I came across a new review for my book, P.S. I Forgive You, from the talented author Harmony Kent, found on her blog. I need not tell any other author here how uplifting it is to come by a lovely surprise when someone takes the time to read our work, write a review and share it on their own blog. A truly wonderful community we all are and once again, I’m stoked that my book touched another person.
#BookReview: P S I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy by D G Kaye @pokercubster
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Today, I have a book review for an author I’ve known and admired for a long time, Debby Kaye. Her honesty and bravery shine through in this book of non-fiction, and I feel it’s one everybody should read >>>
About the Book:
Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts.
In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.
After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near.
Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.
As soon as I saw what this book was about, I had to read it, and I am so pleased I did.
Because of the difficult subject matter, and my own history, I had to take a deep breath before I plunged in. Not only has this writer’s honesty and bravery helped me to understand my parents a little better, it has also shown me precisely what my sister has become. I’d missed that, and this explains so very much.
It is a sad fact of life that, all too often, the victim becomes the perpertrator, unless we have the insight and strength to do something about it. I have long joked that I’m the reverse ‘black sheep’ of my family, and it seems to me that Debby is too. For all our successes, and the miracle of growing into well-adjusted adults in spite of it all, we will never be accepted by a parent who demands that we live their lies, manipulations, and abuses. The same with any sibling who demands the same.
Some lines that resonated with me in particular:
‘A narcissistic mother doesn’t have to be in one’s presence. She can still demand and demean no matter how far away.’
‘It is my decision to banish my mother from my life and a resolution to find peace within myself with my decision.’
‘[…] if we’re lucky enough to realize the bad, we have the opportunity to steer ourselves in a better direction.’
For a while now, I have struggled to think of what I will do when one or the other of my parents dies. I’m not even sure they would let me know, at this stage. And reading this honest and brave account from D G Kaye has helped me immensely. It has also helped to explain the till-now inexplicable behaviour of my twin sister. She has grown up with emotional neglect, as did I, and has now become a narcissist. This book has helped me to identify why she lives and behaves the way she does.
From my own life, I know how hard it is to go against the grain to become your own person despite your upbringing. It takes work, day by day, to resist some of those unhealthy habits instilled in us as children and to trust our judgements and motives. It takes courage to not give in to the insidious lack of self-esteem with which such adults are often left. The author has overcome much, and I admire her deeply both for her acheivements and for putting her journey into words so that others of us can also be helped.
PS I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy gets a solid and resounding 5 stars from me. A difficult read, but a book everybody should read.
NOTE ON RATINGS: I consider a 3-star rating a positive review. Picky about which books I give 5 stars to, I reserve this highest rating for the stories I find stunning and which moved me.
5 STARS: IT WAS AMAZING! I COULD NOT PUT IT DOWN! — Highly Recommended.
4 STARS: I WOULD PULL AN ALL-NIGHTER — Go read this book.
3 STARS: IT WAS GOOD! — An okay read. Didn’t love it. Didn’t hate it.
2 STARS: I MAY HAVE LIKED A FEW THINGS —Lacking in some areas: writing, characterisation, and/or problematic plot lines.
1 STAR: NOT MY CUP OF TEA —Lots of issues with this book.
I’d love to hear what you think of this review. Thanks for stopping by 🙂
Original Source: #BookReview: P S I Love You: A Broken Legacy by D G Kaye @pokercubster | Welcome to Harmony Kent Online
26 thoughts on “#BookReview: P S I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy by D G Kaye @pokercubster | Welcome to Harmony Kent Online”
Terrific review! I know it always feels great to receive a positive review, but I’m sure this one carries more weight considering a talented writer like Harmony left it. Congrats, Debby! I’m glad to hear that Harmony is feeling better.
Thanks so much Pete. You are so right, I felt honored by Harmony’s review. And yes, so happy she is also on the mend 🙂 x
What a stunning and very heartfelt review from Harmony, Debby. This is so well deserved, and reading how she was able to apply your words to her own life was so inspiring. Congratulations, my dear friend. Toni x
Thanks so much Toni. That’s the best part, when our words can help others ❤
A lovely and well deserved review Debby ♥♥
Thanks so much Sal, and for all your shares ❤ xoxo
Wonderful review Debby. Well deserved ❤ xxx
Thanks so much Marje xox
a five-star review – congratulations!
Thank you Jim. Definitely uplifting. 🙂
What a beautiful review, Debby. Your book clearly had an impact on Harmony, and I was touched by her personal share and how your experience helped her to sort through some of her past. Information is power, and sometimes we just need to see our own experiences mirrored by someone else to know that we aren’t alone, and that there is hope. You must be thrilled and warmed by her words. Awesome review.
Thank you Diana. You said it, ‘sometimes we just need to see our own experiences mirrored by someone else to know that we aren’t alone’. Does that ever resonate! ❤
What a superb review. It is always great to get a good review of your book, especially when the reader gets it, as Harmony certainly did.
An unsurprisingly excellent review at the perfect time. Bravo Harmony and Deb!
Thanks so much Jacqui 🙂
Well done, Debby! A great review. x
Thanks Stevie xx
Well deserved, Debby! Cheers to you. xo
Thanks so much Natalie xo
Debby, how uplifting to find this thoughtful review, especially from Harmony. I am glad it was a surprise and that Harmony is on the mend. A shining example of flowing love between you both. ❤ Xxxxx ❤ ❤
Congratulations, Debby, on this wonderful review.
Thanks so much Robbie xx
Wonderful, Debby. It is a great book and so uplifting for you to find such a positive and encouraging review at this time. Congratulations.
Thanks so much Norah. It was a nice boost 🙂 xx
It is a fantastic review, Debby, and more so because it comes not only from a talented author but also from somebody with personal knowledge of the issues you discuss. To know that your work has touched and helped others is a great reward to your skill as a writer and to your bravery as a person.
Thanks so much Olga for your kind words. As you know, every review is such a boost, especially when we hear we’ve connected with a reader. Hugs xx