Book Review by Tina Frisco – P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

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Book reviews by D.G. Kaye

 

 

It’s one of those Sundays that I couldn’t help but share another wonderful review I received as a pleasant surprise by friend and author Tina Frisco on my book, P.S. I Forgive You.

P.S. I Forgive You

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Blurb:

 

I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

Customer Review

on September 1, 2017

Parenthood does not come with a user manual. Children learn parenting skills from the adults in their lives. They generally emulate what they see and experience. If their lifelong experience is a negative one, they might be inclined to perpetuate it. But this does not have to be so.

In her compelling memoir, P.S. I Forgive You, D.G. Kaye reveals the habitual neglect and abuse she and her siblings suffered at the hands of an envious, threatening, narcissistic, and deceitful mother.

It takes courage, strength, and determination to prevail over hardship, especially when it is a constant in childhood; especially when a parent perpetrates neglect and abuse. But it is not impossible to overcome adversity when one focuses their intention.

Kaye shows us how to take the energy consumed by feeling mistreated, hurt, fearful, and guilty, and instead make it work for us by directing that energy toward building self-esteem, fortitude, and positive intention. She tells us how she reacted as a child, and then shows us how, as an adult, she turned a negative into a positive. Acceptance, compassion, and forgiveness are major players in this scenario, a dynamic that tested the author’s resilience, challenged her conscience, and ultimately allowed her to triumph over the all-consuming adverse conditioning perpetrated by her demanding narcissistic mother.

I highly recommend this book to anyone whose childhood was hijacked by a neglectful and abusive parent, and who would like to learn how to break free and live a happy healthy life.

50 thoughts on “Book Review by Tina Frisco – P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

  1. This is a beautifully penned review, dear Debby… I love how Tina started talking about Parenthood… It entails a shift of POV and great way to begin, by the way… Very original 😉 Congrats on the excellent, compelling review! ❣️ ❣️

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  2. A heartfelt and thoughtful review by Tina that resonates with understanding and warmth. I was drawn into the review from the very first sentence and enjoyed her original approach. Congratulations, Debby! ❤️?

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  3. This is one heck of a review, Debby! And so nice to see Tina’s name here.. I do miss her. I’m sending big hugs to you both ~ Keep rockin’ the literary world, Debby ❤

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  4. Deb, fantastic review!! Congrats, as always. I am just now getting to catch up a bit with blogland. We now have a temporary internet set up until AT&T can get the rest of us up and running. My book is complete and I have a couple of women reading it for editing. I’m excited and anxious, but patience is working her good on me with a lot of faith.

    Keep up the good work and I’ll be in touch.

    Blessings,

    Marianne xo

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    1. Oh fantastic Marianne. Looking forward to your new book! I’m working on edits with my latest too. I know how busy we are. Always lovely to see you drop by. And thanks for the lovely kudos my friend. Hugs to you. xoxo

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  5. ONLY Tina would post a review in the midst of everything she is dealing with during her time “away.” What a wonderful review from a wonderful writer and a wonderful friend. SO glad you posted it, Deb.

    I think we have all missed Tina’s open heart and well-penned words and it is so nice to see that she appreciates yours as well. (I certainly do). ❤
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    "It takes a village to transform a world!

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      1. Yes – extremely sad to see how the coaching field has developed in the many years since the days of its optimistic infancy. “Just business” competition is totally out of integrity with what the field claims to stand for. But then, not many therapists help promote other therapists either. The writers blogging community is delightfully RARE, in my experience.

        Some days I feel like I wasted my life and squandered my resources starting the field, now that the “six-figure coaching” meme seems to have taken root with ‘small pie’ minds – as I sit here watching every penny, wishing I had the great deal of money I spent starting the field BACK. ::sigh::

        I could have put 2 kids thru college instead, for example — and took no salary the entire time, funding OFI as well as my own expenses from my private practice to keep fees in reach for as many people as possible to be trained to “compete” with me. It makes me feel like a naive idealist as I look back now.

        Making me crazy(er), 🙂 some idiot now advertises that he can turn therapists into certified coaches in a weekend training (really – on LinkedIn, even). Even bigger idiots pay the freight and sign up for it and consider themselves “trained,” loosed on an unsuspecting public. (For context, my students spent several YEARS in weekly classes with OFI’s training – not only more hours in total, but sufficient time to *develop* their skills in coaching labs, etc.)

        ICF certification requires thousands of hours of coaching and training, of course, but ICF is fairly clue-free outside the neurotypical box – and many ADD coach trainings have caved, now putting what I call “ADD icing on a ‘vanilla’ cake” to sell their trainings with the ICF “stamp of approval.”

        Nobody seems to get that it makes no sense to require “teachers for the blind” to be certified to teach reading to the sighted — especially since some of the neurotypical core concepts fly in the face of brain-basics. I got worn out trying to explain the difference to deaf ears.

        To be honest, part of the reason I began posting content from my proprietary coaching manual on my blog for free (besides the fact that it was being pirated and sold, of course) was an “up yours!” to those in the field who were more interested in making a dollar than changing a life! NOT that it stemmed the tide much – or helped my economic situation – lol.

        This is the first time I’ve put this out in public, actually, feeling how I do about make-wrong.

        I used to say – and still believe – “If you want to sell something, sell CARS, not lives!”
        xx,
        mgh

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      2. Wow, that was a powerful truth M. And I agree with you on so many counts. Your story isn’t much different from what is the current status of many underqualified people in various fields passing themselves off as experts. How about those working in retail stores that when you ask a question about a product, they don’t even know their products but merely pull out their cell phones to Google the answer! That annoys the crap out of me. Happens all the time in Best Buy. The good old days are certainly gone.
        One word of advice I’ve given you before is too put all your content in a book. May as well sell your own work!
        I’m with you Sister! ❤

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      3. Thanks for reading my rant. I left for Tink’s Cheers bar right after I hit send, and I’m not quite so down now.

        I spent some time tonight talking to a chef complaining that many of the servers where he worked couldn’t even pronounce the basic foods they had to order and serve. If it isn’t McNuggets or fries, they have no idea what the foods even are — with zero culinary curiosity. Drives him crazy. So I guess we’re not alone, huh. Minimum wage struggles of those with not much education?

        Perhaps I DO need to edit and publish my manual. At least it will be out there under my own name. 🙂
        xx,
        mgh

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