I was introduced to the poetry of John Roedel by my lovely friend, Jane Sturgeon. Roedel writes heartfelt poetry from his soul. As a writer myself who writes raw from my soul, and as a griever, John’s poetry hits the mark with everything he writes. Upon Departure is his newest release I was eagerly awaiting to read. Roedel’s storytelling through prose and poetry is sure to touch anyone who has ever loved and lost.
Blurb:
From bestselling poet, storyteller and speaker John Roedel, comes a collection of poetry that explores the concept that our grief as a natural wonder that terraforms the landscape of our world in increments. It can take a lifetime to find peace when our loved one becomes an empty chair at our kitchen table.
let’s lace our hands
as if eternity is opening
up the veil into the great
mystery right in front of us
let’s feel our fingers against
each other as if this is the
last time we will touch before
we become celestial kites
let’s part our lips and say
what we should have said
to each other years ago:
“I love you.
I love you so.
I forgive you.
I’m sorry.
I’m blessed to know you.
I’m so grateful to you.”
My 5 Star Review:
Upon Departure is one of the best books I’ve read on heartfelt poetry, and on loving, life, and losing. After reading, Untied – the poetry of how knots become strings, also by Roedel, and as a writer myself, and one who is also living through grief, I will say that Roedel’s poetry speaks to me louder than some of the other many books I’ve read on grief. And this is simply because the rawness and realness of his pain jumps off the pages, especially to those of us who have also walked the walk – and are still walking through the haze of grief.
In this new release of prose and poetry, the book begins with a short introduction to Roedel’s journey of losing his father, the whirlwind of emotions, the unacceptance and disbelief, till the final acceptance, the ‘what ifs’ of doing things differently he experienced, and how the lingering effects continue through his own journey through life. In this beautiful book, you won’t find a table of contents, nor will you find titles of each poem, rather a story in prose spoken through poetry of words that paint pictures of loss, loving, hope, and eternal love, in metaphors. For anyone who loves emotional poetry, looking for comfort in poetry, or seeks a path in understanding grief, this is a book for you.
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poem #1 begins:
“I don’t care what form
you return to me
I just want you back”
The poem continues on with stanzas about how Roedel doesn’t care in which form ‘you’ appear to me in various appearances:
“If you come back to me
as our favorite song on the radio
I’ll pull the car over immediately
and let the music retell our love story
on 80s power ballad at a time…”
“If you come back to me
as a row of goosebumps on my bare arm
I will trace my fingers across my skin
Carefully so I can read the love letter
you wrote to me in spirit braille…”
“If you come back to me
As a passage in a book
I will grab the fattest eraser I can find
And get rid of all the periods so you
Can become a run-on sentence…”
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One of my favorites, Poem #10, grief summed up in a post card:
“Your grief is the purest love letter that you can ever send to the one you have lost to death…every tear that rolls down the grooves on your face is the most tender postcard you will ever write…”
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Poem #12
“…everybody that you have lost along the way
returns to you on your last day
-it turns out that
love is a boomerang.”
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Roedel has another wonderful book titled, Hey God, and wrote another excerpt for this book:
#13 – Me: Hey God…
“Grief keeps sneaking up on me.
God: To grieve means that you have loved. Grieving is one of the truest human experiences that you will ever participate in. It often arrives without warning – like a late-day summer storm – obscuring the sun and drenching you in downpour. It’s a gift, isn’t it?”
“…Bereavement is the debt you must pay for having loved. There is no getting over the loss of a beloved who is now resting in the arms of endless love. Grief has no expiration date. Despite the pass of time, the phantom pain of mourning is always one memory away from returning.”
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From poem #15
“Every tear of
Loss that we shed
Carries with it
The DNA-of the relationship
Of the love
Of the story
That two people
Once shared…”
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Poem #16 might be my favorite:
Tells about the writer stating he’s just a tourist in the world, and writes of all earthly experiences and possessions he’ll leave behind:
“…except for my
thoughts of you
-they are coming with me…”
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Poem #22 – Where the author uses metaphors likening grief to a field of “rosebushes and bees”
“…Grief is a stretching field full
of thick beautiful rose bushes
and bees that you must travel
through to get to the other side…”
“…On the other side of the field of
grief is another – even bigger field
of grief that has even more beautiful
rose bushes and even angrier bees
and even more pointy thorns that you
must get through…”
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Poignant moments:
“Being mortal means that we are all caught in a loop of meeting each other at Baggage Claim…”
Roedel goes on to say “To grieve the death of a beloved isn’t something that we check off in a box. Once we experience grief it changes us forever. Grief transforms us. Grief doesn’t just stay for a weekend, Grief moves into the loft of our hearts…”
“Grief isn’t an obstacle we overcome – it’s a masterclass in what it means to be human.”
“It can take a lifetime to find peace when our loved one becomes an empty chair at our kitchen table.”
“Life is life
there can be no after
for something that never ends…”
“…because love is the act of holding hands with
another person and counting to infinity by twos…”
“There is this unspoken call for us to have our wounds become scars long before they are ready to.”
“To grieve means that we have taken the risk to love without fear.”
“These tears are proof.
Of what?
That I loved.”
“It’s okay, my love. Eternity is holding me. Death isn’t an end. Death is a threshold. I’m still here. I never left. Love doesn’t die. I remain. There is no afterlife. There is only life. I’m here wih you. Love doesn’t die.”
“…After somebody that you love dies, it feels as if you have lost a limb. Even years later there can be phantom pains that can send you to your knees…”
©DGKaye2022
Hi Debby, What a great review and such incredible poetry – no wonder you loved it. Hugs, Toni x
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Thanks Toni. ❤
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Thanks for the review Debby and from the excerpts you share John Roedel has experienced and observed every aspect of the devastation of loss. I am sure a comfort to those who find it difficult to express their own emotions about grief…♥♥
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So true Sal. It’s a beautiful book to pick up again from time to time and pull a passage too. ❤ xx
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Hi Debby – these poems sound ideal for so many – and obviously resonate with you … thanks for mentioning John Roedel to us – cheers Hilary
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Hi Hilary. John’s poetry is unique, and sure to strike a chord with every reader. Hugs x
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What lovely poems! Thanks for sharing your review, Debby. x
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Thanks Stevie. Truly, heartfelt poetry. Hugs xx
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A beautiful review, Debby, and although I haven’t read any of John Roedel’s books, judging by the fragments you share, he is amazing. Thanks for the recommendation. ♥
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Thanks Olga. His poetry is always unique and heartfelt. Timeless books we can pick up again and pull a passage from. ❤
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“heartfelt poetry”–what a great way to describe it, Deb. Thanks for sharing his poetry.
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Thanks for reading Jacqui ❤
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What a beautiful review, Debby. Sometimes poetry just cuts to the chase in a way that prose can’t. It’s evocative and as you shared… it’s emotionally raw. I loved the many bits of poetry that you shared and can see why this book spoke to you. Beautiful imagery often speaks louder than words. Thanks for sharing your review and recommendation. Hugs.
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Thanks so much Diana. The imagery is beautiful – similar to how you paint your stories. ❤
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HI Debby, thank you for sharing about this book of poetry. It is very revealing and hard hitting. I shy away from thoughts of death and live in a sort of blind denial that my parents will live forever.
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Thanks Robbie. I hear you well. I used to do the same. Life hits, and then we are so glad there are beautiful books like this to soothe our souls. ❤
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Wonderful review of a book of poetry. I could say a book of beauty, and I do.
I know this is coming from a very personal place.
Thank you for all the quotes! It helps me understand the dimensionality of this book! xx
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Thanks so much for reading Resa. I’m so glad you enjoyed the quotes too. Hugs xx
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HUGS BACK!! xx
Sent you an email with a link and password for the Honest Eds post!
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Woohoo, thanks for letting me know (I’m so bad checking those, lol). Oddly enough, I was just writing a bit about that! Psychic much? Lol xxx
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You can feel free to change questions, or add anything you want!!! xxxxx
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I shall reply ❤
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xoxo I’m so excited. Your name is hot in 1 place, and if someone clicks on your pic, that is hot, too!
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You are so funny! ❤
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OH! Just to let you know, I took all of the pics in this post, so we are good to go on the intellectual property. xx
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I never doubted you ❤
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Great review, Debby 🙂 It sounds like a powerful read, and beautiful excerpts you included.
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Thank you Denise xx
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Poetry has such a unique way of reaching readers that other genres cannot… And it sounds like this book did exactly that for you, Debby. I am glad you found the read during this time and it helped, even a small bit, in your healing journey. Thank you too for sharing with us so openly here. HUGS
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Thanks so much Christy. Indeed, poetry speaks personally to each one who reads it. I’m so glad you enjoyed my review. Hugs xx
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What a wonderful book, Debby! I am heading over to grab it. Thank you for your wonderful review!
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Oh fantastic Jan. I’m addicted to John’s writing. Enjoy! ❤
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As you’ve no doubt noticed before, I’m neither a big reader nor much of a poetry writer. I try to extend myself now and then. Roedel’s work seems quite accessible to me and I can see how it fits in your world right now.
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Thanks John. And yes, not every book is for everybody, but with my reviews there is sure to be one that strikes someone. 🙂
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John’s poetry is unique and heartfelt. Just like you, our lovely UB. No wonder it resonates. A beautiful review and John will be touched. ❤ My lovely. Words are so powerful. ❤ ❤
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Thank you so much Jane. I follow him on FB, and tagged him on Twitter with my review. He was thrilled. Thanks again for the introducing me to his writing, UB. ❤ xx<3
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I can see why this collection resonated with you. In fact, I found a line that I can adapt to an idea in my next book. Roedel’s work seems original–and authentic. Who ever thought of “grief as a natural wonder”?
Thanks for sharing an author I’d never discover without your showcasing him here. Hugs to you, Debby!
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Thanks so much Marian. I’m glad to hear Roedel’s work caught your attention and has given you some food for thought. Hugs x
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Poem #1 in particular resonates with me.
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Thanks Liz. I’m glad you enjoyed reading. ❤
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You’re welcome, Debby.
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This was beautiful poetry, Sis. I think you should explore the poetic realm yourself. Adding grief poetry to your podcast would also be a lovely addition. This was a fab review. ❤️
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Funny you say that Sis, I have quite a few poems written over this time. More food for thought. ❤
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You could end each podcast with a poem from the heart. ❤️ ❤️🩹
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Thanks Sis for you’re always having great ideas ❤
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I don’t know about that. LOL! 🤣
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🙂 🙂 ❤
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