy]

Buy this book on Amazon

My Review:  5.0 out of 5 starsLife 101

on June 29, 2015

Format: Kindle Edition

A beautifully written book which stays with us long after it’s been read. Sander inspires us with her wisdoms about aging with grace – the hardships and the beauty. She delves into what many women begin to question about things and feelings that change as we age and how we become from our experiences.

Each chapter is followed by some inspirational quotes that we can go back to whenever we may feel the need for some uplifting.

Visit Dorothy’s author page HERE 

Why I May Have Ended Up In Your #Spam Folder – Hugh’s Views & News

tech talk

Hi peeps, this is a reblog from Hugh Roberts on a serious topic that has been baffling both of us all week. Hugh and I have been conspiring, trying to figure out what’s going on.

Before you get to reading his post on spam, I just want to say what a trying week I’ve been having as though the planets are having a party throwing every wrench into anything possible I’m working on regarding technical issues. I don’t seem to be the only one these things are happening to, including my formatter who was supposed to have my new book files to me earlier this week and hasn’t yet because of her loss of wifi.

 

Besides my book issues, WEIRDPRESS has been wreaking havoc on me. I apparently, have lost the ability to comment on many of your posts. When I comment and hit ‘post’, the comment disappears into thin air without an explanation. I’ve emailed a few of you to ask if they perhaps went to spam, only to find, I’m not even in spam when that happens. But plenty of you have found me in spam, the blogs where I was lucky enough to get my comments through. I’ve also noticed my notifications aren’t all coming through. So if you did receive a comment from me and replied and found no response from me, it’s because Weirdpress didn’t notify me of follow up comments.

 

I have tried a ‘workaround’ method to try and comment on some blogs. Some of them will let me sign in from another social site, such as Facebook. In those instances you will notice  my name is my full name Debby Gies instead of my usual ‘dgkaye’ with my gravatar. Also you won’t be able to hover over the gravatar. This is infuriating and I’ve wasted countless hours and nights this week trying to find resolution to no avail. So all I can ask is that you please check your spam regularly because it seems that there are many of us getting lost there. As for my commenting on your blogs, if you see I’ve ‘liked’ your post then you will at least know I’ve been there. I wish someone would figure out what’s going on. If you have any ideas, please leave them in comments.

 

And now I’ll share with you what Hugh has to say:

 

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Why I May Have Ended Up In Your Spam Folder

 

I’ve been taken hostage by the WordPress spam monster and, since Wednesday, all the comments I’ve been leaving on other blog posts seem to have gone straight into the spam folder.

Please check your spam folder and let me know if you find me in there. If you do, then please mark the comment as not spam. The spam monster will then release me and I’ll appear in the comments section of the post.

I first heard reports the WordPress spam monster had been taking hostages about a month ago. My understanding is that if it happens to you, you need to report it to WordPress. The problem at the moment is that all the WordPress engineers are at some conference and won’t be back until Monday 26th September. Therefore, whilst I will still be visiting and reading your blog posts,  I won’t be leaving any comments until I know the problem has been sorted out. CONTINUE READING

 

Source: Why I May Have Ended Up In Your Spam Folder – Hugh’s Views & News

#7 recycling tips for #bloggers – make the most of your writing | Daily Echo

Blogging basics

Sue Vincent wrote an interesting post on the lifespan of our blog posts. In her article she gives tips on how to recycle older blog posts to give them new visibility.

 

Have a read about what Sue shares below:

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“It is the nature of blogging that there is a fast turn over and short shelf life for posts. I believe the average period of maximum visibility for a post is about four hours… it can take that long to write a good one! The sheer volume of posts and sites soon bury even your best work. On top of that, thanks to the vagaries of WordPress, the number of ways in which your work can be acknowledged without even being read… as well as read without being acknowledged, either by the reader or as a reflection in the stats… means that it is pretty much impossible for the average blogger to know what has been read at all. . .”  Continue Reading 

 

Source: 7 recycling tips for bloggers – make the most of your writing | Daily Echo

Fraudulent #Email #Scams

 Don't be scammed

Now I get it, not everyone is tech savvy, or may not be aware of all the numerous scams out there in cyber world, but unless we’re living in igloos or on top a mountain in nowheresville, there are plenty of warnings on the news and from government agencies and banking institutions, alerting the public to some of the current scams, and offering protocol on what to do if we find ourselves victims of a scam.

 

Two prevalent scams going on here in Canada, and I’d have to guess other places in the world, are the ever-growing bank scams and the Canada Revenue Agency scams, particularly geared toward seniors. So let’s get into these cyber scams a bit more deeply.

 

Banks

 

Some of you may have been on the receiving end of receiving an email, or better, a text message, informing that your account has been compromised, or, your account has been frozen due to some suspicious activity, and many more similar headlines . The headlines are unnerving and send alarm bells to us, propelling us to dive into action to want to protect our assets immediately, and that’s exactly the intentions of these cyber bullies. This frightening feeling these bullies instill in us is what can lead us to do stupid things with our spontaneous nature to react.

 

First of all, NO BANK will ever email or text us asking you to sign into your account directly from an email or a text, asking to click on a provided link. NO BANK will EVER ask us for our password or pin number, or anything else of its ilk. If there is a real problem, the bank will notify by phone call, or letter, or perhaps an email directing us to go to our account and log in to obtain a private message they’ve sent. NEVER sign in to any financial or government accounts through an email or text. ALWAYS log in through direct website of corresponding accounts.

 

Banks make this info forthright in all their correspondence, informing the public that they will never ask of such requests as divulging pin numbers, passwords, etc. This is not only for our protection but for the bank’s as well, as in many incidents they become responsible for losses which they have to absorb themselves.

 

IT HAPPENED TO ME TOO. The first time I got one of those texts, supposedly from my bank, it was frightening. I didn’t attempt to open the text. I first thought it odd that the bank was texting me, considering they never even had my cell number. And to validate my suspicion, I called my bank and sure enough they verified the scam. People need to stop and evaluate before hastily complying with these fraudulent crimes.

 

Canada Revenue Agency

 

There has been a huge scam running for a few years now that is so widespread the RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police) have gotten involved to find these cyber criminals trying to rob seniors of their life savings and pension cheques, read about it here. They will send emails again, with links to verify personal information, requesting government issued identification to access links. They will also send emails stating that there is a ‘bonus’ cheque waiting to be obtained after tax calculations have been made and found that they are owing excess funds that weren’t paid. There are all sorts of variations of attention grabbing headlines in their messages to pique interest. And as we all know, money talks, and hearing that we’re receiving some is alluring.

 

Seniors are often most vulnerable and cyber criminals know this. The Canadian government is working very diligently to find these cyber criminals, and requests that anyone receiving these unlawful emails and requests, to please report them to CRA where they can use these notifications for more information to find these bullies and arrest them. Here’s a notice from CRA:

 

Fraud, Phishing Scams and Canada Revenue Agency…

 

The Canada Revenue Agency (CRA) is warning Canadians to be careful of emails, voice mails, even mail claiming to be from the CRA. These are phishing scams that could result in identity thefts. Email scams may also contain embedded malware, or malicious software, that can harm your computer and put your personal information at risk of compromise. The CRA does not email Canadians and request personal information. Here is a most recent article from CRA:

 

June 21, 2016

The following email scam is hitting Inboxes now. This scam is a twist on the agressive Canada Revenue Agency (CRA) Tax Owing scam that have been targeting Canadians.

 

The scam email looks very realistic. It is unclear if this email scams is designed to collect personal banking information or to install viruses on your computer. Regardless, immediately delete any such email you receive from your Inbox and Trash.

 

The email scam claims that CRA has an e-transfer tax return to send to you and looks like this:  READ MORE 

 

Read another full article below on phishing scams posted by CRA:

 

http://www.m2financial.ca/news-and-articles/fraud,-phishing-scams-and-canada- revenue-agency/

 

 Here are just a few links listing some of the many scams currently circulating:

 

http://ottawa.ctvnews.ca/tax-season-brings-more-calls-on-cra-tax-scam-1.2804420 

http://www.rbc.com/privacysecurity/ca/schemes-and-scams.html

https://www.wellsfargo.com/privacy-security/fraud/bank-scams/

http://www.livescience.com/10041-7-greatest-scams.html

CRA income tax phishing scam still going strong, police warn

 

What Can We Do?

  • Be diligent and suspicious when receiving any correspondence informing or requesting to check our accounts
  • Don’t be ‘trigger happy’ and automatically follow links
  • Do some research. Google search scams related to the issue in question
  • Call your local branch or financial institution to question the authenticity of the request

By researching suspicious requests you are not only helping yourself, but others by informing the institutions of such scams so they can put out more alerts.

Help fight cyber crime and save yourself the grief in the process.

 

Below, find a great list of scams published by Cristina Chipurici, content marketer for Heimdal security blog:

 

Top Online Scams Used by Cyber Criminals

 

“Cyber criminals affected the online businesses and individuals since the internet networks first appeared and spread all over the world.

Internet services and websites make it easy for us to pay bills, shop, make online reservations and even work. And you can do any of these actions from any place in the world. Old boundaries and human limitations were dropped, in order for us to have access to almost any information. Our lives became so much easier.

But the same thing is true for CRIME.

Our freedom to navigate and access a wide number of online locations represents in the same time a main vulnerability, because an open door always allows access in both directions.

Criminal minds can reach these days further than before, into our private lives, our homes and work offices. And there is little we can do about it. . .”  CONTINUE READING 

 

Source:  https://heimdalsecurity.com/blog/top-online-scams/

 

**Note**- I sure wouldn’t like to hear that any of you have been lured into any of these scams. And on a completely different note I’m wondering if I may ask you all to keep check on your spam once in awhile. It’s come to my attention from a few of you this week that your not receiving my comments and I’ve been told that some of you are finding them in spam on your blogs. On the same token, I spend at least 2 hours every night reading blogs and leaving comments and I know how many responses I usually get from my comments and have noticed very few replies from blogs I’ve visited these past few days, so I know something strange is going on again with ‘Weirdpress’. To prove my theory, I’ve revisited a few blogs I know I’ve left comment on to check if my comments were visible, and they weren’t. So please try and keep on eye on your spam every few days. If this is happening with my comments, I suspect it’s happening with other’s too. 

Thank You. 🙂

#Free Book #Kindle Promo – Conflicted Hearts

news alert

In honour of my upcoming new release, P.S. I Forgive You, I am putting Conflicted Hearts on FREE PROMO all this week starting today Monday September 19 through the 23rd.

 

My new book was originally intended as a sequel to Conflicted Hearts, but it is also a standalone because of the content – learning forgiveness for myself as a daughter of a narcissistic mother, for my decision to remain estranged from her as her death was approaching. And also forgiveness for my mother’s sins.

 

For those of you who would like to get a copy of Conflicted Hearts before my new book comes out in the next few days, I am giving everyone a chance to grab a free copy of the first book.

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Blurb:

 

A lifetime of guilt — What does it take to finally break free?

‘Somehow I believed it was my obligation to try to do the right thing by her because she had given birth to me. 

Burdened with constant worry for her father and the guilt caused by her mother’s narcissism, D.G. Kaye had a short childhood. When she moved away from home at age eighteen, she began to grow into herself, overcoming her lack of guidance and her insecurities. Her life experiences became her teachers, and she learned from the mistakes and choices she made along the way, plagued by the guilt she carried for her mother.
 Conflicted Hearts is a heartfelt journey of self-discovery and acceptance, an exploration of the quest for solace from emotional guilt.

Get this book FREE HERE   

 

Here are a few reviews:

 

5 Stars Engaging, Emotional Read

on September 10, 2016

Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase

 

This book is part women’s fiction, part memoir. It chronicles the highlights (and lowlights) of a daughter’s life as she moves from co-dependence to freedom; from duty and obligation to choice; from emotional insecurity to a healthy emotional base; from fractured to wholeness.

If you think back to a sporting event you’ve attended, you may recall sitting on the sidelines cheering, booing, shaking a fist or clapping. If you’re in touch with that experience, then you’ll understand when I say that Conflicted Hearts is that type of read.

You’ll become a fan of Kaye, while sitting on the sidelines, reading her life story. You’ll cheer for her when she makes “good” decisions and boo when she makes “bad” ones. You’ll clap for her when she learns a tough lesson and frown when she cycles through the same issue. You will sigh, displeased when she reaches for familiar, but harmful behavior and rejoice when she demands to be treated as worthy.

One can’t help but become a fan of Kaye because she allows us full access to her experiences, her mind and her emotions. She withholds nothing, which was not only brave of her but also wise. It is her honesty, wisdom and courage that drew me in from page one and kept me invested until the end.

I found this a highly enjoyable read, very insightful, touching and well written with a satisfying ending. I don’t need any other reasons to recommend this book but I will say that I admire the cover. It artistically depicts the content and title. Truly a work of art from cover to cover and in between.

 

5 Stars A Journey of Personal Growth

on September 4, 2016

D. G. Kaye writes a compelling narrative about her narcissistic mother who whirled through Kaye’s childhood life like a tornado, prone to rages, self-absorbed, and unreliable as a parent. Her father was in and out of the household, his relationship with his wife volatile, and Kaye remembers dreading his next departure and worrying that he might not return at the end of each day.

It wasn’t until she turned 18 and left home that she was able to begin looking back at her life, evaluating the dynamics of her relationship with her mother, and making choices for her own well-being.

Conflicted Hearts doesn’t read as a story as much as it does a reflection on Kaye’s life and emotional growth. For those who grew up in emotionally chaotic households, the dynamics of blame and guilt will sound familiar. The constant worry, the burden of responsibility for siblings, and the desperate need to keep the peace will ring bells.

Kaye’s writing is candid with bits of humor and some light moments of joy in her journey of growth. The message of the book speaks to the strength of a positive attitude and outlook, and the role of forgiveness in moving forward.

If you love memoirs and reflections on personal growth, this book will hit the mark.

 

5 Stars Read this and then give it to a troubled teen–it’s not their fault

VINE VOICEon July 10, 2016

 

The preview for the book reads: A lifetime of guilt — What does it take to finally break free?And that’s exactly what this story is. A young woman’s guilt over parents who couldn’t love her, a childhood that included none of the nurturing events so critical to children, and mistakes made by the child–because she was a child–which she believed caused her parents to be distant and uncaring. Add to this horrible mix heartbreak, abuse, an incurable immune-deficiency disease, and almost losing the love of her life.– thank God children are resilient. You will want to hug this child and tell her it’s just not her fault.

Told with DG Kaye’s typical honesty and openness, and a writing style that draws readers right into the emotion. Plan to give this book to anyone suffering from childhood issues that simply aren’t their fault and they can’t fix.

 

Conflicted Hearts on Free Promo Amazon – Grab your copy here and prepare for book II