Sue Vincent has started a Go Fund Me campaign for her son Nick Verron to raise funds for a new trike/wheelchair so he can live his dream of travelling the world. Please read her heartfelt post and help share this post around and donate if you can. Thank you.
What would you give to make a dream come true if you woke to find yourself living a nightmare?
What would you feel if you could never again walk on a beach? Or go out alone in the snow…feel the stillness of a wood or cross a field?
And then, you found a way…
In 2009, my son was a successful young man with a bright future… until he was stabbed through the brain in an unprovoked attack and left for dead in an alley.
He was found almost immediately by passers-by who saved his life. By the time we arrived at the hospital, Nick was being prepared for emergency brain surgery. We were allowed to see him, for a few minutes, to say goodbye. He was not expected to survive.
Over the past couple of years, many in the blogging community have come to know my son and know that survive he did, defying all the odds and going on to achieve wonderful things in spite of the physical challenges with which he lives. Continue Reading
As writers we strive to get our words and the emotions we wish to convey just right in order to engage readers. In writing memoir, we write in fact, not fiction, and it takes a delicate balance to portray our story in a light that readers can gather the sense of story without being swayed to like or dislike the people in the stories, but rather, to be able to form their own opinions and make an emotional connection.
I was thrilled to receive the first 3 reviews on my new book, P.S. I Forgive You, and feel rewarded that my story has touched readers. Two I’ve copied from Amazon and one, I was pleasantly surprised when I went to visit the blog of friend and author Carol Balawyder and found she had blogged this review:
“Like all of D.G. Kaye’s books, I was eager to read her latest – a follow up to Conflicted Heart. P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy is Kaye’s most heart wrenching and intense book to date. Not surprising, considering the subject of this memoir. It is D.G. Kaye’s and her siblings’ attempt of freeing themselves from the clutches of emotional neglect.
P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy is a testimony to the painful effects of her mother’s gambling addiction on her and her siblings. Anyone who has lived with an addict knows how destructive it can be, how much it creates guilt, resentment and a feeling of low self esteem.
P.S. I Forgive You is heartbreaking to read but D.G. Kaye’s strength and ability to offer an honest examination of her experience is an inspiration to anyone who has found themselves with the difficult decision of turning away from a toxic relationship. Most importantly, in Kaye’s difficult journey to self love and acceptance she offers hope in her struggle to love a mother who was not able to provide the same for her children.
A tender, well written book.”
5 StarsThe power of forgiveness
on September 30, 2016
Format: Kindle Edition
“I purchased this book expecting a sequel to D. G Kaye’s Conflicted Hearts which I loved but P.S I Forgive You is a different book. You get the sense that this book is written by an author who has grown, both in her writing and the feelings she has shared with her readers.
When I finished reading P.S I Love you, I knew that I had enjoyed the book immensely but at the same time I felt bereft; very similar to what I had experienced when I had lost my own parents. Just a sad feeling. At first the feeling confused me and then I realized that Kaye’s writing was so genuine, so acute and so heartfelt that she had made me feel the confusion, the grief, the process and most importantly the peace, right a long with her! She writes straight up, with no pretensions and it is intensely personal so you want to stay with her until the very end.
Her childhood was was one that nobody would choose but at the same time there is no self pity in her words. Her story weaves you through the process of grieving for a mother that never allowed her to be a child and the absolute importance of forgiveness, both for her and her mother.
P.S I Forgive You is a daughter’s trials, tribulations, family coming together and the grief of forever partings but most of all it is about being ok with yourself and the power of peace that comes with the long road to forgiveness. I loved it!”
P.S. I Forgive You is Available on Amazon, in ebook and now paper!
Welcome to Sunday Book Review. Today I’m sharing my review about Jo Robinson’s intense story read about Hannah in her book, Fly Birdie. Jo is a wonderful writer and storyteller. She also provides Indie Author Services with excellent work and reasonable prices. She formatted my recent book so I’m vouching from experience.
Hannah’s life has given her no reason to be anything but bitter and afraid. She tries to hold on to her sanity as her life spirals further into superstition and dread, until a small averted tragedy leads to the melting of her heart, and teaches her how to love.
Left me wanting more 5 Stars
This book encompasses many emotions in a short book. The reader can’t help but feel Hannah’s fear and lack of self-esteem, which is depicted beautifully by the author. I found myself cheering for Hannah as she learned to pull herself out of her own dark world.
Visit Jo’s author page on Amazon to find more of her amazing books.
I’m thrilled to have today’s guest, Nicholas Rossis with us. Nicholas is an author, blogger and informer of all things Indie. He is the author of several books now, and has become a multi-genre author. Besides Perseus, his epic fantasy series, Nicholas writes children’s books, short story novels on speculative science fiction, and recently delved into writing helpful tips for writers with his new book Emotional Beats.
Today we’re going to get to know Nicholas a little better, and he’ll be sharing an excerpt of Emotional Beats.
Because of the way our brains are wired, readers empathize more strongly if you don’t name the emotion you are trying to describe. As soon as you name an emotion, readers go into thinking mode. And when they think about an emotion, they distance themselves from feeling it.
A great way to show anger, fear, indifference, and the whole range of emotions that characterize the human experience, is through beats. These action snippets that pepper dialogue can help describe a wide range of emotions, while avoiding lazy writing. The power of beats lies in their innate ability to create richer, more immediate, deeper writing.
This book includes hundreds of examples that you can use for your inspiration, so that you, too, can harness this technique to easily convert your writing into palpable feelings.
Get your copy of Emotional Beats Here
Welcome Nicholas! Thank you for taking some time out from your busy life to visit with us here today to share some of your nuggets of wisdom. Let’s get started!
You’re an author, blogger, father, and web designer; how do you manage to write so many books? Do you have a set time for your writing or do you squeeze it in?
I wish! No, I just squeeze it into any available moment. Thankfully, Electra, my wife, picks up any slack, or I wouldn’t be able to do anything at all. It’s like they say, behind every great man… or not so great, in this case.
Was there something in particular that steered you toward writing epic fantasy?
I’m only (half-) kidding, of course. Fantasy requires less research than historical romance, for example. Plus, it has epic battles and all kinds of things that excite the boy within me. For someone with as little free time as me, not needing to spend months on research is a great idea. Besides, it allows me to focus on what I enjoy most; character development and the story.
What sealed the deal, though, was the fact that fantasy, like science fiction and children’s stories, free my imagination in ways that other genres fail to.
When did you know you wanted to be a writer?
Ever since I remember myself, I have enjoyed writing. At school, many of my classmates dreaded essay-writing, whereas my essays were usually read in class (right after I polished the teacher’s apple).
In 2009, I felt ready for a career change and decided to try my hand at professional writing. A Greek newspaper had a segment called 9, which included a short science fiction story each week. I submitted my story, not expecting much.
They published it, and sent me a cheque for 150 euros. I was ecstatic. Sadly, by the time I had written and submitted another couple of stories, the newspaper had run into financial trouble and discontinued that segment. So, I sent one of the stories to a short-story competition, and, to my great surprise, it won. The story was published in an anthology called Invasion.
Can you share some advice here for new writers?
Just do it! Too many people are afraid of making a mistake, or of what others will think. Believe me, I understand those concerns—I once compared publishing your work with running naked through the town square. And yet, it’s one of the most satisfying things I’ve done in my life. Just make sure you use a professional editor that you work well with, and whose advice you’re willing to take.
That, and don’t forget to have fun. If you do it for the money, you probably haven’t done your research. Being an author is a lot of hard work, and the reason everyone knows J.K. Rowling is that she’s an exception; not the rule. You have to love writing, as pretty much anything else pays better for less work.
You became a first time father last year, congratulations! Has becoming a dad inspired new ideas for your writing?
Thank you! Being a dad has deepened my understanding of certain situations. For example, two of my heroes on Pearseus become parents. I had written their scenes before becoming a father myself, and I had to imagine what that would feel like. At the time, I thought I was overstressing how much they’d worry about their daughter. Now, I know I haven’t stressed it nearly enough.
What’s your opinion regarding whether or not to keep your books in KDP select or to diversify?
I mentioned laziness (or, if you prefer, lack of free time) earlier, and it comes to play here as well, especially as I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I’ve chosen to keep my books on Select because it’s the fastest way to organize everything, from publishing a new book to updating old ones to running a marketing campaign. I have now published over 10 books, and pretty much do everything myself, which already takes up an enormous amount of time. That has real impact on my writing career; for example, I organize far fewer marketing campaigns than I’d like. Were I to publish on different outlets as well, the amount of work necessary would multiply to the point where I wouldn’t be able to keep up.
I think it’s important that you know and respect your limits, and Select helps with that.
Please tell us a little about how you came to write Emotional Beats, which is a whole new genre from your other books. And would you please share an excerpt with us.
Emotional Beats was born out of necessity. My first drafts are full of telling and dialogue, with nothing in between but nods, shrugs, and frowns. Which makes for rather terrible writing.
That’s because I only care about telling the story. Turning it into an engaging read is left for the second draft. And that’s where beats come in.
When I first started writing, I struggled to imagine the right beat for every situation. So, whenever I came up with a great one, I wrote it down for future reference. I did the same when I read a beautiful beat by another author, and went, “what a great way to show X emotion.”
It wasn’t long before I started jotting down beats and ideas onto a helpful document, imaginatively enough titled “help.doc.”
Emotional Beats contains some of the best beats I have found or written. The idea is for writers to use these as inspiration when in search of the perfect dialogue beat. They can use them as a way to avoid talking heads; to color their writing; or as a shortcut to start polishing that terrible first draft. By building their own beats around these, I hope they find them as useful as I do.
As for an excerpt, I have decided to share with my blog readers the book’s contents for free (with the exception of the last part for copyright reasons), so I am posting one chapter each week. If you don’t want to wait, need it right away or simply want to show your love, you can buy it on Amazon. Personally, I’ve already ordered my paper copy, as this will allow me to flick through it whenever I need some inspiration. Besides, I’ve enrolled it on Kindle MatchBook, which means that buyers of the print edition also get the digital one for free. Even better, I’ve made it available on Kindle Unlimited so that anyone with a Prime subscription can also read it for free.
The first parts that have already been published refer to anger and desire:
Emotional Beats: Ways to Portray Anger (http://nicholasrossis.me/2016/09/25/emotional-beats-anger/ )
Emotional Beats: Ways to Portray Desire (http://nicholasrossis.me/2016/10/01/emotional-beats-ways-to-portray-desire/)
Do you think you’ll be writing more books on the craft of writing to add to the Emotional Beats book as a series?
Oh, absolutely! I have subtitled Emotional Beats, Author Tools Book 1, and that’s because I envision a few more non-fiction books on the subject. Although I’d like to focus on book marketing first, as I freak out when I hear the amounts of money fledgling authors throw away to promote their work. Now, I only have to find the time to write it!
Thank you Nicholas for visiting with us here today and sharing some of your insights and your new book with us. You are great sharer with the Indie community and I for one, appreciate how much research you do to find helpful articles, apps and information on best methods to help market our books. It was a pleasure having you here today.
Thank you so much, Debby! You, too, are a tireless supporter of Indies, and it’s wonderful to be here.
Nicholas is all around the Internet, but the best place to find him would be his blog,http://nicholasrossis.me/ .
Anyone interested in his books can check them out on Amazon:
Also, people can read Pearseus: Rise of the Prince, the first Pearseus book, for free on:
Other places to connect with him include:
Twitter – www.twitter.com/Nicholas_Rossis
Google+ – https://plus.google.com/+NicholasRossis and
And visit his Amazon Author Page to view all of his books.
Tina Frisco has written a beautiful article on the differences between being empathetic and sympathetic. Empaths are also often referred to as HSPs (highly sensitive people) and being that I am one, I found this article of great interest and thought some of you may find it equally interesting.
The Many Faces of Empathy
“For the past three days I’ve wanted to review my copy editor’s suggestions and revise my novel, but something has been getting in the way. It took me a while to identify what that was. Then this morning I received a call from a friend, and the core of our conversation lead me to realize that I not only was empathizing with her, but also that I unconsciously had taken on her emotional distress prior to her telling me about it. So what is the difference between being empathic and being an empath?
The Oxford Dictionaries define empathy as “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” Merriam-Webster defines empathy as ” the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another . . . without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.” In other words, empathy is the capacity to feel what another person is experiencing from their vantage point rather than exclusively from our own.
Empathy is sometimes confused with sympathy. Unlike sympathy, which is the ability to acknowledge another’s emotional state and then offer reassurance and comfort, empathy derives from having had the same/similar experience or the capacity to put oneself in another’s shoes.
It’s interesting to note here that . . .” Continue Reading
I follow many blogs and in doing so, besides enjoying so many, I sometimes come across some special nuggets of great information. Today I’m going to share an interesting nugget with you.
My friend and social media expert, Janice Wald from Mostlyblogging.com offers up a wealth of information on her blog about everything from blogging tips to interesting social media and SEO tips about gaining exposure for our blogs and brand.
Recently, Janice posted an informative article about Niume. This is a site offering writers to post content, or perhaps post content from blogs already written, to gain new readership and possibly earn some money doing so. Money you’re thinking? Yes, and here is how it works:
The lingo is a tad different there, whereby instead of ‘likes’ on a post, they call them ‘hype’. Niume pays you for views of your post if you link up your Paypal email address to your account. It also pays you $1.00 for signing up from an invitation to join from someone else, and subsequently, once you join and share your ‘referral link’ from your dashboard, anyone else signing up with your link will earn $1.00 as well as you each time someone new joins with your referral. How cool is that?
Okay, so now that I may have piqued your interest, I’m going to share my link here in case any of you may be curious to join. Why not make it worth your while in dollars?
Here’s my link: https://niume.com/?ambassadorID=66466 Clicking on the link will take you to the Niume site.
- Once you join you can choose the ‘spheres’ (categories you want to blog under) and when you find an article you enjoy and wish to subscribe to that author, you just hit ‘subscribe’ at the end of their post. And remember, if you enjoyed the article, hit ‘hype’ to show you’ve enjoyed.
- There are also lots of share buttons to share your posts around, and Niume helps to share your posts in their feed.
- *Note: From what I’ve learned from Janice, Google search engines don’t appreciate us ‘double blogging a post’ and if their robots find duplicate posts in search engines they may frown upon it and stop pulling up your work. But, according to Janice’s research, you can post content from your website already posted as long as you change the Heading of the post, you’ll be okay with the search engines.
- *One other caveat: Writing or copying and pasting over a post to Niume and writing ‘continue reading’ to get people over to your blog isn’t allowed. It’s called ‘click baiting’ so remember that whatever you choose to post should be a full article. There are plenty of places to add your websites at the end of an article and in your bio. And beware that this site doesn’t condone promoting your wares and books. Our links to our website is permissible.
If you’d like more details about Niume, you can visit Janice’s post Here
Please Visit Niume Here through my link. And be sure to let me know what you think about it, and if you’ve joined so I can ‘subscribe’ to you too!
Once again I’d like to share an interview I recently did with Karen Ingalls of Mind, Pen, And Spirit. Karen had read my book, Words We Carry, and invited me over to her blog to talk about some issues many of us encounter in our lives. She was interested in my views on self-esteem, bullying with words, and tools I used to overcome my own experiences. Have a read below, then please follow the link to continue reading at Karen’s blog.
Bullying is a prominent problem in our society. Do you have suggestions on how this can be best addressed?
“I wish I had the answer to that Karen. When we hear the term bullying, it conjures up visions of children being picked on in schoolyards, but the term unfortunately, applies to many situations. Bullying is rampant in our own homes too, taking on many forms, particularly, emotional verbal bullying, not only physically.
I believe it’s up to us as good citizens to advocate for kindness. I know I do. It doesn’t cost anything to be nice to someone. Nobody wants to have their flaws made fun of and nobody is perfect either. If we’d all just have some empathy and step into the shoes of others, we’d learn how terrible it feels to be bullied. It is often those with no regard for other’s feelings, who have a need to feel superior to others by belittling them. These people need to become aware of their wrongdoings, and I think the least we can all do is advocate by spreading positive messages in our dialogues and writing. If people hear things long enough, they’re likely to consider their actions. . “.Continue Reading
Sunday book review featuring Runaway Smile by author, Nicholas Rossis. Nicholas is a versatile writer who writes children’s books, epic fantasies, science fiction short stories, and his newest book, Emotional Beats is a writer’s guide to using expressions and dialogue tags in our writing.
Winner of the Gelett Burgess Children’s Book Award, in the Young Adult Fiction category. Award-Winning Finalist in the “Children’s Fiction” category of the 2015
International Book Awards, Award-Winning Finalist in the 2015 Independent Author Network Book of the Year Awards.
“I woke up this morning and I had lost my smile and it wasn’t my fault and I looked everywhere and it was gone. Then I met a workman and a king and the best salesman in the world and a clown and no-one wanted to give me theirs. At school, I asked Miss to give me hers, but she gave us a pop quiz instead, and then no-one was smiling and…”
A little boy’s smile runs away until it owner learns that an unshared smile is a wasted smile.
My 5 Star Review – Where do smiles come from?
This is a heartwarming little story accompanied by fun pictures to go along with the stories. A tale of a child searching for his smile and the people he encounters throughout his day whom he questions, asking where he can get his smile back. No doubt, there’s a heartfelt message that comes from his mom, where he learns the true meaning of a smile and where it really comes from. A great children’s book, as well, a great parental read.