Rejection: the Ultimate Teacher – Guest Post by author Tina Frisco… | Chris The Story Reading Ape’s Blog

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Friend and author Tina Frisco has written a beautiful piece for The Story Reading Ape’s blog about how we deal with rejection. In her article she explains how we perceive rejection and how to analyze our emotions in order to look at rejection taking into consideration the source and how to overcome the negative feelings we absorb from rejection.

 

Rejection comes in many forms, from many places, and is very painful. What makes rejection so devastating? What causes us to react in a particular way? How can we use rejection to our advantage?

On a purely instinctual level, rejection threatens to extinguish our life force by depriving us of vital nourishment. No being can truly thrive without some measure of love and acceptance.

Rejection devastates when we attach our personal worth to someone or something outside of ourselves. Feeling worthy only when liked and accepted by those with whom we engage sets the stage for rejection.

When feeling disliked or ignored by another, it’s wise to step back and view that person’s behavior as a mirror our own subconscious. Often the things we don’t like in ourselves are reflected back to us by others, giving us an opportunity to examine what prompts us to react and how we might change. This not only buffers the impact, but also opens the door to personal growth. Becoming the witness rather than the recipient allows us to determine if our behavior rather than our essence is being rejected, or if the other person’s bias in play, and/or if we’re simply misreading all the cues. Continue Reading

Source: Rejection: the Ultimate Teacher – Guest Post by author Tina Frisco… | Chris The Story Reading Ape’s Blog

22 thoughts on “Rejection: the Ultimate Teacher – Guest Post by author Tina Frisco… | Chris The Story Reading Ape’s Blog

  1. Hi Debby, before hopping over to read the full post, I must share my view on rejection. Having experienced this emotion very early in childhood, when I didn’t even know this word, having wept silently and openly about being rejected to be worthy of anything, being told that I was good for nothing and that all the answers I had written in my exam could be wrong, getting slaps in anticipation for those wrong answers by the biggest bully, my own bro…I emerged a much stronger and resilient person with the supreme lessons nobody could have learnt so early!

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    1. Balroop, thank you for sharing your heart here. I’m truly sorry to hear about the emotional abuse you suffered, because it was emotional abuse. It seems there are many of us who have come from rough seas from our beginnings, and it’s so empowering when we survive the struggle and come out the stronger instead of living a tiny existence where it’s so easy for us to do after being belittled. Obviously you were gifted with a beautiful mind, and that is quite evident in your writing. ❤

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    2. Oh Balroop, my heart ached when I read your comment. No child should suffer such abuse. Stamina and sheer will pulled you through. How well I remember my own plight. But we survived and, as you say, are the stronger for it. I appreciate that you shared this and feel you are a sister in heart. Thank you, my friend ?

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    1. Tina, it’s my pleasure to share your compassionate wisdom. You have such a gift with words and analysis of the human condition when it comes to the mind and the heart. I’m honored to share here. ❤

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    1. My pleasure Terri. I know it’s hard to keep up. That’s the great thing about sharing blogs and sharing on social media, we’re bound to pick up something we’ve missed. 🙂

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      1. Aaaargh Deb…look how long it’s taken me to respond to you! 😦 Last week was a kicker, I barely managed to get on blog or social media…and I so much want to catch up with you before you leave for Arizona…any time now I’m thinking? Will head over to your latest posts… and Tina’s… ❤ xoxoxo

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      2. You crack me up Sher. NO worries, I’m still here and off to Florida tomorrow then a cruise. I’ll be back late February before heading to Arizona. Busy as heck! Lol, I’ll visit you on FB ❤ xoxo

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      3. Thanks Deb…you know me, lol!!! Look forward to your FB visits…meanwhile, think of me while you lap up that glorious Caribbean sunshine 😀 😉 ❤ xoxo

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      1. Working my way there Tina…last week was a kicker…hope to get back on some kind of track this week. Be there soon my friend! 🙂 ❤

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      2. You’re not alone, Sher. I was knocked for a loop by a pretty bad cold and haven’t been online all week. Don’t even know how long I’ll last today. So no worries. We do what we can when we can. Love and hugs, dear friend ❤

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      3. Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about your rotten cold Tina, hope you’re feeling better now. Much love and hugs back to you dear friend… and a steaming hot mug of honey and lemon 🙂 ❤

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