Twenty Years by D.G. Kaye

Introducing #Booklaunch – Twenty Years: After “I Do” Just Published!!!

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Introducing Twenty Years: After “I Do”

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Hello people! I’m being a little forward here today by taking up my own space but today I’m thrilled to announce, after this long and laborious past year, I’ve JUST PUBLISHED my newest labor of love, Twenty Years: After “I Do”, and want to share my news here with all of you.

 

Twenty Years by D.G. Kaye

 This book is live now on Amazon! Get it HERE

 

Blurb:

May/December memoirs.

In this personal accounting, D.G. Kaye shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of aging. Kaye reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break. Kaye’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honor their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage.

Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

 

I was thrilled to have Doris Heilmann of 111 Publishing and Savvybookwriters.com, author and publisher, as one of my beta readers who kindly endorsed my book too!

 

“Twenty Years: After “I Do” shows not only newly married couples but also those in the middle of their lives how to navigate companionship challenges and show love and kindness to their partners, handling life together gracefully and in harmony.

Multibook self-help author D.G. Kaye demonstrates, using examples from her own marriage, how to really commit to a relationship—till death do us part.” – Doris-Maria Heilmann, 111 Publishing

 

As always, I’d love to thank my editor, Talia Leduc for her excellent and efficient services, and my cover artist, Yvonne Less, for her impeccable artwork for book covers, and for always getting me, by bringing my ideas to life. And another special thanks to David Cronin of Moyhill Publishing for the most amazing formatting services I’ve ever had. David happens to be Sally’s wonderful husband, and despite my friendship with Sally, I am stating here that David’s services are superior to any I’ve used before.

 

Writing this book was a true labor of love. The book stemmed from little things that popped into my head last year when my husband took ill. I was riding a roller coaster of emotions for much of the year with my husband’s health, and it got me thinking about how much had really changed through the years as his aging was happening well ahead of mine.

Okay, I’m not saying I haven’t aged, because that would be an outright lie. I have many new grey hairs that found their way into my red hair and sometimes I question the face in the mirror. But what I mean is that my husband happens to be two decades older than me, and when we first got married I let that factor slide because there were so many good reasons to get married. But it’s a learning curve when you have a ringside seat watching your spouse go through situations that become a bit more difficult as the body ages and sickness sometimes takes its toll.

It was an actual statement that my husband made one day that lit up my brain with the book idea. He made a statement – “We’ve been together twenty years.” When you read the book you will understand why that statement spurred the title of the book. And from there, well, it got me thinking about some of the day-to-day activities we do that tend to get altered as one ages, as well as some of things about the future we don’t normally tend to think about when we’re younger, but become things we have to think about and deal with. 

The basic formula that I can share to keep the engines of a marriage running smoothly is to always remember compassion and kindness, listen with your heart, talk about your feelings, be a supportive partner, and don’t forget to include laughter in your life everyday!

Arizona

 

 

Here’s a short excerpt from the chapter “Taking the Plunge and Commitment” to give you a feel for what you can expect to read in this book:

 

If I commit to something, I’m in it for life. “Till death do us part” is a simple phrase often not analyzed to its fullest extent as we bask in bliss, about to commit to our chosen life partner and join in holy matrimony. After all, who wants to think about possible frightening future scenarios on what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives?

In that euphoric moment, while dreaming of a wonderful future together, we feel confident we can conquer any and everything. We feel invincible while shrouded with love as we stand before our friends and family, promising our beloved to love, honor, and cherish in sickness and health, often without taking in the truest depths of the words. We tend to discount the idea of sickness as a situation that will never happen to us—but often, it does.

Since moving away from home as a late teen, I’d had many suitors and a few marriage proposals through the years, but I had enjoyed my wings of freedom and had no desire to marry. Then I met Gordon, a man like no other I’d known. He was divorced and living it up, content to remain a bachelor. That was until he met me. On our third date, Gordon smiled at me, his sky-blue eyes twinkling with adoration as he embraced me in a warm cuddle, and announced that he was going to marry me one day. I had long resolved to never marry, but truth be told, I too by that third date had an uncanny feeling that I just might marry that man.

I laughed out loud, kissed his sweet cheek, and replied, “That will never happen.” But it did. Our dating life left me more than enough material to write another book, but suffice to say, by the following year’s end, we were living together, and within the following year, I was planning our wedding. I took the plunge after weighing all the fears I had about what the future might hold as older age set in against how much I loved and felt loved by this man. I couldn’t deny the fact that I had found my soulmate.

 

If you enjoy reading books about relationships, aging and wisdom, what changes in a marriage and look into how I’ve worked out my own formula for maintaining a healthy and loving relationship, then this book may just be for you!

You can find all my books on my Amazon Author Page, and if you’d like to purchase a copy of this book, HERE is the universal link that will take you to the Amazon page of your own country.

 

***For those of you interested in purchasing a copy of the paperback, nightmares abound with Createspace and their previewing tool (as I found out quite a few authors have encountered this lately). So unfortunately because I couldn’t preview the download I await a proof copy in snail mail from the US before I hit publish, so I’ll keep you up to date!

Update:  The paperback is now live!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

120 thoughts on “Introducing #Booklaunch – Twenty Years: After “I Do” Just Published!!!”

  2. Hi Debby, sorry to hear about the Createspace problem I had that too. I ended up switching browser and using Internet Explorer – hope that helps. All the best for your book launch and do pop in for the #ABRSC Xmas party later today on my blog. All the best. Much success and love to you. Marje xx

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    1. Thank you so much Marje. And yes, in fact, I tried 3 browsers, downloaded a ton of crappy bloatware on my computer – to no avail. So now I’ll have to wait for a blind copy to be sent for my perusal first because I won’t publish it until I’ve seen what CS has done with my perfect file. ❤ Of course I'll drop by!!! ❤ xx

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  4. Congratulations on your new release, Debby! The cover is gorgeous and I’m sure the content is superbly written, as all your books are. Wishing you continued success❣️

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      1. I’m waiting on a proof copy too from another POD company. I think you’re better off anyway–what you see as a preview on the web may not accurately reflect what comes off the printer. The spine and front/back covers can have issues, color registration, etc. I have read conversations about CreateSpace print issues while looking for other stuff, so it’s probably just as well you get a final look. But if you’ve been using them all along and have had no problems, maybe it IS a waste of time. But better safe than sorry. 🙂

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      2. Oh yes, you can be sure I ordered a proof, it only cost me $15! I love getting raped by shipping. The cost of the book was 1/5th the price of shipping, then 30% exchange rate. Now you can figure out why I hardly ever even buy my own books. So Sad! As tRump would say.

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  8. I recall that your husband was unwell earlier this year, Debby. I did read some commentary to that effect. My mom is 13 years older than my dad but you really wouldn’t think so. My mo is so young in mind, spirit and looks.

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    1. Thanks Robbie, and thanks for sharing that. We’re as young as we feel, sometimes it’s good, sometimes we feel order than we are, especially when stress or illness takes over. 🙂

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  9. Who doesn’t love a happily-ever-after love story, in spite of the speedbumps in your relationship ~ and in publishing with Createspace. No matter: You are ending 2017 with a flourish, so proud of you, my dear!

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Marian. It’s so uplifting to be cheered on by my friends who I spend most of my waking life around. I do hope readers will take a few ‘pages’ from my book. 🙂 xx

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  10. Yay! Congratulations, Debby. This sounds like a book that many of us ought to read as the challenges of aging within a relationship takes hold. I remember reading about all the health issues your dear hubby endured and how stalwart you were in advocating and loving. I love the excerpt. I want my husband to read this too! Cheers, my friend!

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    1. Oh thank you so much Diana. Those were very kind words. I’m spent after this very long week, even year, lol. I sure hope readers can take the heart of the message out of my sharing. ❤ Hugs my friend! xx

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  11. Deb, I’m so proud of you, in so many ways and for so many reasons. The book cover is beautiful, and the excerpt, straight from the heart. I hope you know what an inspiration you are 💖

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  12. Yippee!! 🎉🎉🎉 Congratulations, Debby!! 😀😀 I’m so excited and happy for you! The book looks gorgeous and good enough to savour! I loved learning about all your earlier marriage proposals and Gordon’s courage by the third date announcing you would one day marry – brave man or perhaps he knew you so well already then. With my husband and I are celebrating 20 years since we met next month so this is a book I can’t wait to read. Your paragraph here sums up the secret to a successful partnership/relationship perfectly :

    ‘The basic formula that I can share to keep the engines of a marriage running smoothly is to always remember compassion and kindness, listen with your heart, talk about your feelings, be a supportive partner, and don’t forget to include laughter in your life everyday!’

    A wonderful book launch post, Debby – packed with information and links…enticing and warm and snug to read!

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    1. Thank you soooooooooooooooo much Annika. Your comment really touches my heart. I’m thrilled this book resonates with you and look forward to hearing your thoughts after you’ve read. ❤ xx

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  14. Hi Debby – that’s wonderful … loved reading about your book and its woes getting to us … better to be safe than sorry – in some ways it corresponds to your marriage – safe and sure all the way and continues on … challenges in getting old. It’s great to read – not having been married for long – I enjoy reading others’ love for each other and their continuing time together … your life sounds fascinating – cheers Hilary

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      1. Thanks Debby … I’m over in Vancouver Island for a period of time – maximum 2 years … so we’ll see what happens – thanks for asking … I avoided Toronto coming over and came into Calgary and then on … cheers for now and I am enjoying Canada … Hilary

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  16. Debby, what a beautiful book you have written. I can feel already the joy and laughter that is contained within the pages. By your wonderful descriptive post.. Sounds like you were swept off your feet, as was your hubby 🙂

    Congratulations my friend.. Learning to grow together as we age is something many of us navigate.. So I have no doubts at all your book will be both enlightening and entertaining in all that you bring through your twenty years of togetherness..

    Congrats again Debby.. Sending Hugs and much love xxx ❤

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    1. Thank you so much Sue for your beautiful compliment and your intuition is spot on as always, so I do hope others can take some of the good out of this book. ❤ Hugs my friend. xoxo

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  18. Congrats Debbie on your book and your relationship success despite the obstacles you faced. My husband and I have been together 25 years and going on 19 years of marriage next month. This book sounds great!!

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    1. Hi Lisa! Thanks so much for your lovely wishes. And perhaps this book will lend some new insights, or definitely things you can relate to! Happy upcoming 19th! 🙂

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  20. Congrats, Deb! So happy for you! You have been such a busy-bee of late, blogging and posting, and still having time to write and self-publish! My father is older than my step-mom by 15 years, so she (and we) sees the aging of my father more profoundly. Health is so important, and with that, LOVE!

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  23. Ah, Debby, just when I was looking for something good to read out comes your book! From the excerpt it looks like this is the kind of book that one tucks into a shower or wedding gift! All the best. I just downloaded it and already am eager to read it! 🙂 All the best!

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    1. Oh, thank you so much Norah. I’m so glad to hear the subject matter resonates with you. And thanks for the compliment. I”m thrilled with the cover and it seems to be a resounding like from so many. 🙂

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  27. My best to you on the launch of this beautiful and thoughtful new book. There are so many pathways a marriage travels over its years toward refinement. No way would I ever want to go back to those first few years. I suppose that’s why by the time it’s reached 50, we call it the Golden anniversary. You obviously married your best friend and I wish you many more years of happy times! ❤

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  28. Many congratulations on the new book launch, Debby. I had no idea that Sally’s husband, David, did formatting. And, after your high praise, I’ll certainly contact him once my next book is ready for formatting.
    Gotta love George’s shirt in that photo. You make the perfect couple.
    Hugs from me.
    xx 💕

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    1. Thanks so much Hugh. And yes, Sally’s husband offers all sorts of packages for publishing, not just formatting, they also do covers and full promotional packages. Check out their site at Moyhill.com. I highlyyyyyyyyyyyyy recommend!!! The easiest process I’ve had with anyone before. 🙂 ❤ Hugs xx

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      2. Thank you Hugh. That’s so kind of you. I”m just working on a few promised posts and I”d be delighted to send you something to post. Thank you so much my friend. ❤

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  29. Yay! Congrats! Looks like a fab read 😀 I’ve held off the actual marriage bit but my partner is 25 years older than me, and I think I might just need some of your wisdom as we age.

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  30. Congratulations again with the release of your newest book, Debby, a memoir people can relate to and will be enlightened by. “Till death do you part” plays a small role in my memoir as well (the first draft anyway :-)), so it pleased me to read that part in your excerpt. I was in a long-term relationship with a man that was ten years older and three inches shorter than me and it affected me in a way that I could never see myself with him forever, sad as it might sound. But, because of him, I did find my beloved husband, who I never wanted to marry in the first place either. Like you, I wanted to remain “free” and independent. 🙂

    You make things happen, girl, and I’m so proud of you! I, too, write down ideas, anecdotes and stories as I live through them, but there is just so much interesting material that I will never be able to turn it all into memoirs. But, I’ll start with this first one and take it from there! Wishing you success with the sales of your book and the continuation of your happy marriage!

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    1. Thank you so much for your very kind words Liesbet. And I know when you do find the time to finish your first book that it will be beautiful because I know how you’re such a detailed person when you write your travelogs. Just keep doing what you’re doing, and enjoy the exciting travel in your life now, take it all in. You’ll know when it’s time where your direct energies want to focus. For now you can do a little bit of experiencing life. It will leave you with so much more to write about as you get older. 🙂 x

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  31. Thrilled for your Deb, huge congratulations on the release of your true labour of love!! Love the cover and great to know about Sally’s husband, thanks for the heads-up! I am preparing a post in which I’ll write about your book and share it’s launch with my readers this week, and of course link back to you. I look forward very much to reading it (I read Conflicting Hearts, back in the summer – a very moving and poignant, from the heart read – and want to read PS I Love You next…). When I can get my act together and find my way back on my feet again with blogging and writing, I want to bring in some reviews if I possibly can. I need to totally revamp everything in my life and find where I’ve gone first. Things have changed at the Summerhouse and I need to recalibrate. But I’m honoured in the meantime to do what I can to help spread the word for you my dear friend. Your friendship and loyalty to me means the world…I’ve been a long way away but you’ve never wavered in your support and I can’t thank you enough, even when you were going through your own challenges. I remember well how tough it was for you with your husband’s illnesses last year and ongoing. I hope he’s doing much better now, and sure he is with your incredibly loving care. When I read your books I feel even more connected to you with your open, authentic and powerful stories. Wonderful memoir writing. Love you Deb! Oh…and I’ve always loved the photo of you and Gordon…you both look amazing! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ xoxo

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    1. Sherri, you know how to warm a heart my friend. Thank you for your kind and most beautiful words. And thank you so much for offering to share my new book on your blog too. We know well each other’s year, because that’s what friends do, they keep tabs on each other and lift them when they fall. Thanks for the well wishes once again, and wishing you beautiful holidays in your new home. You’ve finally landed!!!!! ❤ ❤ Hugs my friend. xoxoxo 🙂

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      1. Aww…as do you for me my friend :-)<3 Thank you so much Deb…I'm holding onto those beautiful holidays, and the same for you too! I'll ping you when my post is up. And yes, I've landed at last…phew!!!!! Huge hugs back my friend 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ 🙂

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      3. Thanks so much Deb…and my post is live! Took me an age, shows how out of the loop I am with writing in general. But it’s there, proudly displaying your beautiful book. Hope it brings some traffic your way for some sales, although my visits are so bad right now I’d be surprised if anyone’s still following me lol! I know you are…so that makes it all worth it! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ xoxoxo

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  32. Debby, this is so exciting! And I loved reading the excerpt you shared that included how you and Gordon thought you would marry by the third date (so sweet!). My goodness HUGE CONGRATULATIONS! Please come over with a guest post when you have time xo

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    1. Thank you so much Christy for your warm compliments and wishes, and for the invite. I’m marking it down! I’m drowning in promotional writing now and filling in my blog posts for the month too, so I’ve marked it down and would love to take you up on it soon! ❤ xxx

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  33. Sorry to hear about problems with Createspace. I hope it all turns out well. It looks great with that lovely cover! Hang in there. Best of luck with it! I will share your news! 🤗 😘 ❤️

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  34. Congratulations on your new book! I love the theme and the cover. Like you, the past two years have caused me to reflect on many things, one of them my marriage. When you have a marriage held together by the values you mentioned in your post, it cannot fail. Likewise, I’m sure this book will be a success.

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    1. Hi Sherrey! Thanks so much for dropping by here and leaving your words of encouragement. I hope this book resonates with many. Thank you for your wonderful compliments. 🙂 x

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  36. Oh Debby, you are an inspiration and I so look forward to reading your new book. The cover is beautiful and I love the photograph of you both. I will await the paperback release, as I wish to hold this in my hands and have it nestling within my treasures. I know I am in for a treat. You sparkle with a special light my unicorn buddy. ❤ Xxxxx ❤

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    1. Thank you my lovely friend. I’m thrilled you want to read my book. I published the paperback yesterday, so it should be available by this weekend! Hugs to you. ❤ xxxx

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  38. Congratulations Deb. I am so happy for you and the way you have handled all the stumbling blocks. Every hurdle melts before determined minds! Wishing you more success, good health and togetherness. Thanks for sharing a lovely picture of both of you. Stay blessed!

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