It’s #ExcerptWeek again over at author/blogger Marcia Meara’s blog – The Write Stuff.
Marcia is a generous supporter of the work of other writers and authors, willing to share her blog as a platform for us to share our work. Once or twice a year she invites authors to submit an excerpt from their books for promotion on her blog and I’ve offered an excerpt from my book, Words We Carry.
#ExcerptWeek – Words We Carry by D. G. Kaye
Thanks for your generous invitation to share an excerpt of our books here on your blog Marcia. This excerpt is from my nonfiction-self-help book, Words We Carry – Essays of Obsession and Self-Esteem.
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Book Blurb
“I have been a great critic of myself for most of my life, and I was darned good at it, deflating my own ego without the help of anyone else.”
What do our shopping habits, high-heeled shoes, and big hair have to do with how we perceive ourselves? Do the slights we endured when we were young affect how we choose our relationships now?
D.G. takes us on a journey, unlocking the hurts of the past by identifying situations that hindered her own self-esteem. Her anecdotes and confessions demonstrate how the hurtful events in our lives linger and set the tone for how we value our own self-worth.
Words We Carry is a raw, personal accounting of how the author overcame the demons of low self-esteem with the determination to learn to love herself.
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Words We Cary –
NEGATIVITY AND JEALOUSY
It’s a fact that negativity underlies our fears, and our guilt can play a big part in lowering our self-esteem. All of these traits connect with our levels of confidence, our strength of character, and our wellbeing. When we’re constantly berated and not placing ourselves in positive circumstances, our energies are drained, which can hinder our ability to maintain a positive outlook on life.
Our fears can cripple us, holding us back from living our lives to the fullest. If we can take a moment to assess the things in our lives that aren’t fulfilling us, and acknowledge what we feel is holding us back from what we wish to attain, we can begin to do some damage control. But if we choose to live our lives in the same unhappy patterns we’ve grown accustomed to without bothering to figure out the root cause of our problems, those problems become nearly impossible to overcome.
Sometimes facing our demons is hard, but that’s the only way we can grow and become stronger. If we choose to remain complacent in our unhappiness, we become trapped there, and many people’s lives remain stagnant because they fail to recognize why they’re unsatisfied. It’s all about taking the time to stop and listen, paying attention to the things that bother us instead of surrendering to them. If we can learn to take charge of ourselves and dig deep within to confront our fears and the injustices we face, we’ve made a great start, and we can then begin taking action to resolve our issues. We have to make a positive out of the negatives in order to become happy and emit our positivity, attracting similarly positive people into our lives. Continue reading . . .
Source: #ExcerptWeek – Words We Carry by D. G. Kaye | The Write Stuff
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I think dear Debby you have the T shirt to understanding of those emotions my friend.. And I so agree with you upon the words we carry.. learning to pack them away and leave it in lost luggage.. 🙂 Wonderful review dear Debby of your book and well deserving my friend..
Your WORDS are filled with Wisdom my friend..
Love and Blessings
Sue xxx ❤
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Thank you so much Sue. That means a lot coming from you. ❤ Big hugs my friend! xo
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Mega Hugs back ❤
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Always welcome ❤ ❤
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A moving and powerful excerpt, Deb. We dread facing our fears, yet it must be done in order to move forward. Marcia is so generous with her time and blog ♥♥
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Thanks so much Tina. You are so right we must face them to move on. ❤ xo
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Wise words in that excerpt, Debby. When you’re in the thick of it, it’s hard to see the value in facing our challenges head one, but in hindsight, the growth makes new joys possible. Wonderful post.
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Thanks Diana. And so true, everything becomes so much clearer once we step aside and peek in. 🙂 ❤
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When I read your excerpt post over at Marcia’s blog the other day it was so empowering and made me appreciate you even more, Debby ❤ Wishing you a wonderful weekend ahead!
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You are so uplifting my beautiful friend I could just hug you! ❤ ❤
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❤ ❤
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Hi Debby, I just left a comment over at Maria’s blog, but I just wanted to add isn’t it amazing how good we are at being negative about ourselves? I can’t even accept a compliment ffs, and even though I’m a size 12 I always see a hugely fat person when I look in the mirror. I don’t know how we break those cycles. Thanks for sharing your lovely writing and wise words with us. Xxx
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Thank you so much Ali, for visiting and sharing of yourself. Unfortunately, many of us are our own worst critics. I don’t know that there are any instructions on breaking the cycles, but there is much to learn from others who walk and have walked the same path. ❤
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Yes, I think you’re right. ?
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🙂 xx
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How kind of Marcia to open her blog to others, and good for you, Debby, for highlighting Words We Carry. I enjoyed your essays in the book and feel it belongs on every woman’s bookcase. Keep writing and sharing; healing the emotions of the world, one book at a time.
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Thank you so much Ann for your inspirational comment. ❤
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It’s nice to have a, exclusive look inside “Words We Carry”, wise words we – unfortunately – all can relate to to some extend. Each time I hear or see my parents interact, it is an example of how people get used to the unhealthy cycle they have created and constantly find themselves in. Realizing and recognizing the issues – I have learned from experience – is the first step to self-improvement!
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Well it seems there are many of us from the same beginnings my friend. I hope my words can help other’s realize that this isn’t acceptable behavior to continue a path on. 🙂
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