Welcome to my Sunday Book Review. Once again I haven’t finished my latest read, but I am beaming times three today because first, Sally Cronin featured a review she’d written a few years ago for my book – Words We Carry, at her Smorgasbord Cafe.
What a treat to have my book reviewed and featured by Sally chosen from her archived series of reviews from the past. So I was thrilled to share that review with you here today and had already drafted the share scheduled to post today. But last night I was visiting blogs and came across Lauren at Baydreamerwrites’ blog and was beaming out loud when I read a beautiful post featuring two more reviews for two other books of mine – Conflicted Hearts and Twenty Years: After “I Do”. I was so humbled and elated to learn Lauren had read and reviewed two of my books and then generously shared her reviews for my books on her blog.
So today, I’m a little ‘chuffed’ as my British friends would say, and a lot over the moon, sharing three reviews here today from Sally and Lauren.
All reviews are golden and the beauty is they’re evergreen ~DGKaye
Smorgasbord Posts from My Archives – Past Book Reviews – #Non-Fiction Words We Carry by D.G. Kaye
Welcome to the series where I will be sharing a selection of book reviews I have posted in the last few years. I would like to take the opportunity to showcase books that I have enjoyed and their authors and if you have not read the books, I hope it will encourage you to check them out.
Today I am sharing a review I posted in 2017 – The Words We Carry by D.G. Kaye
About Words We Carry
“I have been a great critic of myself for most of my life, and I was darned good at it, deflating my own ego without the help of anyone else.”
What do our shopping habits, high-heeled shoes, and big hair have to do with how we perceive ourselves? Do the slights we endured when we were young affect how we choose our relationships now?
D.G. takes us on a journey, unlocking the hurts of the past by identifying situations that hindered her own self-esteem. Her anecdotes and confessions demonstrate how the hurtful events in our lives linger and set the tone for how we value our own self-worth.
Words We Carry is a raw, personal accounting of how the author overcame the demons of low self-esteem with the determination to learn to love herself.
My review for Words We Carry 2017
Words We Carry is packed with the accumulated knowledge, wisdom, survival tips and strategies from someone who went through difficult and unhappy childhood and teen years.
I think it is fair to say that most of us are less than confident about our body shape, and that is particularly tough when you can no longer use the excuse of puppy fat, and your friends are heading out in slinky black dresses and high-heeled shoes.
Unfortunately, not all mothers are born with the nurturing gene and as soon as you become competition, there is an opportunity to reinforce your lack of self-esteem with carefully chosen and cutting words. I would like to think that the experiences that D.G. Kaye describes were rare, but I am afraid that after counselling women on their health and weight for twenty years, the story is very familiar.
Those harmful words from those who are supposed to love us, are the ones we carry throughout our lifetime, unless we can find a way to dilute their power and replace them with affirmations of a much more positive nature.
D.G. Kaye describes her strategies to claim her own identity, build her self-esteem and evolve from the ugly duckling that she had been made to feel she was, into a swan. This involved a makeover in a number of departments, including wearing high heels at all times and over every terrain, and standing out from the crowd with her now signature titian hair colour. She also developed a healthy, outgoing personality and independence that led her to discover groups of people who accepted and embraced her as a friend.
In the second section of the book Kaye looks at the impact this early negative conditioning had on her relationships, including romances with older men whose different approach to dating and expectations provided a more secure environment. Unfortunately, having entered one serious and long-term relationship, echoes of the verbal abuse that she received as a child and teenager, threatened to undo all the hard work that she had accomplished. Thankfully she went on to find happiness and empowerment with someone who appreciates all that she has become.
Kaye looks at issues such as the difference between Alone vs. Lonely, Negativity and Self-Worth, Forming Healthier Relationships, and importantly Exposing our Personality Through the Internet. All the chapters provide commonsense strategies to overcome a lack of self-confidence, and I do think that women and men in their 50s and 60s, will definitely be able to draw parallels to Kaye’s own experiences.
Whilst I recommend this memoir/self-help book to men and women of my age, I also think that it should be read by all mothers whose daughters are heading into their teens and beyond. It might just remind them of how fragile their child is when about to face the outside world, and that there are enough external challenges to be overcome, without encountering them in the place they should feel safe.
It is also a book for young women who are struggling with weight issues and those who feel that they are not as attractive as their friends, or who feel that they are somehow going through something never experienced before.
There is no reason to reinvent the wheel. By reading this they might take strength in knowing that this is an age old problem, and that they can change the narrative and write their own story.
Read all the reviews and buy the book: Amazon US – and: Amazon UK
Visit Sally’s post and blog:
Book Reviews: Conflicted Hearts and Twenty Years After “I Do” by D.G. Kaye
D.G. Kaye’s Author Page – http://www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7
I am excited to introduce you to D.G. Kaye today, or better known as Debby. I have followed Debby’s blog for several years now and it has been a joy to not only read her amazing, witty, and honest writing, but to also get to know her as a new friend who has a big heart. She has written many books, so I pulled two out of the hat: Conflicted Hearts first, then Twenty Years After “I Do.”
A Lifetime of guilt — What does it take to finally break free?
Somehow I believed it was my obligation to try to do the right thing by her because she had given birth to me.
Burdened with constant worry for her father and the guilt caused by her mother’s narcissism, D.G. Kaye had a short childhood. When she moved away from home at age eighteen, she began to grow into herself, overcoming her lack of guidance and her insecurities. Her life experiences became her teachers, and she learned from the mistakes and choices she made along the way, plagued by the guilt she carried for her mother.
Conflicted Hearts is a heartfelt journey of self-discovery and acceptance, an exploration of the quest for solace from emotional guilt.
My First 5-Star Review:
Conflicted Hearts is a compilation of personal essays from D.G. Kaye’s emotional experiences of growing up with her unloving and narcissistic mother. The author struggles with her obligation as a daughter, but also her responsibility to care for herself regarding her own healthy well-being. In each chapter as she opens yet another window giving us a glimpse into her extremely trying times, the emotions become palpable. Because I am a mother of two adult children whom I love to the moon and back, I often felt tears forming and my heart being tugged at in different directions. How a mother can abandon her own children is something I find difficult to understand. D.G. Kaye writes with emotion, vulnerability, and humor. She is not afraid to admit mistakes, but she will also gladly glow in triumph – moments when I felt like clapping, thrilled with the outcome and thrilled for her!
Unfortunately, she lost her childhood because of her mother’s constant absence in the household. Her mother would rather be out partying, seeking the attention of men by using her luminescent beauty, and by doting on her passion for gambling. With the author being the oldest of her siblings, she naturally slid into the role of “mother” which in turn, shaped her decision of possibly not wanting to have children in the future. Her parent’s relationship ran extremely hot and cold, but mostly hot when her mother kicked her father out repeatedly. She adored her father, so each time he left, fear crept into her very soul that she would never see him again.
The author writes with honesty and when she finds herself acknowledging enlightening realizations, she revels in her own personal growth. I read Conflicted Hearts not only as a memoir, but also as a compelling self-help book. And a difficult decision lies in waiting with each turn of the page exemplifying the author’s courage and strength. I am sure her struggles are felt by others so that her personal growth benefits those who live each day in similar circumstances.
This is the first book of D.G. Kaye’s that I have read and because her writing is natural, conversational, and engaging, I am excited to read more from her. This book definitely falls into the can’t put down category. If you enjoy reading memoirs and self-help books, I highly recommend Conflicted Hearts. You will find yourself on an emotional and inspirational wild ride that will both touch and tug at your heart. An excellent read!
In this personal accounting, D.G. Kaye shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of aging. Kaye reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break. Kaye’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honor their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage.
Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.
My Second 5-Star Review:
D.G. Kaye’s memoir, Twenty Years After “I Do” piqued my interest for a couple of reasons. First, I’ve been married for thirty-one years to a man who is not only my loving husband but who is my very best friend. I wanted to read what the author had to say on the subject, and she certainly inserted many pearls of wisdom of which I agreed with. Before I met my husband, I had dated a man twenty years older than me, so reading her perspective on the age difference grabbed my attention, as well. This was the second book that I have read from Debby, so I was already familiar with her beautiful, conversational writing.
Debby offers snippets of insight from her own experiences on how to keep a marriage happy and unbreakable. She adds how humor can lighten any heavy situation and intimately writes of how sex ultimately changes from dating to married life. Most importantly though, she conveys that love has no timeline. Couples should enjoy each moment together and unconditional love will carry them through the difficult times. I was moved by this lovely collection of stories from Debby’s marriage to Gordon, and how she met true love when she least expected. An enjoyable read and one I highly recommend!
I look forward to reading more books from Debby and I hope you will pay her blog a visit to learn more about this wonderful author and to sink into her inviting and conversational writing, as well.
Thanks for stopping by! Lauren 💓💓
Visit Lauren’s original post and blog: Book Reviews: Conflicted Hearts and Twenty Years After “I Do” by D.G. Kaye | Baydreamer
24 thoughts on “Sunday Book Reviews – Featuring Book Reviews for D.G. Kaye Books”
Congratulations, Debby, on these marvelous reviews. It is so gratifying when people ‘get’ our books and understand exactly what we intended to achieve.
Thanks so much Robbie. Isn’t it? I’m thrilled and beyond! ❤
Hi Debby, These are wonderful reviews – and so well-deserved. Congratulations, my friend. Toni x
Thank you so much Toni xx
Congrats on such wonderful reviews, Debby. I have also read these books and loved them! x
Thanks so much Stevie for reading and enjoying. xoxo
All well deserved Debby and I have shared one of Lauren’s but will share the other one in the Christmas Book Fair.. congratulations my friend..♥♥
Thank you again for the review and for all you shares Sal ❤ ❤
Wonderful, Debby. It’s such a treat to get these thoughtful reviews. I enjoyed both books. Your honesty and humor and advice is a treat. Congrats!
Thanks so much for the uplifting Diana. Great reviews make any writer’s day. And 3, well, tickle me with a feather. ❤ xx
Thanks so much for sharing my reviews, Debby. I’m honored and I’m grateful you were happy with them, as writing reviews is something I’ve only recently touched upon. After reading Sally’s wonderful write-up for Words We Carry, I’m adding that book to my Amazon shopping, as well. Most likely will shop today. 🙂
You are so deserving of all the praise, and sharing your experiences with hope of helping others who walk on similar paths is admirable and appreciated. Congrats again and Big Hugs! 💓💓
Lauren you sure know how to make a gal’s day, not once but twice! Thank you again for daring to write reviews. Any writer would be thrilled to have a review from you – let alone one! Still on the clouds! Hugs ❤ ❤
I see you up there on cloud 9. Congratulations on the excellent reviews, Debby. It’s nice to be appreciated.
Thank you Pete. And they camd in 3’s! 🙂 😉
Sally not only does great work helping authors and artists showcase their work, keeping us up to date with health-related topics, but she is also a great reviewer. Congratulations, Debby, on her well-deserved praise. Stay safe!
I agree with you Olga. And thanks for the kudos ❤
What a great way to start a week, Deb. Congratulations!
Thanks so much Jacqui 🙂
These are some fabulous, in-depth reviews, Debby. Congratulations! And, how nice of these readers to post their reviews on their own blogs as well. I’m constantly amazed at the support in the writers’ community. And, now, I can slowly start to relate to how you feel receiving these wonderful reviews for your books, as the first (5-star) reviews for my travel memoir Plunge are trickling in! 🙂
Thanks so much Liesbet. And yay for you! Yes, the old saying applies to us writers – ‘it takes a village.’ 🙂 x
Never hurts to do a little surfing on the web when the ocean isn’t handy. LOL
Lol, nice one. But somehow, it just doesn’t feel the same. 🙂
Congratulations, Debby, on the wonderful book reviews! I especially like Sally’s sentence “There is no reason to reinvent the wheel.” Many points highlighted in this review resonate with me, growing up, and when raising daughters. I am especially curious about “Twenty years: After “I Do” since we are celebrating a wedding anniversary in a few days. It is never to late to glean some wisdom from other couples. These books are now on my reading list.🙂 Erica
Oh thanks bunches Erica. I’m thrilled for your interest. I’d love to have your feedback after you read. ❤