Welcome to my third part in my empath series at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine. In this post I’m explaining how to deal with people who drain our energy – also known as energy vampire suckers. Narcissists also fit into this category perfectly.
Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – Empaths and Energy Sucking Vampires and Narcissists by D.G. Kaye
Explore the spiritual side of our natures as D.G. Kaye shares her experiences and research into this element of our lives.
You can find Part Two of the series: How Empaths Can Shield Negative Energies

Empaths and Energy Sucking Vampires and Narcissists
Welcome back to my part three in this series of Empaths and Energies. In the first two episodes, I spoke of empaths and how to shield negative energies. In this segment I am using the popular term used for those that drain our energies – Vampires.
It should be no big surprise that empaths attract both, energy sucking vampires and narcissists, who are often associated as being energy sucking vampires as well. As I spoke about before, empaths absorb the emotions of others, are sensitive to other’s energies, and often are like human lie detectors. As an empath myself, I often refer to myself as a ‘soul reader’.
A soul reader is a highly in-tuned empath who has the uncanny ability to read between the lines when people speak – or don’t speak. We can see the invisible mask. we can hear the words that are unspoken, we know what goodness or mal intentions are held secretly when we hear their words and even the words omitted.
Empaths often attract people with problems because of their sympathetic natures, but are also an open target for energy vampires and narcissists because of their open vulnerability to receive energies – good and bad. Empaths often hide their own problems and have an overwhelming want to try and solve the problems for others. Narcissists in particular, can spot this vulnerability. Weaker and troubled souls are often attracted to empaths because an empath’s personality gives off the energy that they are compassionate and open to receive. Narcissists especially love to gravitate to empaths because they see us as easy targets to manipulate because of our open to receive nature.

Energy sucking vampires are often deeply wounded individuals who have been hurt in their current or past lives. They may have been beaten, demeaned, or bullied themselves and wish to project same onto others. They may have grown up in abusive families. They have somehow been unempowered somewhere in their lives, which can instill a sense of entitlement as a compensation for something they didn’t receive when they were younger, or worse, because of mental or physical abuse or neglect they experienced at some point in their lives, such as unresolved childhood pain. Often, these people cannot see the light so they create scenarios where they must put themselves in the spotlight to feel empowered and better about themselves.
Narcissists often adopt behaviors that will help them gain favor from people. They lack compassion, remorse and refuse to acknowledge or admit the errors of their ways. Sadly, positive psychology won’t heal a narcissist or an energy sucking vampire because these people would never admit their weaknesses. Empaths must learn how vampires operate and help themselves because vampires don’t change. An empath’s biggest struggle is to learn ‘no contact’ with such individuals. Many empaths have had a vampire parent. I most certainly can say I did. I grew up with a narcissistic, energy sucking vampire, known as my mother.
It took me over 50 years to learn how to deal with my own mother. It was painful to be around her, and even as a young child, I knew instinctively something wasn’t right with her.
I analyzed her for 50 years before I figured out why out of us four children, she sucked the most from me and preyed on my emotions and compassion – because she knew how vulnerable I was to emotions, knew she could manipulate me with guilt, and knew how much I feared her to stray from her stronghold. But I finally put it all together, and after years of literally feeling as though my insides were being torn out and twisted by my mother’s reign, I did the hardest thing I ever had to do, despite how sad I felt to abandon her. I walked away. I stopped lowering my vibrations to her level to continually appease her. Being addicted to rescuing others is dangerous to our health.

So what can we do to help our empathic selves from becoming drained by these narcissists and energy sucking vampires? …Please continue reading at Sally Blog for some helpful methods to deal with energy draining people.
©DGKaye2022
Thanks for writing and sharing this, Debby. Another post many people will be grateful for. You’re a star and a great help to so many. Stay well, my friend.
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Thanks so much Olga. You too, stay well. ❤
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Very interesting article, as usual, Debby.
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Thanks Norah ❤
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Hi Debbie – people can suck the life out of one … I try and avoid them, so don’t give them any credence … this post will be so useful to those who need to read. All the best to you … take care – Hilary
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Thank you Hilary. And I’m glad to hear you are aware and know how to block them. 🙂 x
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Great post and observations, Debby. You’ve described my twin sister perfectly. Took me years to let go of that relationship. Hugs 💕🙂
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Thanks so much Harmony. It seems we are kindred spirits in the ‘letting go’ department. Sadly. Hugs my friend. ❤ xx
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Thanks for boosting the post Debby and it certainly struck a chord with all those who read it..♥♥
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Thanks so much for the platform Sally. ❤ xxx
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Read and commented over at Sally’s blog. x
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Thanks so much Stevie xx
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As a strong empath, I can relate to your post. Thank you. BTW, your graphics are amazing!
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Thanks so much Gwen. No doubts you know what I’m talking about. Hugs xx
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Thank for exposing the dangers of getting near energy-sucking vampires, Debby.
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Happy to enlighten you John 🙂
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Such an important topic about guarding our energy in general and also from the vampire draining type!
Going To Sally’s now to read the full post
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Thanks Yvette 🙂
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I’ve met some of each. Energy-sucking vampires are a good description. It’s hard to have tolerance for either of these types.
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So true Pete, so it’s important to learn to avoid them and shield. 🙂
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A fantastic series, Debby – your insight is incredible, my friend. Toni xxx
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Thank you so much Toni. Hugs xx
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Excellent article, Debby! Heading over to Sally’s!
PS, I sent you an email re: Honest Eds.
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Thanks so much Resa. Okay thanks for letting me know. I’ve been having a glorious tech snafu week so behind in emails. ❤
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I’m wallowing in emails. I get behind easily. There are so many creative things to do. I just can’t spend all my time at the computer.
Anyway, wait ’til you see what they’ve done!!!!!
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I’ll be checking in a few! 🙂
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This is a very interesting post, Debby! Thank you for sharing this! 😀
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My pleasure, thanks Damyanti. And thanks for sharing. As you know, I cannot comment on your blog again 😦
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Thought-provoking post, Deb. You probably covered this question in a different post, what about people who are in the middle, with characteristics of both empaths and vampires? I apologize that this is the first post I’ve read.
From my experience, I think most people lie somewhere on the spectrum depending on the way they have responded to someone with Narcissistic personality disorder in their family. All people are somewhat narcissistic or self-concerned by necessity, but not all people have been diagnosed with a personality disorder. As you know, I am not an expert in the subject of psychology, but have a great deal of interest and some training in this topic.
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HI Marsha. I honestly don’t believe an empath could be a vampire. That isn’t to say that anyone – empath or not wouldn’t have had experiences with self protection and what they had to do to have it. That doesn’t make them a narcissist. A narcissist is an energy and soul sucker, an empath has regard for other’s feelings. 🙂
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You are much more knowledgeable than I am about the topic. I really don’t know too much about vampires and empaths, but it was a thought-provoking post.
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Thank you Marsha. And be careful when you say vampires, lol, people may get confused. The people who suck our energies are referred to energy sucking vampires as a nod to vampires lol 🙂 x
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See that’s how I in knowledgeable I am! I’m going to just keep my mouth closed and refer everyone to you! My dad used to stick his nose into everyone’s business and act like he knew more than they did in their own field.LOL I don’t want to be like him! 😅
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Lol, you are so cute Marsh! ❤
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I’m much cuter when I’m smiling and dumb than when I’m trying to show the world how smart I am. 🙂 Better to keep quiet and let people think you are dumb than to open (my) mouth and prove it. 🙂
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Narcissists are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves. In other words, they’re in love with the way other people view them. This makes it delicate, or even impossible for them to truly love others or putting others before their own requirements. Even though narcissistic people may be good at hiding their personality complaint, there are common narcissistic traits that give them away.
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Very well said. Thank you. 🙂
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