Grief Real Talk

#Grief – The Real Talk with D.G. Kaye – Podcast #2 Memory, Triggers, Health Check

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I’ve posted my second audio podcast recently in my #grief series – Grief – The Real Talk. This week I’m talking about how memories can trigger darkness, despite them being good ones. I also talk about the importance of taking care of our health – especially while we are in deep grief – the part where we tend to ignore our own needs, and the possible repercussions.

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59 thoughts on “#Grief – The Real Talk with D.G. Kaye – Podcast #2 Memory, Triggers, Health Check”

      1. A beautiful podcast. I could listen to you talk all day, Debby. You have such a soothing voice! It’s so often the tiniest things, which we would never normally notice, that trip us up and trigger a fresh tsunami of grief. I listen with rapt interest about the broken heart. A recent medical study showed a direct link between a broken heart and sudden death, unexplained death even with normal arteries, etc. Here’s a link to a John’s Hopkins post about Broken Heart Syndrome: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/broken-heart-syndrome#:~:text=Broken%20heart%20syndrome%20can%20be,Low%20blood%20pressure

        It talks about shock, adrenaline, and stress hormones. So, it looks as though medicine is catch up to a thing many of us have known intuitively already.

        I’m so pleased you got help and got through that critical period. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences, my friend. Hugs and love 💕🙂

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      2. Harmony, thank you so much for taking the time to listen, and your compliment has been very inspiring for me. Also, thank you for that link. I just read it, and surely someone like me who has lived it knew well how someone so steeped in grief could die from a broken heart if they have no help to ease them through it. How many times have we heard of someone older losing a spouse and in a short time the other follows? Let’s take the Queen for example. She lost her beloved Philip last April ( 2 days after I lost my husband), and for the past year she started to get unwell. After 70 years together and losing your other half, of course that does something to a person. I had a lot of experience taking care of my husband’s health long before he became seriously ill, so I learned through those events to pay attention to warnings. I do hope my podcasts get heard and find people who feel a kinship there knowing there’s a place where we understand the effects of grief. Thank you again my lovely friend. ❤ xx

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  2. Excellent stuff, Debbie. One of the essential things you talked about was how little things that most non-grievers would fail to understand might trigger you. I had never considered how walking past items you used to buy for your husband were hard.

    Self-care is always important, but it’s especially critical for those who have suffered a loss.

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    1. Thanks for asking Christy. I actually am. It’s the writing of the episodes that are helpful. just as writing through this last year and a half have been my savior of sanity. Hugs my friend. ❤ xx

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  10. Though my heart breaks for what you are going through, Debby, I want to say, “Thank you,” for having the courage to reach out and help other dealing with grief/anxiety. You will never know how many lives you have touched. As a survivor of work related PTSD, I can relate to ‘triggers’ and memories. Thank you, again!

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  12. This is such wonderful advice, Debby, and so generous of you to share your story of grief. We are surrounded by reminders and triggers, and no one else can fully understand just how we feel. While I haven’t lost a spouse, I have lost others close to me and the same rings true, though perhaps not with the same depth. I also agree with what you said in the beginning, that there are no ‘right’ words that anyone can say. There is nothing that can be said or done to take away the grief, but it helps when they are there to offer support.

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    1. Thanks so much for listening Norah. It’s a fact that there really are no words of comfort, but knowing somebody can be there for us just to sit and hold space or offer an ear, goes a long way. Hugs ❤

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  13. Hi Debby – I’m sure your podcasts help so many … Grief is just such a desperate time … with thoughts – Hilary

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      1. Sorry it takes me so long to get here… I’m off in writing and designing land so I disappear. I think these podcasts are helping you, as well as others. You’re really doing a fantastic job on these. 🌹

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  16. Hi Debby, your voice is so soothing and your advice is conveyed through honesty and vulnerability. Grief bombards all of us in different ways and at different times, but no one is exempt. So your podcast will surely help others who are walking down a similar road. I think it’s wonderful that you’re doing this, not only for yourself, but for other heavy hearts as well. Hugs ❤️

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    1. Oh thanks so much for your kind feedback Lauren, and for taking the time to listen. I truly hope the podcasting takes wings, but one never knows until we at least try right? Hugs ❤

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    1. Hi Michael. Thank you so much for listening. And thank you for sharing. Can you tell me why I can never come to your blog? It always say ‘coming soon’ and won’t open? Hugs xx

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      1. Hi Debby! Sorry for that, but this with my blog is something like a never ending story. In 2018 i had to privatise it for reasons of the different GDPR-regulations in Germany. We are not allowed using this Jetpack Plugin. So i had to open another blog https://books.eslarn-net.de. But there i have to copy and paste postings, because Jetpack is not allowed also on own hosted blogs. I am using this WP-blog for the connection to other blogs, forwarding postings to Twitter, and gathering the new postings. I hope i have explained understandable. Lol Honestly, i am not a real friend of lawyers here in the region, and related to my investigative work some always seeking how they could sue me. Best wishes, Michael

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  19. This is great, Debby!
    Your manner and voice are comforting, yet practical.
    You tell it like it is.
    I re-listened to half of 1, again, a refresher.
    You bring much to mind.
    Thank you for this!

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  20. I couldn’t miss this Podcast dear Debby and not comment….. I feel your heartache…. as you relive those painful memories… You are helping to release and let go of your grief by sharing your heart this way..
    And yes… Nothing will ever be the same… and those simple every day routines such as shopping for one, broke me up …
    And I so empathise with you as you describe your not eating…. and those depressive thoughts and anxiety..

    Thankfully you are turning a corner and these Podcasts are helping you and along with many more who will listen to your soothing voice how to navigate through these painful moments of Grief, as they see how you did, that you needed to learn how to take care of yourself…

    Many thanks for sharing your journey Debby…. Sending love and hugs my friend ❤ xx

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    1. Dear Sue, thank you so much for having a listen, and for your most heartfelt and encouraging words. I truly hope through my journey I can somehow help to guide others through this slippery trail. Thank you so very much my lovely. ❤ xox

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  22. Dammit, I know I left a comment here and it seems to have vanished!
    If you can’t find it, I just wanted to say how happy I am that you realised you needed to take care of yourself before you got into a dire state, and what excellent advice to share. While I’ve not had the same type of loss as you, I’ve had others, and I know how every moment of your day becomes taken up with thinking about it, and not about yourself. Take care, my friend, and I hope your podcast takes off – you have plenty of value to offer in your beautiful reading voice.

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    1. Deb, thanks so much for your encouraging words – and for rewriting your comment that WP seems to have sent to the ethers, lol. Also, I remember well when you were looking after your parents and how hard it was for you when they passed. I do hope my words will connect with those seeking kinship and solace. Hugs ❤

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