Guest Friday Feature – Christy Birmingham on Mental Health Awareness #WATWB

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Today I’m delighted to introduce one of my oldest blogging friends, author, poet and huge advocate for empowering women, Christy Birmingham.

 

About Christy Birmingham

I have a BA in Psychology and have taken professional writing courses. I am an avid freelance writer, author, blogger and poet living in British Columbia, Canada and am the proud owner of the blogs Poetic Parfait and When Women Inspire.  I dedicate one blog to poetry and all kinds of literary goodness, while the other blog supports female-driven initiatives to impact and change the world positively. I have written two poetry books to date, Pathways to Illumination and Versions of the Self. My short story collection will release soon.

 

Christy runs two wonderful blogs – The Poetic Parfait and When Women Inspire.  On her Poetic Parfait blog you will find posts on poetry, short stories, writing and book reviews. At her When Women Inspire blog (which I’m all about and addicted to), you’ll find inspirational and informative articles on empowered women and issues that women have overcome through the decades on topics covering anywhere from health, feminism, politics, lifehacks, education, environment, and so much more.

I invited Christy to write a post for my Friday author feature today and she has chosen to write a post on mental health to share with us today.

Christy Birmingham

 

Mental Health and Friendship: The Importance of the Company You Keep

When Debby asked me to guest post on her blog, I immediately knew I wanted to use this valuable opportunity to write about mental health. But, the exact topic within this umbrella changed the closer I got to the posting date.

 

You see, I had a wonderful evening with a dear friend and reflected on it afterward. The mental “high” I felt continued well after our friendship time and I realized that the company you keep plays a pivotal role in your mental health. With that in mind, let’s look at who to surround yourself with for good mental health, whether they be friends, family, acquaintances, or work associates.

 

Uplifting People

These are your go-to people who can make you feel better with a text saying “thinking of you” or who always offer positive advice when you come to their doorstep with tear-stained cheeks. They support you, tell you when they think you did something great, and (here’s what happened to me recently with my awesome friend) you feel energized after visiting with them.

 

It is the uplifting friends, family, and others in your life that help you better deal with stress and react to changes in your life. A sense of confidence and contentment is important for a mentally healthy person.

 

Those Who Motivate You

Aha! They make you want to be a better you. Instead of holding you back with criticisms, they are cheering you on to keep going with your goal to lose weight, get your degree, keep applying for jobs, and so forth.

 

After talking to my gal friend last week about my falling off the fitness path, she encouraged me to balance exercise with the other things my life and, so, I went for a walk the next day. I did it! It was the company I kept that motivated me. And, you know what, I felt better, both mentally and physically, after that walk.

 

Non-Judgmental Personalities

Immediately some people will argue that this sub-heading is pure fiction. While we all do judge, to some degree, as an intrinsic part of the human personality, it is not something we have to voice out loud. Instead, I am talking here about surrounding yourself with people who will not speak or act in a demeaning way toward you or chew you down for a decision you made. Who needs that unnecessary drama?

 

If they disagree with you, they will do so with a respectful tone and also will listen to your justifications. “No judgment,” and my dear friend and I say to one another regularly when talking about happenings in our lives.

 

Looking Forward

To sum all of this up, choosing to surround yourself with positive people can improve your mood and keep you feeling confident. It may take some time to assess who these people are in your life but it really is important to do so to make the most of your days and keep you away from people who only radiate negativity. Slowly detach yourself from those who have unhealthy influences on your life. Instead, the well-wishers are the ones to embrace in your life to achieve and sustain good mental health.

Thank you to Debby for having me here to your wonderful site! Talking about mental health is a passion of mine, and I appreciate the platform you’ve given me today.

 

Thank you Christy.

Check out Christy’s books

Pathways to Illumination

Birmingham’s intense collection of poetry follows the trail of a woman’s journey from the end of an abusive relationship to the valiant growth of a newly-awakened, independent spirit. Inner light shatters layers of powerful verse to deliver a poignant hope.

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Versions of the self poetry

Imagine a shift to the way you see the world that arises through poetic narration. Imagine the world, at its base level, is a collection of selves. These selves collide, disperse, intermingle, and share themselves in lines of free verse. Such is the premise of Versions of the Self, poetry that assumes multiple types of selves exist and relate in ways that alter them. Each of the eight chapters looks at a different type of self, including the singular “I” and romantic interactions. These unique 80 poems definitely color themselves outside of the lines.

Get this book Here

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  1. I agree with you Christy..I am afraid that there are some people who by their very nature want you to share in their own misery and you eventually find that you are being slowly dragged in to their world. I have been a counsellor for many years and I eventually decided to stop simply because I found that I was not dispassionate enough to not absorb persistent negativity. It is very damaging. We are all down at times and that is when friendship is at its best but you do need to walk away sometimes. Thanks Gals… great post.

    1. Thank you Sal for sharing your view here. It seems in order to put up with negativity we must wear some sort of invisible shield of armor to deflect the bits that zap our energy. It’s difficult not to feel for others. To be doing it on a daily basis would be too much for me too. <3 Hugs xoxo

    2. Hi Sally, I’m glad you took on a new path before you experienced burnout in counselling.. And we are all benefiting from your writing talents now 🙂 Negativity really hangs around all in contact with that person so I believe in surrounding myself with positive people. Some are more persistent than others though – and the negativity can sure hang on! Plus, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by removing them.. it’s not easy… Thank you for your valuable comment here and once again to Debby for the opportunity here.

  2. Must admit I’ve been caught out down the years with people I thought I would share an enriching friendship, only to realise, too late, how drained/bad/ inferior… they could make me feel – or I allowed them to do that. Lovely post, ladies. Thank you.

    1. Thanks Judith. I think we’ve all been trapped in that pattern at least once. The trick is to realize it and know if it can’t be fixed, to walk away. <3

    2. Hi Judith, isn’t it funny how we can see other peoples’ relationships as damaging yet seeing it in our own relationships is not as easy.. Thank you for taking time here xx

  3. In haste, will be back to read later today…just wanted you to know dear Deb and Christy… <3

    1. You are so cute Sher!!! <3 xx

  4. Thanks for an excellent post on a very important topic and for introducing us to Christy, Debby. All the best!

    1. Thank you Olga. Yes, an important topic and Christy shares so much on her blog on health and well being so I was happy she wrote one for my blog too. 🙂 xx

    2. Thanks Olga. It’s lovely to enjoy such support here and to be welcomed with open arms by Debby

  5. Wonderful guest post by Christy. 🙂 and Christy is so right, those whom encourage us and share our ups and downs, indeed do make a huge difference to how we feel about ourselves.. Sometimes its only a simple comment, those little words of encouragement that make the extra difference.. That help us feel more confident and help lift us up.

    I love Christy and her writings, She is an accomplished writer and beautiful poet.. With a heart of gold..

    Many thanks Debby for sharing Christy.. Loved reading her thoughts on mental wellbeing, so important for all of us..

    Love Sue <3… xxx

    1. Thanks so much so for visiting and for your lovely comment. Christy is a sweetheart. I was thrilled that she agreed to write a post to be featured here today. <3 HUgs xoxo

      1. A lovely contribution from Christy and I so agree she is a sweetheart xx <3

    2. Sue, beautiful Sue! How you honor me with your words. I look up to you and connect with your words on your own blogs so it’s wonderful to see you here taking time. I’m wishing you a wonderful day in body, mind, and spirit <3 Love to you and Debby!

      1. Thank you Christy.. those words warmed my heart.. 🙂 <3

      2. You are most welcome.. And thank you for that lovely comment Christy, sorry its been a while in me answering it.. xx

        1. Awww <3 No need to apologize, Sue. Plus I know sometimes we miss comments etc. It happens. Life gets busy but if we understand that then we never take offense. Love you!

  6. You are spot on, Christy. I find myself avoiding people who bring me down. Sure, I could respond, try to cheer them up–and I probably start with that–but then, I need to protect myself. Really good post, Christy.

    1. So true Jacqui. Sometimes people can’t always be happy, and that’s understandable. But chronic ‘downers’ that don’t want to change or even aware of how they are, nobody is comfortable being around them. We sometimes have to save our own sanity. 🙂

    2. I like what you say about protecting yourself, Jacqui. Yes! Our mental health is so important. Thank you for your contribution here!

  7. Lovely post! You’re right–it’s so much better to surround yourself with people who encourage and support rather than people who judge and condemn. Your book covers are beautiful and they seem to reflect perfectly what’s inside.

    1. Thank you so much Amy for visiting and leaving your thoughts and compliments for Christy. 🙂 x

    2. Thank you Amy, both for your comments on the post content and the reflections on the book covers. I’m feeling so blessed <3

  8. Debby! Your introduction to the post has me feeling quite emotional. Thank you for organizing the post beautifully here and for giving me such a quality platform here to share about mental health. Your spirit is awe-inspiring <3

    1. Aw Christy. I didn’t say anything that wasn’t true! I was thrilled when you accepted my proposal to come and guest post here today. And it seems that so many are enjoying it as I suspected! 🙂 <3

      1. Oh Debby, the outpouring of support here is wowing me! Your readers are amazing and I am feeling the love, truly. Thank you again 🙂

        1. So glad you feel that way Christy. I thank you for again for guest posting. 🙂 xxx

          1. Wow Debby what an amazing outpouring of support here and thank you again for this guest posting experience! Much love ♥

          2. Thank you Christy for helping to make this post engaging. <3 xx

  9. Wonderful guest post. I couldn’t agree more that we are influenced by those around us, the cheerful and positive, as well as the chronically bitter and negative. It’s hard to ease away from friendships, but sometimes it’s necessary for one’s own well-being. I loved Versions of the Self. A beautiful collection of poetry full of heart. 🙂

    1. Thanks so much Diana. 🙂 xx Christy is a beautiful writer.

    2. Diana, you’re right that it is tough to step back in a relationship. Sometimes, though, it’s the right thing to do. Your comment is so thoughtful and I thank you for it! I’m glad you enjoyed the book (beaming here!)

  10. Just share this! Great post, Thanks, Christy! Debby, thank you for always helping me out with great tips. 🙂

    1. Aw, thank you Marsha. You rock! 🙂 x

      1. You both rock! 🙂 You set the bar!

        1. Aw thanks for the wonderful compliment Marsha. 🙂 x

          1. You’re welcome! 😀😀😀

    2. I appreciate the shares and comment, Marsha! Debby has a marvelous site here, doesn’t she?!

      1. She really does. Let me know if you’d be interested in doing a guest post here. 🙂

        1. How exciting, Marsha! I’ll be sure to check out your blog today 🙂

          1. Thanks, Christy!!!😀😀😀

  11. Such a lovely author interview, Debby and Christy. It is best to surround yourself with positive people as negatively has a way of getting you down, even if you are usually a happy person.

    1. Such true words Robbie. Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

    2. Hi Robbie, great to see you here and thanks for the thoughts you share 🙂 It’s like negativity cloaks the sunlight, isn’t it.. dang it we won’t let it!!

      1. Absolutely, Christy. Other people can make you feel very negative so it best to try and uplift them so they don’t pull you down.

  12. Wonderful! I adore Christy, and both of her blogs. I have both of her books, and look forward to her next book.
    Her views on mental health are well founded, well articulated and of much value. Thank you Debby for featuring this article on Mental Health and Friendship by Christy!

    1. Thanks so much for visiting and your lovely comments Resa. Lovely to see you drop by. 🙂

    2. Resa, your friendship continues to pick me up and elevate my self-confidence. For that I thank you from the bottom of my heart <3 Happy Canada Day, sweet you.

  13. Oh, I’ve been here several times now, and can’t find a follow button?

    1. HI Resa. I’m self-hosted. WP doesn’t offer a follow button for self hosted blogs. There’s a sign up box on top of each post and on the side bar to be notified of posts by email. 🙂

  14. Christy. this is a wonderful post. I had a close friend who was extremely negative and I always left him feeling depressed and skeptical about the world and everyone in it. What you’re saying here is very true. My daughter is a successful CEO in the insurance industry, and she absolutely refuses to work with negative people and she won’t have any in her personal life. All of us need to heed your advice and be very choosy about who is part of our inner circle. Thank you! Thanks,Debby, for hosting Christy today.

    1. Thank you John, for visiting and your lovely comments. Glad to hear your daughter is on the right path with emotional wellness. It can take some people a lifetime to learn to let go of the energy suckers. I’ve learned long ago to not allow negativity into my inner circle after years of not knowing how to close the door. :). Happy Canada Day John! 🙂

      1. My pleasure, Debby. Happy Canada Day, dear!

      2. Thanks, Debby – selecting friends can be tricky. Enjoy your Canada Day too!

        1. Thank you John! 🙂 🙂

    2. Exactly, John – be choosy! Your daughter sounds like one heck of a wise woman – not that I would expect anything less with such a wonderful father. I am blown away by the support here and thankful to Debby for the chance to guest post. I appreciate your comment! Happy Canada Day! 🙂

      1. Thanks, Christy – she is a strong accomplished person. Happy to support you here. Happy Canada Day!

        1. You are so kind, John 🙂 Thanks!

  15. Thank you so much Deb for featuring Christy’s inspirational guest post. the power of positive friendship…knowing someone is thinking about you and takes the time to send a quick message can make all the difference on an otherwise bad day. Just like both of you with your wonderful, caring friendship to me and many others… 🙂 <3 xoxo

    1. Aw Sher. Thank you so much. That was so beautiful. 🙂 <3 <3 Big hugs! xoxoxo

      1. Big hugs back dear Deb…I love coming over here as you know to read all your posts, whether from you or your guests 🙂 <3 Sadly, I will be ducking out again as the move is fast approaching and I am feeling that all too familiar overwhelm…I'll see if I can get a signing off post up to let people know who I haven't been able to tell personally. Will be so glad to get this move over with. In the UK buying and selling is made even more stressful it that is at all possible lol because nothing, and I meant nothing, is legal, until everyone in the chain (there are 7 sets of people in ours, including my mother's buyers) have signed the Exchange of Contracts, and that is usually only 2 weeks, but often closer, from close of escrow (completion as we call it here). So despite weeks and weeks of back and forth and legal documentation, title searches, surveys, mortgages offers etc. (already 3 months in this case!) we have yet to do that. So you can imagine how horrible it is. I need to book a removal company but we still don't have a date…but we need to start clearing out everything, hubby and I started by spending the entire weekend clearing out our garage. Ha…why am I telling you all this? I got carried away lol! Okay…well, I better get on with things…but I would much rather stay here and chat with you! I am soooo good at procrastinating!! Will be in touch my dear friend…as best I can in between pulling my hair out lol lol lol 😀 <3 😉 xoxoxoxoxo

        1. Lol Sher, you’re so funny. Thanks for sharing here what is entailed when buying and selling in the UK. Unfortunately, I know all about it from my friend who lives there, the one I was going to stay with had I come to the Bash, who was in the exact spot you’re in now.
          Forget the blogging, get on with the deed my friend. We all know you try your best to make the rounds. Nobody will forget you, lol. Just don’t forget to breathe my friend. 🙂 🙂 Sending you lots of motivational thoughts to over-ride the procrastination, lol. <3 <3 xoxoxo

          1. Ahh, yes, of course, I did wonder if you knew all about the conveyancing process here…it really is so stressful. Now our buyer has threatened to pull out if our purchase doesn’t speed up. I will indeed have to forget the blogging…we are seriously looking at selling fast and living in our camper van for a few weeks! I don’t mine if it means not losing our sale in a precarious market…but I just want to get on with it, as you say! Thanks so much for saying nobody will forget me…aww, you’re so kind and lovely dear Deb. I need all the help I can get…and I thing I just got the motivation after the scare tactics of our buyers lol!!!! I might not be as active on FB either, if I disappear you’ll know why, but I’ll check in there as much as I can. You know me lol, I do what I can…and I really want to bend your ear about my memoir and ask you lots of questions, but that will have to wait until after this craziness settles down. So…my dear, lovely friend, I bid you fare thee well until I can get back here…but you we’ll keep in touch as and when we can, all over the place lol! Much love and hugs to you…and I am remembering to breathe…yes I am, thanks to you… 😉 <3 <3 <3 xoxoxo

          2. Arg Sher, sounds grueling. No worries on my end, I know your dilemma. Deal with first things first and don’t sweat the rest. And DO keep me posted! Sending you good vibes and big hugs! xoxoxo 🙂 <3

          3. Arrrrgh…it’s been so long since I’ve been back here and I miss you and everyone so much. Oh my dear Deb, it’s been a really stressful time. Thank you so much for understanding, and boy do I need those good vibes. I haven’t been on FB or anywhere for a while, hope to today, as I’ve taken a moment out to catch up here a little becasue it’s been the most horrible stressful time. As you know, this year has been pretty tough in a lot of ways, and after working so hard on getting this move and house sale/purchase off the ground, 3 months worth of work, we were almost there last week. Ready to exchange contracts and complete and move this Friday. So you can imagine how busy we’ve been and all the arrangements, bookings with removals etc. to make. A ton and expensive too. Well, there was a problem with the bottom of the chain with their deposit and long story short, the entire chain – 7 parties – had their sales and purchases threatened, including losing our purchase. I was devastated and cried all week it seemed, which has left me pretty ragged and not feeling well as this stress is taking a toll. Thanks to our amazing realtor who has worked over and above the call of duty, it now looks this morning that things can be resolved, but of course we’ ve cancelled our movers and everything else. I’m still packing anyway as I jsut want out now, I’ve already made the mental transition and let go of everything and just want to move on in every sense of the word, even if we end up in our motorhome. I know, be careful what you wish for and all that, but I have had it. So…and so sorry for ranting here on your blog Deb!!!!…there is my update. I’m praying for resolve by the end of the day and at least we’ll know what’s happening. It’s so good to catch up here with you albeit a quickie lol, and I’ll keep you posted. I hope things are well with you my dear friend and enjoying a good summer 🙂 <3 <3 <3

          4. OH Sher, I’m sorry to hear about the delay, but happy to hear your agent is working diligently to make things happen. I know you haven’t been around, in fact, I was talking to Tina about you, we were sure you were in the midst of moving so that’s why it’s been quiet. Hang in my friend, the mercury retrograde is just about over. It was a kerfuffle for so many. Murphy’s law was running rampant but the beast is about to be tamed. Sending you love and hugs and serenity. <3 <3 I look forward to hearing soon that all is complete! 🙂 xoxo

    2. Sherri, you’re a sweetheart ~ If you were here I’d give you a hug!! 🙂 xxoo

      1. Aww Christy…I’m feeling your hug anyway and hugging right back! Your post resonnated very strongly with me…quality, true friendships are truly invaluable…on and offline 🙂 <3 xoxo

  16. People make a lot of difference in our lives and I agree with Christy positive people infuse instant self-confidence…emotional and mental wellbeing depends on the kind of people we interact with. I have always been ‘glass is half full’ kind of a person, counting my blessings in the moments of disappointment and saying the same to friends and family around me.
    Thank you Deb and Christy for the reminders! 🙂

    1. And thank you for sharing Balroop. You sound so much like me, no wonder we connected. 🙂 x

    2. Oh Balroop I am so glad you find this post to be high quality as that is how I see your writing. It is very nice of you to take time here and I will be over to visit your virtual space soon too 🙂 Smiling at you and Debby!

      1. Thanks for your kind words, Christy.

  17. I have connected with Christy on Twitter. Thank you for featuring her here with this inspirational post. One of the most positive people I know is my cousin Ruth Ann, with whom I spent 3 days last week. She exudes happiness and an upbeat spirit. No one would ever guess she is a cancer survivor, lost her daughter to a drunk driver, and suffered the loss of her husband 6 months ago. We laugh together through our tears.

    1. Thanks for sharing your cousin’s story Marian. I couldn’t even imagine going through any one of those things let alone all of them. She must be an earth angel. 🙂 x

    2. Hi Marian, I’ll see you over on Twitter! Wow, your cousin has been through a lot and it sounds like her positive spirit is one that shines over all of us. These are the angels among us xx Hold her close and tell her how wonderful she is! Every time I leave my parents after a visit I tell them I love them. You can never say it too often <3

  18. Ladies. even the dudes are clapping their wee paws at this post. I will get leaving alike later on Google Chrome. For some reason the like button never loads on ordinary. Firstly,, seeing you two together YES!!!! Sure to be a treat in any book. BUT I love the things you have said Christy and I also think it again shows a lady who has made this huge journey because she has the confidence now to write about this topic, this way. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    1. Aw thank you my lovely Shey. And thank you for your kudos little dudes. It was such a treat to have Christy over and I’m glad you made it over to read Shey. <3 xoxoxox

      1. I would not miss you galz together x

        1. Why thank you my lovely. <3 xx

    2. Shey, you’re right that a few years ago I wouldn’t have written about any of this.. Your words help me take stock of the growth! Thanks for joining in here with lovely Debby xx

  19. Excellent post on mental health – so important to open up and discuss. Well done Christy and Debby for featuring this important topic. Positive people buoy us up negative folk do the opposite that is the last thing someone suffering from mental health issues needs.

    1. Thanks for the beautiful comments Marje. <3

    2. It means a lot to me to have your support, Marje! xx

      1. Ah, thank you Christy and your support means so much to me too. Bless you. xx

  20. Beautiful post christy and Debbie… always love the simplicity and clear message you write christy… mental health is very close to my heart and there is so much we can all bring to enlighten people who suffer so and bring some transformative movement into society. Love to you both, barbara x

    1. Thank you Barbara for your beautiful words. 🙂 xx

    2. Barbara, it shows how in tune you are with the topic from what you wrote here. Your ability to help others is beautiful and it is so kind that you took time here today with Debby and I. Love to you too xx

      1. Mental health is the no 1 dis-ease today and medication only numbs and covers up what is meant to be part of Humanity’s ‘natural awakening’and realization of freedom. Love Bx

        1. The “natural awakening” that you mention is one we need to encourage! Thanks Barbara ♥

  21. “choosing to surround yourself with positive people can improve your mood and keep you feeling confident.” — it took me ages to figure out this simple truth. Thanks for this wonderful post, Christy and Debby.

    1. Thanks so much Damyanti for chiming in here. There’s no place for negative energy in our lives. 🙂

    2. Damyanti, I’m glad you’ve learned to welcome uplifting people into your life rather than those that emotionally drain you ♥

  22. Great post, Ladies, on one of the “habits” of Mental Health that is frequently overlooked. Why attempt to climb mountains with lead weights on your ankles?

    My first Coaching mentor used the term “upgrade community” – meaning to spend increasingly less time with folks who drag you down and increasingly more with folks who lift you up. Christy, you’ve given us some great specifics that help us tell the sheeps from the goats!
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

    1. Thanks so much Madelyn for commenting. I know this is a subject close to your heart. 🙂 <3

      1. Yes – tho’ my younger self would never have believed it!
        xx,
        mgh

    2. Madelyn, I love your comment! It is all about “upgrading” as your mentor so wisely suggested. And your site is a great resource for learning more about mental health and bettering our lives. Thank you Madelyn!

  23. Christy, lovely to see you here on Debby’s blog. This is a wonderful post and I found myself nodding in agreement all the way through. Mental health is a huge political topic in the UK at the moment – a lot of talk, not much doing with people seriously let down and sometimes leading to deaths. I liked the way you tackled the subject from a personal, individual level and I felt so uplifted reading this post. It has taken me many years to realise that some people, through no fault of their own, just drain you, pull all the energy and any positive reserves out of you…it’s not easy letting go of these, sometimes impossible but being surrounded by likewise motivated friends and family makes a HUGE difference in one’s life. I’m off to read this again…wishing you a great day! 😀❤️

    1. Thank you Annika for sharing your thoughts on the topic with us. It’s no surprise that we all will be surrounded by negative energy suckers at one time or another, the discipline is to learn how to rid ourselves of the emotional drain and not let people burst our balloons. 🙂 <3

    2. Annika, you say you are “reading this again” and that is a huge compliment for any writer! It was such an honor to be here at Debby’s site and to receive your feedback cements this experience of guest posting as.. amazing!! Keep sharing positive vibes, my friend 🙂

  24. I absolutely adore Christy. Thanks for having her guest here, Debbie. Positive people tend to be happier and don’t let those bumps in the road that everyone faces derail them. The wisdom Christy shared here is spot on. I surround myself with positive people, both offline and online.

    1. Thanks Michelle. That’s how I try to live by letting go of the negative people who suck our energies. And so I thought Christy would be the perfect person to have over here with all her inspirational posts. <3 🙂

    2. Michelle, you’re a bright light and one of the people I choose to surround myself with ♥ Thank you for the nice words!!

      1. You are so sweet, my dear friend. I’m thankful for you. ❤❤❤

        1. Exactly how I feel!! I love that you are my friend 🙂 <3

          1. And it’s almost Friday sooooo that means 🙂 🙂 <3 <3

  25. Thanks so much for sharing Christy’s guest post. Been a big fan of Christy and her writing for a while now, and she shares such important issues all of us need to talk about. Our mental health is such an important thing to check in with every now and then. I’ve had anxiety for my whole life, and depression that comes and goes. Agree that surrounding yourself with those who will encourage you is very important – these are the people who will give you the energy to get up and face our fears and tackle life head on. Last year when I cut out some discouraging people in my life, it freed up time on my hands and I was able to focus on myself and become a happier version of myself 🙂

    1. Hi Mabel. Thanks for sharing your inspiring experience with unloading the negatives in your life. Just more proof that it really helps to free ourselves from negative baggage that weighs us down. 🙂

      1. The less baggage we have, the lighter we feel and the higher we can fly – and the more we believe anything’s possible 🙂

    2. Woohoo Mabel, I’m proud of you for cutting ties with discouraging people as it means you put yourself first 🙂 And I am so fortunate to have met you all those years back and formed a beautiful friendship. It is lovely to see you here! And thank you again Debby for being such a generous host.

  26. Lovely to meet your fellow-Canadian here, Debby. I have been following Christy’s Poetic Parfait for a few years but didn’t know about her other blog. I do now, and am now following it also. Thanks for the heads up. I definitely agree with the power of positive people in our lives. While reading Christy’s post I was thinking of one of my best friends, a Canadian would you believe, who does just that for me, and, hopefully, I for her. I am the proud owner of Christy’s book of poems “Versions of the Self” and add my recommendation to yours. The poems hold much beauty and much to contemplate.

    1. Thank you for sharing Norah, and for your lovely words for Christy. 🙂

  27. This is wonderful! 💞 I love how you have focused on healthy relationships and how they affect you instead of taking the direction of staying away from toxic relationships. It’s pretty much the same thing but I just like the direction you’ve taken with this. Fantastic post.

    1. Ack! $@&*# I wasn’t finished. Thank you, Debby, for hosting Christy.

      1. Lol. Most welcome Sarah. <3

    2. Thank you my lovely! 🙂 xx

  28. Thanks so much for this, Debby. I’m always interested in hearing or reading about poets! Sorry I’ve been missing some of your posts. I’ve had link and navigation issues and it my be the iPad. Anyhow, will keep trying to visit 🙂 Simon’s Still Stanza #WATWB

    1. HI Simon. Thanks for dropping by and no need for apologies. My goodness we all have so much going on. Christy is such an inspiring writer, poet and self-helper, I know you’d enjoy her blog. 🙂

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