Grief Real Talk

Grief the Real Talk – D.G. Kaye in her First Introductory #Podcast

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I finally did it! I’ve put up my first #podcast on anchor.fm, and Spotify, and Soundcloud. I’ve had pre-written episodes ready for over two months now, but had to spend some time learning some recording ropes on the anchor platform. I’m no novice when it comes to sharing my thoughts and experiences, but recording was a whole ‘nother experience.

Because I’m quite the amateur when it comes to recording, I am SO not well-versed in the editing part of recording. Editing, yes, this is the part when while recording and a blip comes out of my mouth that I don’t wish to share with the universe. This could be anything from a missed word, a missed pronounciation, a ding notification coming in from nearby computer, or anything. As it turns out, I attempted for hours to record from my laptop, but it just wasn’t working with interruptions. So I went to my phone and did the recording there. I was concerned the sound wouldn’t be that great, but was pleasantly surprised that the quality sounded just like my laptop’s recorder – despite my never liking the sound of my own voice. Okay, maybe not radio quality, but pretty acceptable, I think.

I hope you will take under eight minutes, when you have some minutes, to listen to my podcast. I’d be interested in comments about suggestions, or your opinions on how you felt about episode one, the context, and what you thought about the quality of sound.

Also, I wasted another few hours trying to do a simple thing like try and load the video to Youtube. At first it was because I had to convert the file to an acceptable form for Youtube, that entailed another hour or so looking for a good file converter. Then, for no valid reason it still wouldn’t download. I wasted more hours Googling the problem, to no avail. No solutions or helpful videos, wasted hours of my time. What I did see in support groups were angry people at Youtube’s changed downloader, giving them all the same grief, but no solutions. So if any of you Youtubers here have any ideas why it kept telling me ‘process abandoned’ while in the creating video download stage, I’d welcome your thoughts. The video is in the correct format, it’s under the fifteen minute mark and has all the right speeds, so I’m baffled.

Thanks for listening.

x

Episode One – Introduction to Grief – The Real Talk

On Anchor.FM

On Soundcloud

https://on.soundcloud.com/74Uik

Voila! Update! Finally got it on Youtube!

Grief the Real Talk

©DGKaye2022

103 thoughts on “Grief the Real Talk – D.G. Kaye in her First Introductory #Podcast”

  1. Congratulations, Debby! I collaborate at a radio station, and although I’ve been there for a few years now, getting the right message across can be challenging, so you’ve done remarkably well. From the sample I’ve listened to, it sounds very good.
    I have posted some videos to YouTube, but it was some time ago, and many were simply slideshows with added music. For the most recent ones, I used Zoom and recorded the session with myself alone (as it gives you the chance to share a screen if you need to), and that allows you to save it in different formats, and, if I recall correctly, even share it on YouTube, but it’s been a while since I have used it. If you dare, you might also try to stream one of the sessions live on YouTube and save it as well. I think it is possible to edit those videos too, but it is a bit of a slow process.
    Not sure any of my advice is worth a penny or is even up-to-date, but congratulations again, and good luck!

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  4. Very brave, to start a podcast but, mostly, to do so about such an intensely personal topic. As you say, many who grieve need to talk about it. People you love never really leave you – and, personally, I find that comforting. All the very best to you, Debby.

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  14. Wow, Debby. Your podcast seemed flawless to me. So professional, and you have a gorgeous speaking voice. I didn’t hear one hiccup, so whatever you did, it worked. I think you found your calling with this. Keep up the beautiful work.

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    1. Wow, thanks so much Diana. I hope it takes off. We shall see. Lol, I don’t like listening to my own voice, but, the time has come. Flawless! Lol, after about 4747738 tries, I finally smoothed it out 🙂 xx

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  15. Nicely done, Debby! 👌 It sounds professional and you have a lovely voice. I’m sure you will help many people who are going through a similar experience with grief. Hopefully, you will also find solace in it. ❤

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  16. Well done, Debby. I’ll have a listen when I have better internet, one of these days. I applaud you for trying something entirely new! Yes, editing takes heaps of time (it’s one of the reasons why we are not interested in becoming YouTubers) and figuring out a new endeavor from scratch can be frustrating and super time consuming.

    I recently participated in a podcast (which was a “live” recording as my friend we were staying at is the podcaster) and her 5-year-old daughter kept interrupting. My friend managed to “cut” her out during the editing process, but the interruptions and distractions threw me off. I lost my train of thought. I don’t know how she works like this! I haven’t heard the recording yet, though. Like you, I don’t like the sound of my own voice.

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  17. Goodness, you sound like you’ve been doing that for years! Congratulations, your speaking voice is very mellifluous, and the background music is perfect. I wish you every success with this, I’m guessing the biggest challenge might be reaching your audience at first?

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    1. Hi Deb.Thank you so much for your kind kudos. It didn’t come easy, and yes, the audience thing. I was hoping to get it up on Youtube, but just wasted half another day converting to 5 million formats to no avail. I thought I’d test out the platform there, but Youtube/Google is no help and neither are the 100 help videos I watched lol. That’s where I wanted to gauge my audience. So thanks for the great feedback. 🙂 ❤

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  18. It was wonderful to hear your voice, Debby. You have a very pleasant voice. I wish you all the best in reaching out to all those who need to hear your words. I’m sure they will be comforting and soothing to many.
    I admire your courage and persistence in diving into this unknown universe of the Podcast. ❤ Bravo!

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  19. Fantastic, Deb! Your intro hits on all the key points and should attract many listeners. The sound quality is excellent. Your voice is very soothing, comforting, which I’m sure grief listeners will appreciate. Well done, sister! Wishing you great success on this new journey. Hugs ❤️❤️

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    1. Hi T. Thank you so much for your boost of confidence. I’m glad you feel I will resonate with listeners. I’ve been struggling with Youtube for 2 days now to no avail, to try and spread my message. ❤ ❤

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      2. Mercury is alive and well until first week October. With me, failure after failure and hours wasted in searches, but I finally found the right help and got the video up! It’s a tough thing to fight off the mercury forces! xx

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  20. Congratulations, Debby, on your first podcast! I thought it was perfect. You have a lovely speaking voice – clear and soft – nicely paced and with the sound levels just right. The choice of music worked really well and wasn’t intrusive. This is going to be a series valued by those who are grieving and who feel alienated from those who don’t understand what they are going through. You will bring comfort along with a reassurance that they aren’t alone. All power to you! xx

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    1. Thank you so much Trish for your generous feedback and kind heart. That makes me happy to hear. I am hoping this series takes off, especially if I can get it to a wider audience. Thank you. ❤ xx

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  21. Congratulations, Debby! You sound wonderful. The sound quality is excellent. I think you will have a huge following for your podcast. You are an expert on grief, Deb. By definition, the word ‘expert’ means ‘experienced’ and that you are. 🙂 Your voice has lovely inflection.

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  22. FABULOUS!!! I am beyond excited about your podcast, Debby. I have already signed up to follow on Spotify. You have a marvelous voice and a profound and insightful message. I know that you will bring comfort and hope to listeners.

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  23. Fantastic, Debby – I loved hearing your voice (for the first time) and it sounded so inspirational and down-to-earth. I also liked the length. This will be a great comfort to many people. Hugs and applause, my friend. Toni x

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  24. So good to hear your voice, lovely UB. You sound professional with many years of experience behind you. You are a natural. You will reach many with love, comfort and hope. Words are so powerful and yours are from your heart. ❤ xXx ❤

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    1. Thanks so much for listening my UB, and the positive feedback. I truly hope I will be able to offer some comfort to others as the series continues. I’m over the moon at people’s responses here. Thank you again so much my Lovely ❤ xxx ❤

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  28. What a fabulous introduction to your podcast, Debby. Well done! Your voice is very soothing and welcoming. I’m certain others, especially those also experiencing grief, will be drawn to your podcast for comfort and support. It was wonderful to hear your voice. I will now be able to read your blogpost in ‘Debby’. I think this is perfect.

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  29. Congratulations on your first podcast it sounded very good, Debby and with the right pace its also a great idea for anyone who is grieving…Good Luck! I hope you sort utube out 🙂 xx

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  30. Hi Debby – many congratulations … I totally endorse your commenters in their praise of you for this podcast … it certainly gelled with me. All the very best – Hilary

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  32. There’s voice and sound; then there’s content. The audio quality is outstanding–as is your voice itself. The script on grief–yours and generically, is right on point. Congratulations, DG 🙂 Soundcloud wanted more info than I wanted to supply.

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  34. Congrats on getting your podcast uploaded on YouTube, Debby. I had a chance to listen to it and your voice comes through great! You sound like a pro and the recording was crisp and clear. Did you write the script out and then read it? Wishing you success with your podcast series! Xox

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    1. Thanks so much for listening, and for your lovely compliment Liesbet. Oh yes, of course, I’ve written a dozen episodes a few months ago. Then had to learn the ropes of podcasting, and of course the struggles of getting them up after, lol. Hugs for listening. xxxx

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  36. I wanted to sit down and listen to your words and thoughts when I had no distractions, Debby. That finally happened tonight, and I’m glad I waited until I could focus because we shouldn’t push aside someone’s grief like it’s an ordinary blog post. It’s almost more insulting to write meaningless statements like “good job” than to say nothing.

    One of the tricky parts, especially for those who haven’t experienced the loss of a loved one, is knowing what to say. I have not lost a spouse, so comparing my experiences with yours is hard. The only other loss I think that might be comparable is the loss of a child—something I’ve not experienced either. I have grieved the loss of my parents, yet that’s not the same either because Dad lived into his 80s and Mom into her 90s. When their time came, I think they were ready. That provided solace to me.

    It may seem callous to compare the loss of a pet to that of a human, yet I’ve been through those feelings several times. We had to put our dog down at the beginning of Covid, and my wife and I are still grieving today. He only lived to be eight and was the best pet we’ve ever had. I think something about the sudden passing (in this case, the end came much faster than expected) that factors in processing a death.

    I think you’re on to something with real talk. Books may help people get through difficult challenges, but what humans need most are connections, to know that our feelings matter and that others can relate to those thoughts.

    Your first podcast was great, and I think the sound quality was excellent.

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    1. Hi Pete. I want to thank you so much for all you said. First, that you didn’t just want to click the play button and write something meaningless. Second, there is no diminishing the loss of a pet as they become like people’s family. Yes, I’ve lost so many in my life, including my beloved father, which I thought was the end of my world while I grieved. BUT NOTHING, and I mean nothing even topped the grief chart than losing our other half. As you say, only the loss of a child could compare or top. And as I say, the more we loved, the more it’s going to hurt. And I’ve read tons of books on the subject, which have been helpful in some ways, but like you mentioned, it’s the connections with others going through the ‘sameness’, that only they can comprehend the depths of loss – any loss So for those who don’t have people they can nod their heads with and feel a sense of belonging somewhere with their grief, I thought this would be something worth trying. Thank you. ❤

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  37. Wow Debby you have been busy… LOVED listening to your podcast on Grief. and your clear soothing voice was calm and captivating Debby..
    The journey of grief such as you are travelling I know varies in how we cope, adapt and survive.. I am pleased to see you channelling your wonderful energy in this new direction.
    It seems like it has been a whole new learning curve which you have navigated extremely well..

    I did toy with the idea of podcasting a poem or two.. But my voice….. lol….. I don’t think any of us enjoy listening to ourselves via recordings lol…
    But at the moment I have all on keeping abreast of blogs and creating blogs on my own site LOL…

    You made an excellent recording Debby and I know that you will help to serve many who are experiencing similar circumstances to navigate their own emotional journeys ..

    Much love dear Debby Hugs your way ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Sue, thanks so much for your encouragement and lovely words. And thanks for listening. Believe me, I think we all cringe at our own voice lol – almost like feeling naked LOL. I do hope this podcast stuff takes off. I will gauge the interest in the next few episodes and see if it leads anywhere. Love and hugs back your way Sue. ❤ xxxxx

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  38. Oh, Debby, this is BIG news, and it’s so courageous of you to be vulnerable and share your journey to help others. As you say in your first episode, it’s real talk. Not only will you help those who are grieving but also the loved ones of those who are going through it. I listened to your first episode, and you have a very warm and understanding tone in how you talk. Do you want to come over for an interview to talk about the podcast launch? If so, feel free to email christy@whenwomeninspire.com ((no pressure))

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    1. Hi Christy. Wow, thank you so much for listening, and your kind feedback. I would love to come over and chat with you about my podcast. I will send you an email for sure!. Thank you. ❤ xx

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  39. Congratulations Debby. This podcast is right on! You have the perfect voice for a podcast.

    My soul mate, best friend and hubby is still with me. Many a night I have watched him sleeping, knowing I might be left alone one day, or leave him behind.
    My biggest grief time…yes that un-fillable hole, my body numb, my heart heavy and my mind a mess was when mom passed. I was a zombie for days. I was making strange choices in life. I believe I was trying to find another one.
    I turned to creativity. I decided I needed to make something beautiful, to counteract the ugly. That’s when I made my first Art Gown.
    After all I went through, I am somewhat in fear of what will happen if I am left without the love of my life?
    I do not know your exact grief pain, but I know a grief pain.

    I think your podcast will be a comfort to many.
    Will you have guests on, to speak with you, one on one about their shared experiences.?
    Whatever, however you proceed, I know you will help many.

    My respects,
    Resa
    {{hugs}}

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    1. Hi Res. Thanks for sharing some of your own fears here. I know many times I’d turn around in bed to check if my husband was breathing, because he was so quiet in bed. I lost my father and felt the world had ended too. There is no comparison to losing the love of your life. May you never know it. And as for my podcast. I’ll be putting up a 2nd next week. When I see how the traffic and interest flows I’ll think about going to video and doing interviews. Thanks for the inspiration. Hugs my friend. xoxo

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      1. May I never know it. Thank you!
        Still, the fear remains.
        I hope your podcast is a huge success!
        I am so impressed with your candour and intelligence! xoxo

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