Mistakes Were Made & The HIGH Cost of Free – Kristen Lamb


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 Today’s share comes with some excellent advice from blogging/social media guru Kristen Lamb.  Kristen talks about the ‘cost of free’ when it comes to the pitfalls of working on a ‘free’ blogsite if you’re trying to sell books or anything else. She explains the drawbacks of different aspects of a blogsite that aren’t available to use if you don’t own your own domain.


I thought this post was timely because of my recent website woes I’ve been having with self-hosted. I’ve been getting a lot of feedback from other authors stating they don’t want the hassles of self-hosting, so I thought I’d share Kristen Lamb’s reasoning for owning your own website. Enjoy!


Mistakes Were Made & The HIGH Cost of Free

“I am a Generation Xer through and through, in life and in regards to my profession. I didn’t “come of age” as a writer in the digital world. I decided to become an author in a world with typewriters and snail mail, where we went to libraries to research and the only way to connect with an agent was to drop several hundred bucks to go to a conference.

I had to struggle to find my way in a world I’d only believed was possible in science fiction, which was super fun namely because NO ONE knew what the hell they were doing. Back in 2006 we really had no good way of discerning solid advice from sheer BS.

Many of y’all know my story. I did NOT set out to become a social media guru. In fact the word guru makes me itch. It just kind of happened because I am a know-it-all and a meddler. I joke that my first social media book should have been called, I Did All the Dumb Sh%$ So You Don’t Have To.

I bitched so much about people doing it wrong (or teaching it wrong) that I finally just wrote my own book ? .

Y’all can probably tell when I took over decisions on the cover, LOL.

Anyway, as I was saying…

If we want to sell books we must have a social media platform and brand. It is no longer a choice. But I will be blunt. You do NOT want to waste time by starting off wrong, and I will also tell you that there are still a ton of “experts” who have zero business teaching this stuff.

Seriously, I thought we would be past these yahoos teaching social media by about 2011 but they are still around so BEWARE. Just last year (2016) I went to a conference and there were five social media classes, which I was eager to take since I am always learning. I walked out of every single class so angry I couldn’t see straight.

In the blogging class, the instructor was teaching the very same stuff that landed me in a major mess, which we are about to talk about…” Continue Reading . . .


Source: Mistakes Were Made & The HIGH Cost of Free – Kristen Lamb

Guest author: D. Wallace Peach – Room to Breathe | Sue Vincent’s Daily Echo

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Today I chose to reblog a beautiful post by Diana Peach Room to Breathe. Diana wrote this post as a guest post for Sue Vincent’s blog and it resonated so much with me as I think it will with many other writers because it’s about the daily grind of a writer’s and author’s life. For many of us, the hours turn into days as we strive to continue writing books and keeping up with blogging, while trying to  squeeze in our ‘real life’ duties in what seems a constant race against the clock.

Room to Breathe


I’m delighted to guest blog today on Sue’s wonderful Daily Echo. I’m sitting in my recliner looking up, wondering what to write. There’s a ten-foot long spider web hanging from the ceiling fan to the beam over my head, gently blowing with the heat circulating around the room. Tapestries of cobwebs grace the corners of the high windows that I can’t reach without a ladder. More delicate threads crisscross the Christmas star that I never took down – from 3 years ago. I kid you not.

When my grandson was 2 years old, he said the house was “spooky.” I laughed but didn’t whisk them away despite the cute commentary.

It feels good to sit and stare for a few minutes, to breathe and relax and study the floating web and the way it catches the light.

I’ve been writing full-time for seven years and blogging for about five. It’s been a labor of love, but full time has been overtime, averaging between ten and twelve hours a day. I couldn’t get enough, and I let the rest of my life slide as I immersed myself in the glory of words and worlds, the lives of the characters inside my head.

I always felt as though I was making up for lost time. A new story would begin to weave, threading through my fingertips before the last one ended. If I paused the web I was spinning would falter, the pattern altered, not better or worse, just different.


In seven years, I took a few breaks, but they were always with a purpose, Continue Reading . . .



Source: Guest author: D. Wallace Peach – Room to Breathe | Sue Vincent’s Daily Echo

The #BloggersBash Blues – Am I Going to the Bash or Not?

Blogger's Bash Competition 2017



I have been looking forward to going to the Blogger’s Bash since I saw video and blog posts about how fun the last one was last year, and because so many of my wonderful British friends will be there.


When I formulate a plan to do something, I do it. I will move mountains and obstacles and arrange whatever it takes to see me through my mission. The only problem is, I can control my stuff, but I’m not in control of what fates are in store for the people I’m counting on to make my plan come to fruition. Also, when it comes to me and my best friend Zan, we’ve always had a third party meddle in our plans. In fact, this third party has been a part of our lives as long as we’ve been friends, and yet, we’ve always managed a way to dodge or work around “Murphy” and his motto: “If anything can go wrong, it will.”

D.G. Kaye and Zan


Zan and I laugh a lot, and even when there’s a matter we share between us that isn’t a laughing matter, we’ll instantly bring up “Murphy’s” name and blame circumstances on him, because his timing is the absolute worst. So here’s the thing, my plans to get to the Bash in the UK are on lockdown at the moment. Unlocking the plans will depend on whether Murphy sorts himself out before the day of the Bash, plus a day to let me get to the UK, and recover another from severe jetlag.


So here’s the scoop on my our (meaning mine and Zan’s predicament).


Zan is known as someone who is notorious for moving . . . a lot. She has bought, renovated, lived in, and sold many homes throughout her life. She emailed me in March while I was in Arizona to notify me that her house was once again on the market. She presumed the house would be sold and moved out of into a temporary rental while her and her husband built yet another house, but assured me, wherever she was at the time of the Bash, I’d be staying with her because I’m considered family and don’t require ‘guest’ attention or accommodation, a couch would be fine, and I could assist her in packing or unpacking, whatever the case would be at the time. But there have been several interjections by Murphy.


At first I was worried about going to the UK, leaving my husband alone for a week or so, but I had managed to arrange things on that front. Then Zan and I kept missing each other’s calls from Skype (time zone issues) and we finally got hold of one another and she updated me two weeks ago that the house issue was still dragging out with the lawyers of the buyers, and when it does confirm, she’ll have 28 days from that date to pack up, find a rental and move. Yes, the woman is an amazon warrior woman who gets shit done.


We kept stringently in touch of the updates so I could know when it was safe to book my trip and that I wouldn’t be landing in the UK on her actual moving date where I would also be relying on her to pick me up at Gatwick airport, a good hour and forty minute drive away from Kent each way, and the Bash date was growing closer as another week passed before the deal went through and the 28 days begin counting down.


A week ago, we spoke and the deal still wasn’t sealed but she told me to book my airfare anyway and we’ll deal with it when the time comes. Something nagged away at my subconscience and intuition, telling me to wait out the end of the week before booking and wait to confirm all was going to work out before I committed to an airline ticket I didn’t want to lose money on if I couldn’t go. Before last weekend approached Zan Skypes me again with her announcement ‘New Event Updates’, I knew full well that Murphy was making things difficult for both of us to connect.


At first Zan informed me that matters still weren’t sewn up with the house issue, but in the next breath, informed me that she’s coming to Toronto either this week or next. “Omg, what?????????” I threw my hands in the air and pretended to be tearing my hair out on camera as we talked on Skype.


Zan’s mom is ill, a suspected return of a cancer is quite possible. She lives here in Toronto, where Zan is originally from, and Zan’s sister is also ill, her sister being her only sibling and no other family to help their mother out, and considerably too much for her sister to take care of by herself. Of course with all the kerfuffle, we managed to laugh as Zan pointed out that Murphy was up to tricks again because she obviously didn’t have enough on her plate without having to fly back to Toronto in the midst of mayhem, which of course falls onto our plans of me coming there.


Zan said she will stay in Toronto for approximately 10 days to assess her mother’s situation and talk to doctors and when the house closes confirmed, will fly home to pack up her house in whatever time is left on the contract while her husband looks for a temporary home and if need be she’d hire packers to pack up her house, depending on the time frame left. So where does this leave me, besides the fact that I’ll get to spend time with my bestie while she’s here in Toronto?


So I said to her, if she comes and winds up having to stay till the end of May, we’ll fly to the UK together and I’ll still make the Bash. Now, we think that sounds good in theory and we’ve agreed that I shouldn’t book my fare until her life takes some more definite structure, and if things work out okay by mid to end of May, I’ll be purchasing a last minute flight to the UK. On the other hand, Zan isn’t certain if her mom could be living out her last days now, and may have to stay longer in Toronto and merely dash home to the UK for a few days to straighten out legalities and living arrangements and having to fly right back to Toronto again. So basically, Murphy has indeed interjected himself once again into our lives and plans, and as of this posting, I am unable to confirm that I am still coming to the Bash or not, depending on how all these chips fall.


If you found this post confusing, try being me and Zan, but then again, don’t even bother.


I know myself and many of my good friends who will be at the Bash are all waiting anxiously to spend some time and give each other some big hugs and I am doing my best to keep on top of the situation and am fully still willing to come to the UK, if Zan’s situation permits, up until within 3 days of the Bash if it should so work out that way and I can get a last minute deal for late booking as opposed to being robbed by an enormous price for same reason. So I just wanted to let my wonderful blogging friends here know the situation currently, because I know we’ve been anxiously waiting to meet, and if I can make it happen, I wanted you all to know what is entailed in order for me to do so.


Now that you’re all updated with as much as I know up to this point, I will certainly keep you all posted as Murphy the situation unfolds. As Zan says: “Pause, alert . . . watch this space.”


Oh, and I promised to give a shout out to Zan’s little grandies, Poppy and Barney, as they were visiting Zan when we last chatted and they were thrilled to show up in our Skype conversation wanting to know who their glamma was talking to and found it was cool to talk to their grandma’s best friend across the pond on a computer, and to be chatting with a ‘real’ author, lol.  I told you two little cuties I’d mention your name in this blog post. 🙂 Now go to bed.

A List of Blogging Goals for My Hobby Blog – Marsha Ingrao

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Author, friend and prolific blogger, Marsha Ingrao, of all things travel and blogging is looking for help. Marsha’s two informative blogs are: Always Write and TC History Gal. Marsha is also starting up what I think will be a most informative and entertaining newsletter and is asking fellow bloggers to help her come up with a name for this newsletter and one of her blogs. She has also generously offered to pick a few favorite suggestions and offer a copy of MY little travel book, Have Bags, Will Travel to some lucky winners. She also offers a FREE PDF list of influential bloggers with suggestions of what you can expect to find from those blogs.


Read Marsha’s post below and visit some of her posts while you’re there. I promise there is something for everyone.


Have Bags, Will Travel D.G. Kaye


I Need a New Name


Ok, I want a new name for my blog. I don’t need a new URL. That remains tchistorygal.net because I was the Tulare County History Gal for a long time, and I love that identity.

Vincie picked out the name for my other blog, Always Write. I thought it was cute considering how bossy he thinks I am. ? I MAY be a little bossy.

Do you have any ideas you can share with me? Vincie and I need help. ?

If you have any blogging questions, head over to Always Write and or sign up for my blogging newsletter and grab your free PDF list of Influencer Bloggers. Or do both.

Or sign up for this brand new newsletter, yet to be named by you. It will be about traveling opportunities in Tulare County and beyond and fun posts about local events. Click here or click the picture to register.

blogging and traveling near and far
My old blog with a new name. Tagline: Blogging and Traveling Near and Far

Continue reading here.


Source: A List of Blogging Goals for My Hobby Blog – Marsha Ingrao

The Wonder of You Blog Party – yadadarcyyada

Blog party


Donna Parker of Vague Meanderings of the Broke and Obscure  (Yadadarcyyada,com) is hosting one of her fabulous blog parties. In her introduction to the party she is talking about: What if there was no more  . . . blogs, books to read, chocolate, kisses, etc., you get the picture, or erm, at least you will if you are used to her hilarious blog posts and matching memes to go with her thoughts. Head on over to Donna’s blog to enjoy her humor and to add a link to yourself or one of your own blog links to join the party.




The Wonder of You Blog Party

Sometimes, trying to write, or trying to blog, I think, it’s all been done? Is there anything new under this sun or any other? This world is old, ancient, instead of getting discouraged that it’s all been done, why not be inspired? What piece can we add to the puzzle of flesh and blood? Why not add to the delicious soup of humanity?


2. Remember the first song you heard? Did you think, no need to hear any more music.


3. First joke? You laughed and thought, did that, no need to laugh anymore.


4. Can there ever be enough smiles? Enough laughter? Enough joy?


9. What if no one wrote more books because, what else could they possibly add? No more books that make you: smile, cry, cringe, laugh, ponder, hope, fear, flinch, surrender, suffer, wallow, leap for joy, Breakfast Club fist pump, stay up late (just one more page, one more chapter…). Please continue reading


Source: The Wonder of You Blog Party – yadadarcyyada

We are The World Blogfest #WATWB – What is Gratitude? Linky signup

We are the World Blogfest


I am honored to be part of this group, #WATWB – We are the World Blogfest, and today’s post is my contribution to share kindness and positive messages instead of dwelling on some the negativity and woes of the world and to remind us about how to feel inspired and grateful.


Gratitude comes in many forms and is observed by many in different manners. Most often, gratitude finds its way into our daily lives by some of the little things we may not have taken notice of until such a situation presents itself. For example – a near miss of escaping an accident or mishap, which prompts us to acknowledge gratitude instinctively when we blurt out, “Thank goodness I  escaped that”, or perhaps we’ll exclaim a few words of gratitude if somebody compliments us or our work and we reply with a “thank you'”in acknowledgement as we are gratified with the praise.


But what about gratitude for the every day miracles we receive? Many times in life, these overlooked gifts life gives us are often taken for granted. In a world where much instability and chaos exists for some of us, we tend to react sharply when we learn of something unpleasant or unjust, without hesitation, voicing our opinions on distress, hurt or anger. But how would it be if we flipped that around and gave praise for the hidden miracles in life we receive daily? This wouldn’t only spread around some positive energy universally, but remind ourselves about the wonderful tender mercies we have received in our daily lives that we sometimes forget to recognize.


  • Did you wake up today?

  • Did you eat today?

  • Do you have a roof over your head?

  • Can you walk?

  • Are there loved ones who care about you?

  • Are you doing what makes you happy?

  • Do you live in a democratic society?

  • Can you name one nice thing somebody did for you today?

  • Are you in good health?

We may not be able to answer yes to every question, but certainly there’s something in that list for everyone to be grateful for.


Often these fundamental parts of life are overlooked because we expect them to just be part of our daily life until something goes awry do we notice how detrimental and life-altering we can find ourselves without any one of these components of life that fulfill us and give us quality life. This is why I’m reminding us all to take a moment every day to acknowledge gratitude for the abundance we have in our lives. It doesn’t matter how we do it, just that we do it. We can thank our maker, thank a loved one, do or say something kind to someone, write an inspirational quote or blog post, whatever stimulates our positive vibe and makes us and others feel good is gratitude acknowledged.


We can’t always change the world or circumstances within it, but dwelling on the negative only breeds more of the same. With that said, if we chose to dwell on the positive things in life instead, we could breed more of that into the universe. And the universe is always grateful for all things positive sent its way.


This post is written for #WATWB – Please feel free to add your gratitude below in comments and if I’ve inspired you to want to be part of the Blogfest and you wish to contribute a positive message post, please click on the Linky addon below where you can link your positive message to share with us all.


Note: A Kindness Donation to share for all

I would just like to add a lovely gesture from Tom’s Blog – Beyond the Sphere where he has designed candles to bring us light with various shades and symbols and offers anyone to help themselves to as many candles as you wish to add to your blogs and/or sidebars. I’ve chosen this one:

share the light candle


#WATWB takes place every last Friday of each month. To be a part of this inspirational blogfest and add a post of your own, please click the Linky Tool List below to join in!

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Click here to enter your link and view this Linky Tools list…

Would You Join We Are the World Blogfest? #WATWB


We are the World Blogfest


I want to share a fantastic blog idea Damyanti from the Daily Write came up with. She approached me to join in this beautiful blogfest idea to help spread kindness at a time in the world where we could all use a little positivity and encouragement to uplift us and our spirits instead of getting lost in the web of some of the unpleasantries of the world that is all around us on social media. I gladly accepted to become one of the monthly co-hosts upon my return from my vacation. But in the meantime, I’d like to invite all of you to read the introduction post to this wonderful idea and offer anyone to join in, or at least share some of these posts around on social media with the hashtag #WATWB (We are the world blogfest) 

Be the change!


Please read Damyanti’s post below and continue reading at her blog.


Social media and news in recent times has been filled with hate and negativity. Just as you cannot fight darkness, only light lamps, Hate and Negativity cannot be fought. You need to bring Love and Positivity forward instead.

I bring to you the We Are the World Blogfest, along with these fabulous co-hosts:

Belinda WitzenhausenEmerald BarnesEric Lahti, Inderpreet UppalKate Powell, Lynn Hallbrooks, Mary Giese, Michelle Wallace, Peter Nena, Roshan RadhakrishnanSimon Falk, Susan Scott, Sylvia McGrath, Sylvia Stein, Chrissie ParkerCarol Walsh.

We Are the World Blogfest” seeks to promote positive news. There are many an oasis of love and light out there, stories that show compassion and the resilience of the human spirit. Sharing these stories increases our awareness of hope in our increasingly dark world.

We will link to charities supported by the co-hosts, and you could choose to donate to some of them or add links to local charities you support, so we could all chip in to a good cause if we like.

Let us flood social media with peace and love, and “In Darkness, Be Light.” The first post for We Are The World Blogfest is on the 31st March 2017.

Continue Reading . . .



Source: Would You Join We Are the World Blogfest? #WATWB

Stuck #Writing Your Author Bio? Try The (Totally Not Serious) Author Bio Generator | Journey To Ambeth


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Helen Jones from Journey To Ambeth wrote a fun post about how to write an author bio.


“So I’ve been noticing a trend recently of, shall we say, somewhat overwrought author bios, in which every detail is teased into something magnificent, a picture of a life fabulously lived. I realise that there are, in fact, authors who do live wonderfully exciting lives but I also seem to remember a time when it wasn’t really important to know about it. A time when an author bio was a few lines at the end of a book . . .”Continue Reading 


Source: Stuck Writing Your Author Bio? Try The (Totally Not Serious) Author Bio Generator | Journey To Ambeth