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Sunday Book Review – Mennonite Daughter – The Story of a Plain Girl by Marian Beaman

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Introducing author Marian Beaman with her long awaited book launch of her memoir – Mennonite Daughter – The Story of a Plain Girl, today for my Sunday Book Review.

As a nonfiction writer, I naturally gravitate  to same genre reading. I’m always eager to discover new and fascinating truths about life lessons and triumphs over life’s adversities and tribulations- especially when the author is someone I know. In today’s feature, Mennonite Daughter is the story of a girl growing up as a plain Mennonite girl, living inside the body of a girl who yearns to be fancy.

 

Marian has just launched her book and already buzzing around on book tours. You can read a bit about her below and I look forward to having Marian over for my new interview series next month!

 

Marian Longenecker Beaman

 

About the author:

Marian Longenecker Beaman is a former professor at Florida State College in Jacksonville, Florida. Her memoir, Mennonite Daughter: The Story of a Plain Girl, records the charms and challenges of Mennonite girlhood in mid-twentieth century Pennsylvania. The writer’s formative years coincided with the decade before which the Lancaster Conference of the Mennonite Church experienced major change, especially regarding dress code for women.

Such is the backdrop for the story of one Mennonite girl who benefited from a sheltered life with boundaries, but who bucked church tradition along with coming to terms with an adversarial relationship with her father. She shares her story to preserve these memories and to leave a legacy for future generations.

One of Marian’s stories “Gutsy in Ukraine” was published in My Gutsy Story Anthology by Sonia Marsh, September 2014. Another story Making Love Edible, appeared in the Food and Faith issue of The Mennonite, September 2016. The Jacksonville Arts and Antiques magazine published a patient profile in the fall 2018 issue. Her memoir will be featured in the National Association of Memoir Writers’ Virtual Book Club, 2020.

The author writes weekly on her Plain and Fancy blog: https://marianbeaman.com. She lives with her husband Cliff in Florida, where her grown children and grandchildren also reside.

 

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Blurb:

What if the Mennonite life young Marian Longenecker chafed against offered the chance for a new beginning? What if her two Lancaster County homes with three generations of family were the perfect launch pad for a brighter future? Readers who long for a simpler life can smell the aroma of saffron-infused potpie in Grandma’s kitchen, hear the strains of four-part a capella music at church, and see the miracle of a divine healing.

Follow the author in pigtails as a child and later with a prayer cap, bucking a heavy-handed father and challenging church rules. Feel the terror of being locked behind a cellar door. Observe the horror of feeling defenseless before a conclave of bishops, an event propelling her into a different world.

Fans of coming-of-age stories will delight in one woman’s surprising path toward self-discovery, a self that lets her revel in shiny red shoes.

 

My 5 Star Review:

Mennonite Daughter is a beautifully written story about the growing up life and aspirations of one feisty and longing-to-be fancy girl who although practicing her faith obediently, longs to be free from some of the conforms of the Mennonite lifestyle.

Beaman, a girl, not unlike any other girlie girl, striving for her chance at a life free from head coverings and traditional clothing, as her desires since childhood grow to break free from tradition. We learn a lot about the Mennonite way of life, Beaman’s life, the close knit family and community life, and the antiquated punishments inflicted on her by her father, and about the mother who  never interjected on those punishments, all because she spoke out for her convictions. The whippings and being locked in a dark, scary basement were the weapons of choice as punishments and discipline for her non-compliance in a world of which we’d now consider as child abuse. One heart trembling sentence that stood out to me, “I always watched for signs that Daddy was about to explode, so I wonder why I didn’t stop before I ignite the fire.” We’ll learn once again, as many writers like myself have lived and wrote about, if we search for the ‘why’ in someone’s behavior, we’ll almost always find the root cause.

The heartaches in this book are palpable through the pages for this straight A student who received no recognition or validation from her parents; and the welcomed tender mercies she did receive from her dear Aunt Ruthie and her paternal grandmother Longenecker. It seemed any moments the little girl felt excitement for were often quashed by disappointment. One example of this was in the chapter – ‘Tomato Girl gets a Bike’ – Young Mennonite Marian helped work the tomato farms tirelessly, both planting and reaping the fruits of labor. She received 10 cents a basket for her labor from her frugal father, and as reward for her upcoming birthday he promised he would buy her a bike. She held her excitement in anticipation until she felt as though she wasn’t worthy enough when her father eventually presented her with a well worn bike instead.

The author takes us through her life with a giant glimpse into the Mennonite world, sharing the religion,  her beliefs, chores, and family gatherings – even photos and recipes are included, to demonstrate her world of godliness and her struggle to endure conformity, hoping that some day she will get to wear those red shoes! I loved this book! #Recommended.

41 thoughts on “Sunday Book Review – Mennonite Daughter – The Story of a Plain Girl by Marian Beaman”

  1. Love this post and your review. Sounds like a book I’ll definitely pick up to read, DG. I have always loved reading non-fiction books, especially the ones that revolve around women.

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  4. This sounds like an interesting and informative book, Debby. I hadn’t heard of Mennonites before so, of course, I had to look them up. I think I’d enjoy reading about this life so different from my own.

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  5. Thanks for the recommendation Debby, I have read some of Marian’s blog posts and they were fascinating so I am sure the book will be too… I have already scheduled the new book post but will add your review into a cafe update the following week.. to good not to share.. congratulations again Marian.. wonderful.

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    1. Thanks Stevie. Yes, the Mennonites have a huge community about an hour’s drive just west of where I live. My husband grew up on a farm in that community. 🙂 Great read! xx

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  8. Thank you, Debby, for the accolades here. My book launch party was a success yesterday, followed by THIS today. I’m very appreciative of your broadcasting a review of here. And the comments that follow are just icing on the cake. As some of you suggested, if you want to read of a life very different from your own but with universal themes, this book will fill the bill.

    Again, merci beaucoup!

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    1. I’m thrilled to hear your launch was a success, though I wouldn’t think of it being any other way. 🙂 And happy to share your beautiful book here today. 🙂 x

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  9. Debby I wonder how many of us went through similar emotional wounds as a child, those feelings of unworthiness just wanting some glimmer of praise and approval.. Waiting for the love to be shown..
    No wonder those particular sentences jumped out and spoke to your heart Debby, i know they did mine..

    A wonderful book by the sounds of it, which takes courage to sit down and write, because as I have found trying to recount and write down our experiences brings back all those emotional wounds..
    But it is also needed as it gives us the opportunity to look afresh and see we were NOT to blame.. And yes no amount of understanding will we understand what triggers our parents to blow a fuse..

    Much love and thank you Debby for sharing and Congratulations to Marian.. ❤

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    1. You pose a great question Sue, too many I’m sure the answer. Seems that it’s our generation who are brave enough to talk the tales, to awaken others. Maybe with our writings of our truths the hurtful trends of the past will be recognized and eventually diminish. Hope floats. ❤ xox

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  12. It sounds like a fascinating read, a personal experience that will resonate with many (different details notwithstanding) and also a peep into a way of life that is totally alien to some of us. Good luck to the author with her launch and thanks for a great review and recommendation, Debby.

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  14. Wow, this book sounds like a must read for me, Deb. I can relate to the dynamics between her and her father. The Mennonite religion has beauty but there is always a dark side to an y religion in its expectation of complete conformity. Just my humble opinion. I look forward to reading Marian’s book. Thanks for the share, Deb. I always enjoy reading your book reviews!

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    1. Thanks so much Lis. I only post the books I recommend, and so glad you enjoy my reviews. That’s how I end up buying so many books when I read great reviews for books in genres I enjoy, I can’t resist. 🙂 x

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  16. A most intriguing book, Debby. I always view this type of lifestyle as just another way of suppressing people, especially women.

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  17. Hi Debby! It’s so nice seeing Marian and her new release pop up here on your site. What a wonderful 5-star review. And, for once, I can add that I read the book as well (as a proofreader) and was similarly fascinated by the Mennonite culture and Marian’s upbringing. She’s doing this entire book tour thing (and everything else about the publishing and promotion process) right!

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    1. Thanks Liesbet! Yes, I know you proofread for Marian. And yes, she’s doing a fantastic job with her book tour. She spent the years while writing the book, learning about the book biz through our writing community, so I wish her much success ❤

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  18. Wonderful review and feature of Marian’s memoir, Debby. Congratulations, Marian, on your book launch. Your story sounds utterly fascinating. I am reminded of some of my own family lore. My great-uncle and aunt lived first in Ontario and then Vancouver for over 30 years. My great aunt had been married before and her adult daughter, we heard, left her husband and children and ‘ran off’ to joined the Mennonites somewhere in Canada. In fact, she might be there to this day. I must read your book! Thanks, Deb! 🙂 ❤

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    1. Thank you Sher. Yes, in Ontario about an hour and half away west of my city Toronto, there is a huge Mennonite population there where my husband actually grew up. No, he’s not a Mennonite, lol 🙂 ❤

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      1. Lol!! And to let you know, Deb, at last I am now getting email notifications of your replies to my comments! I was sent an email to confirm receipt of notifications and also to subscribe to your blog (which I had already done ages ago, so no idea why I got them again) and hey presto, it is working! Yay! 🙂 >3 ❤ ❤

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