My recent edition for my Realms of Relationships column over at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine is all about Soul Mates.
Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – D. G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships – August 2021 – Soul Mates
Welcome to my column – Realms of Relationships. In my last edition of Realms of Relationships I wrote about Kindred Spirits. In this edition, I’m writing about Soul Mates – how we recognize them, and the common bonds that connect us with them.
What is a Soul Mate?
Let me begin by saying there are four main types of soul mates. You may read about several more, but the main ones I’ll touch on today are:
Healing Soul Mates: These are new friends who arrive with intent to provide us with life lessons that help to heal our memories. Healing soul mates appear in our lives through divine timing — the universe sends us these souls in the times we most need them to teach us a lesson we need to learn, comfort us in a time of need, and often to teach us a path forward. Most healing friendships exist only for as long as it takes to fulfil their purpose and help us align ourselves in clearer situations. This kind of friend usually shows up when we are facing repetitive patterns and trying to work through old issues with no resolution.
Karmic Soul Mates: Karmic soul mates could sometimes come as Past Life soul mates too. Our connection is deep and karmic, and often painful, as it aligns us with our ego struggles. The lesson is to experience the ego pain and learn to work through it to learn how to overcome ego difficulties.
Karmic soul mates sometimes have a twin-like connection. When intense emotions are evoked, each mate can actually feel what each other feels. Some of these souls have come back by reincarnation to relive and fix their own karma from a past life, to help break a negative, repetitive cycle. The struggle for many is to learn to disregard our ego, and a karmic soul is the perfect one to help teach us.
Past Life Soul Mates: These are the people we may have shared a past life with. We’ll experience a Déjà vu feeling with this person. This person will help to shape us into better humans. We’ll feel as though we’ve known that person forever, making the relationship feel easy and familiar. The connection is instant. We may feel we’ll be mates for a lifetime — no matter how much time has passed or how far apart we may be from them through distance. We learn to trust and believe in ourselves with this person’s guidance. This new soul friend will help us grow into the person we’re meant to be. These relationships are typically platonic, not about physical attraction, but as a protective, nourishing friendship.
This type of friendship can last a lifetime. This person may not be someone you will see every day, but you will stay connected through other means to sustain the relationship. They’ll always bring love and fun, no matter how much time has passed.
Twin Flames Soul Mates: Twin flames cooperate to overcome emotional and spiritual barriers. They could talk for hours without ever running out of things to say. They think in the same way, they’re on the same energy wavelength, they often finish each other’s sentences, and enjoy doing things as a pair.
When we meet our twin flame, we’ll feel a sense of oneness. Twin Flames usually aren’t in a romantic relationship. They are usually forever. Many Twin Flames feel as though each other is their other half. Often, words aren’t required to communicate, as they often know what each other will say or what they’re thinking.
A soul mate brings lessons for us to learn. Some soul mates may disappear from our lives once they’ve delivered the lesson and, quite possibly, show up again at other times. Some other soul mates will remain in our lives if we are lucky enough to find one. Other soul mates recognize their soul mate instantly by experiencing a feeling of familiarity upon first meeting. The energy attracts. We recognize a soul mate when we feel we can bear our souls openly without judgements and be completely free with that person about who we are, inside and out. This is a mutual understanding between both souls. Again, a soul mate can definitely become our spouse, but friends can also be soul mates. There are romantic and platonic soul mates.
Some people think a soul mate is automatically our chosen relationship mate, but there are different types of soul mates. And not every couple marries their soul mate. Generally speaking, a soul mate is someone we mesh beautifully with in thinking, values, likes, etc. But for many, a soul mate is much more. For instance, if we have a close bond with someone, we often can feel or ‘know’ what they’re thinking, and sometimes even what they are up to without speaking, and commonly, easily finish each other’s sentences.
A soul connection with someone feels as though we connected on a same soul level. A soul mate is someone we feel a deep, natural affinity for, someone our soul recognizes and resonates with. There is typically a common bond bringing the two souls together. This can be in friendships or relationships of the heart. When we find this person, we just know. A special bond forms that leave us feeling we’ve known that person in another life, or that some common incident brought us both together. Sometimes soul mates come into our lives because we’ve made a pre-destined pact in a past life to be together in this life, in various capacities.
Does everyone have a Soul Mate?
There potentially are soul mates for everyone, but that doesn’t mean we will all get that gifted opportunity to meet a soul mate. . . continue reading at Sally’s Smorgasbord
©DGKaye2021
I like the way you explain soul mates as varying types with different purposes or qualities. I believe I’ve experienced all four and recognize their role in my life. Love this post, Debby. I’m heading to Sally’s to read the rest.
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Thanks so much for reading and chiming in Diana. I’m glad to know that you already recognize the soul mates in your life ❤
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This was such an informative post, Debby. Thank you for sharing!
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Thanks so much Jan. I know you are very familiar with soul mates. ❤
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Very informative, Debby! I suspect that some folks go through their whole lives without ever feeling as though they have a true soul mate. We are the fortunate ones!
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We have certainly be blessed Marian ❤
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Like many others, I’m not sure what to make of the after-life or reincarnation. Even though I love my life, I think there would be a certain amount of disappointment if this is it. It would be like the feeling you get when you’re enjoying a novel, and the end leaves you wanting more. You mean, that’s it? 🤣
I like to tease one of my friends, a wonderful dog owner, and tell her that I want to come back as one of her dogs in my next life. Never have you seen such well-cared-for animals.
I took a little tangent from your post, Debby. Soul mates make life better. I’ve never thought about the different types before.
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Thanks for chiming in Pete. Yes, having a soul mate who leaves you does leave one wanting more. 🙂 Happy to enlighten you on the various types of soul mates 🙂
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Great post, Debby. I read it on Sally’s blog first, and I’m still thinking about it. I guess it’s never too late to find your soulmate (or soulmates), and I think I’m more likely to spot them now. Thanks for sharing it! And I hope things keep moving in the right direction. ♥
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Thanks Olga. And I’m so glad that this post gave you a better picture of soul mates. I do hope you come across one or two. ❤
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Thanks for boosting the column Debby and clearly from the comments it was enjoyed by everyone as much as I did..♥
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Thanks again so much Sal. I’m always happy for the interaction my posts garners. So glad it was well received. ❤
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I loved this, Debby, and read it on Smorgasbord. It was fascinating and eye-opening to read about the different sorts of soulmates that I knew nothing about. Sending hugs, Toni x
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Thanks so much Toni. I’m so glad you found it interesting and informative. ❤
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Great post, Debby. I enjoyed your explanations. I hadn’t realised there was more than one type of soul mate.
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Happy to enlighten you. ❤
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Debby,
Thanks for sharing this informative post about soul mates. I believe people are brought into our lives for a reason.
Many blessings,
Lisa xoxo
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Absolutely Lisa. Thanks so much for reading. ❤
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I love the idea of a soulmate. Might be my husband. He fits your descriptions.
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I hope so 🙂
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I’ll have to reread this a few times when the mind is clear and ready for interpretation.
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At your leisure my friend. 🙂
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Who would have thought there are this many different types of soulmates? Life is all about connections. Thanks, Debby! ❤
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So true Liesbet. Life is about connections and energy. ❤
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