Realms of Relationships with D.G. Kaye – Wrapping up the Year in #Covid – Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

Realms of Relationships – Wrapping up the Year and Covid Lingering Effects

Welcome to my Realms of Relationships post finale for 2021. I hope you all have been enjoying my articles where I share some of own experiences about different types of relationships. Next year I’ll be back with my travel columns and later in the year I’ll be back with more relationship talk, and maybe even something new! Today I’m sharing this post here I originally wrote for my monthly column over at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine.

In this edition, I want to talk about relationships that have been altered or have taken on new awakenings through the global pandemic we’ve all been living through for almost two years now.

Once all the lockdowns began, life as everyone knew it changed. Suddenly, moms and dads are working at home, trying to get their jobs done as they had to adapt to helping school their kids digitally – a feat in itself for the technically challenged.

How we’re affected by the ages:

Many couples forced to spend more time together during lockdown discovered they loved and missed going to work to get out of the house to avoid 24/7 with a partner, while some other relationships were strengthened in that time as many re-discovered, reconnected, and re-evaluated their relationships. Some friendships were strengthened, while some others were let go of as realizations and evaluations of our lives took place when we were restricted from seeing anyone. So many were affected from quarantine conditions from unemployment adding financial strains, dealing with sick and dying loved ones, disrupted homelife, home schooling and growing mental illnesses because of forced conditions having created havoc in so many people’s lives. Many statistics have been cited about the increase of divorce enquiries and proceedings. I also must make mention of the many stranded at home stuck in abusive relationships with no escape.

Young children are equally affected at differing crucial stages of their learning, as well as hampered social skills while not being able to play or interact in person with others. Many young children and toddlers missing crucial interacting at nursery schools and play dates spending two of their earliest years either missing social interaction – where they learn to socialize by playing and learning together with other children, while others too young to realize the way they are growing up in their earliest years at home isn’t situation normal.

Middle-grade and teenaged kids were desperately missing social interaction. As they craved their usual activities with friends at a time of exploration of the world at their curious ages, suddenly having their ‘regular’ lives ripped out from them stuck at home with family in their new constricted lives, have had to find ways to adapt. How many suicides do we even imagine have occurred because of the mental disruption of their lives?

The elderly have had to endure not only extra lonely times with aching hearts as their loved ones ached with the worry for them, but many of the elderly who rely on the help and visits from others were devastatingly left out in the cold. The long, lonely hours of being alone became so much more profound for both the sick and the agile – those that require daily visits for care, and those denied the ability for visitations from loved ones. Yes, digital apps helped to connect some and not others, became the backup for visual virtual visits, but there is no substitute for a real human visit where we can look into someone’s eyes and feel the love, a touch, a hug, and human physical compassion, and this missing of human interaction left a gaping hole in the hearts of too many.

The sick who couldn’t get proper medical attention and consequently dying before their time – like my husband, who died BECAUSE of the Covid epidemic halting regular doctor visits and no way to get into a hospital unless there was an evident and immediate emergency. Those that actually feared going to a hospital for serious ailments because they were afraid they’d catch the Covid inside the hospital. The undiagnosed cancers, deeming treatment too late – LIKE my husband. The strokes and heart attacks people died from because they refused to go to hospitals during Covid. The delayed testing for the so many with yet to have diagnosis that did and will ultimately end these people’s lives earlier than would have pre-pandemic. And the list goes on and on.

I know what I write of is merely touching on the tip of the icebergs as so many in the world have suffered losses – loss of lives, sickness, and financial draining. These devastations in all our lives in some way or another have become the rude awakenings for us, and worse for many more.

Realizations. This pandemic gave us all a time for reflection and reckoning, a look around, and insight as to who’s caring about us? I know I’ve certainly had startling revelations myself after losing my husband seven months ago and discovering that my own family (save for two) doesn’t have the time of day for me, as well as discovering that my husband’s family were just that – my husband’s family. This rude awakening for me just brought me back to Maya Angelou’s famous quote: “When people show you who they are, believe them.”

What I’ve learned during this pandemic: Keep your circles small and tight. It’s all about the quality of the people in our lives, not the quantity. And friends are the family we choose.

If anyone here would like to share some of your own awakenings and discoveries you’ve had through these trying times, please feel free to share.

Let us all pray for a better year globally, the sick to heal, the virus to die, and peace, love, and brotherhood to return to mankind.

Below are links to just a few articles on how the pandemic has wreaked havoc on many relationships:

Covid – Divorce Rates

BBC – Spikes in Break ups and Divorces

This article was originally posted on Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

©DGKaye2021

I’m Back with my New #Blog

It’s been quite an event! I’m sure many of you know, I’ve moved my blog. Some of you probably don’t know and may be wondering why my blog has been wonky for the last week or so.

I have been wanting to move away from my self-hosted blog for a long time, but dreaded the process – and I wasn’t wrong. Besides the fact that I’d get lots of messages throughout the last few years that readers were having a difficult time commenting on my blog, I’ve had so many issues myself with my old host. I paid substantial money for almost 8 of the 9 years I’ve been blogging, and when technical bad things were happening with it, the support I had was less than mediocre and I had to rely on the kindness of of some writing friends to get me out of a blog jam.

I decided at the longtime urging of my good friend and Fey sister, Colleen Chesebro, now was the time. With the advent of the new BIG WordPress update coming (something that always gave me blog woes), and the thought of me having to deal with scary blog stuff while I escape for a some winter sanity, Colleen convinced me to get it over with now. And it was far from easy.

I decided it would be easier down the road to move back to paid WordPress and let them deal with the headaches. And moving my blog from Godaddy was a nightmare! Colleen helped me a lot. First step was creating a blank WordPress.com new platform to move my content over to, except there were many hurdles. The trick I’ve learned, is to get a good WP happiness engineer – and that only took 2 or 3 until the right one showed up.

The plan was simple, export my content from old site and import into new blog – not so easy. My content wouldn’t load. Colleen was dealing with a WP tech with questions about the import problem and she said she’d get back to her. Well 5 days passed, no blog activity, stuck between two worlds on two platforms and after several days I knew nobody was answering back. And by that time, my old blog content was gone! That’s when the real chaos began.

After 2 days of calling Godaddy (now dubbed NOdaddy from me), first waiting 2 hours til a human picked up and more hours trying to explain I need my blog content and several useless support there, my blood pressure was rising. In the meantime, I was being coached by a WP tech as to how to bring over files MANUALLY. Yes, non backdoor techy me, trying to absorb technical jargon. By the second day of repeat performance, I finally got a WP angel who had spent almost 2 days coaching me of alternative methods to get this and that – to no avail. I finally got through to the WP tech that I was useless in this venture, especially with the SERIOUS LACK OF HELP FROM NODADDY. Let’s just say he went far beyond the call of duty and did things to make the magic happen that were not his job. He and I had a running chat going by email for 4 days! He got the ball rolling last Friday, and yesterday he finally finished getting almost 9 gigs of content over to my new blog, and Colleen went in to make it pretty. I didn’t lose anything, (except what was left of my sanity), my years of posts are back WITH the matching images.

I’m still learning Gutenberg editor tips, but surprisingly, I didn’t find it that complicated. And thanks to my friend Hugh Roberts, who posts excellent tutorials on the new editor, I had already got the basic hang of it.

So, I want to welcome you all over here to my new blog, where it should be easy sailing for readers now to interact. I also hope you will all hit the ‘follow’ button when you visit here. I have to say, it’s a bit discouraging seeing my followers go from over a thousand to 11 LOL – not a good look on a writer whose been blogging for 9 years. And I thank you all for putting up with the madness and coming back!

©DGKaye2021

Sunday Book Review – Tree Fairies and their Short Stories by D.L. Finn

Welcome to my Sunday Book Review. I’m delighted to share my review for D.L. Finn’s middle-grade story – Tree Fairies. Truth be told, I ordered the paperback copy for my young niece, and of course I had to read it first! This is a wonderful book for any age to read this enchanting story with lessons learned through the wise trees and fairies.

 

 

 

Blurb:

When reality and magic meet in the forest

It’s 1969, and twelve-year-old Daniel Burns is camping in the redwood forest with his family. Danny wants to listen to his music and read, but his family has other plans. S’mores around the campfire and stories end their first day. The family is sleeping soundly in their secluded tent when Danny wakes up and finds his sister, Colette, is missing. Assuming she went to use the outhouse, he goes after her. When he finds his sister, they discover there is a thin veil between reality and fantasy. Two bonus short stories offer a glimpse into the magical world that finds Danny and Colette. These hidden beings not only share our world but have a role in protecting their forest.

 

 

My 5 Star Review:

Finn takes us into a fantasy world of fairies and humans working together to save the forest. Danny and and his sister Collette and his parents go camping 1969, one night while Colette sleepwalks into the forest, Danny noticed her gone and goes to find her. It’s outside at night they meet the fairies – the protectors of the forest. The fairies know Danny’s mother is a writer and ask if she could write a book to help save the forest. The Wise Old Trees offer help with their wisdom.

The book consists of 3 parts, 3 continuing stories. The next generation – Danny and Colette and their kids go camping in the same forest in 1990 and learn about some baddies dumping barrels of waste in the forest. Danny, now a writer with his kids Wren and Sierra, and Colette, now a movie director, come back to the forest to visit the fairies and wise trees and to take care of bad business happening to nature. Mom is still writing and dad is retired and they are both living off the grid.

The three stories are linked and all have the same characters as not to confuse young readers. It deals with different issues, from clear cutting, to stopping toxic waste dumping, to catching and sending away poachers, all while offering entertaining fantasy characters from the forest, yet teaching life lessons on the importance of working to keep the environment clean and sustainable, demonstrating the humans working together with the fairies to help save the forest.

The author has a wonderful way of weaving a magical story with real life issues and lessons the children learn about nature from the fairies and trees.

 

©DGKaye2021

 

November Oracle Reading – Native Spirit and Akashic Tarot

Welcome to my November Oracle Reading.

This post should have gone out earlier this week, but as I’m in the process of migrating my blog back to WordPress, all I can do so far is post here with no bells and whistles yet. But I wanted to see what happens with exposure by posting on this new blog, so I’m starting with my November reading – because it’s already December!

I’ve begun a practice where I read my Oracle cards once per month. I always find my messages spot on, coinciding with what is typically going on in my life at the time, helping to put things in perspective.

When I first became attracted to Oracle cards, I purchased cards that somewhat ‘spoke to me’. I say this because there are oodles of different types of Oracle cards available and how I chose which decks I wanted to work with was by how a various deck ‘jumped out’ at me. I currently own four different decks, and I’m usually drawn to using two of these decks in particular. For this reading I chose to use my Akashic Tarot set, oddly named Tarot.

I’d also like to note here that these are not Tarot cards, but Oracle cards with messages from Ascended Masters, Angels, Native Spirits, Goddesses, and from spirits of higher echelons up the ladder of spirits of wisdom, they are a tool to use for self-reflection. There is no set standard for pulling these cards. You can pull a card for daily inspiration, or you can set up a layout as you would with the Tarot, but the interpretations are different. You can ask the cards anything that is lingering in your mind.

My two favorite decks are: The Akashic Tarot by Sharon Anne Klingler and Sandra Anne Taylor – a deck of 62 cards which help to reveal hidden insight from the Akashic Records – “ designed to access the profound energy and unlimited information that make up the Akashic Records, which are great fields of wisdom and power that transcend time and space and are immediately available to all. “

My other favorite deck is the Native Spirt Oracle Cards by Denise Linn – “The Native Spirit Oracle Cards profoundly deepen your connection to the mysterious, natural forces around you.” This is a 44 card deck based on their birthing at the sacred mountain carrying the mystical energy that surrounds from their birthing.

Every Oracle deck comes with a guidebook to help interpret the messages.

My Reading:

I asked the cards as I shuffled with intention if they had any new messages for me from my husband. My beloved passed away a raw seven months ago and my grief is as overwhelming still as the day he left me and this earth. I typically like to do a spread of three cards and add cards as needed for extra clarity. This time, I had five cards drop simultaneously while shuffling, so I went with the five. Here’s what fell and my interpretation:

Three of Keys – The Chess Game – Reversed

This card symbolizes a conflict with family that has grown untenable and unlikely to change. (Spot on!) It’s time to walk away and disengage emotionally. Put those unhappy people behind you. By bringing them to an end, you’re creating new space for peace and more promise to your life. It’s your time for new beginnings. Pretend you’re on a chessboard and take a look around at the other players, gauge how you feel about them. ‘What do you want your next move to be?’ Clear out the old!

Three of Roses – Loving Elementals – Reversed

This card reversed reveals a split from your fun-loving child within and your union with the natural world. It’s time to find a joyful purpose by doing things that make you happy.

One of Roses – Commitment

A valuable union is at hand. A love of something or someone is returning. This could also mean new business opportunities are coming your way. This card is filled with light, indicating good things are in the offering. A female relative may be wanting to stir things up. Let go! You may have lost something, and you may be experiencing uncertainty about the future. Allow the Akashic Records to guide you.

The Lookout

Pay attention! There’s a challenging battle of sorts around you. Stay aware, don’t lose your footing, stand your ground. Your strength will carry you to a better time.

The Architect

You could find yourself renovating or redecorating. It is time now to step into your power. It’s time to recognize your strengths and talents and take charge!

Summation:

The cards send me guidance.

I asked if there were any messages from my husband. The messages received were quite accurate as to what is happening in my life now. The cards reiterated my family – or lack of – situation and recognizes the predicament I feel I’m living in right now. They reaffirm my decision to walk away from those who no longer serve me. And they remind me that I, hold the power. And good things are coming.

End Note:

Each deck or Oracle cards comes with a guidance book to look up the meaning of each card. With time and experience you can learn to interpret a deeper meaning by the order in which cards fall, the images, and in which direction they face relative to a card laid before or after it, and how the message applies to your own life. If you require more clarity you have only to draw another card and ask spirit to help clarify a card or situation, or perhaps use another favored deck to add to the completion of the story.

Note: I am in the process of moving my blog over from my ‘problemed’ self hosted site. Please bear with me as things on my blog may look wonky for a day or two until Colleen Chesebro and I get this mess figured out. 

©DGKaye2021