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– In Memoir – Writing Truth


Outer Critics


– I had my first dose of an outer critic today.  I was questioned by a family member if I know how to forgive and why am I writing this book.  It distanced me from the pen for awhile and then I continued on.

I think people get confused or scared when they know someone close is writing a memoir when they know your childhood has left something to desire.  Writing is not a vengeance.  Everything I have learnt tells us to write truthful and that is what I shall continue to do.

I always say…….”Forgive those who know not what they do.”



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D.G. Kaye is a nonfiction/memoir writer, who writes from her own life experiences and self-medicates with a daily dose of humor.


  • Life and Other Turbulence

    Great blog and an interesting post on outer critics! “Forgive those who know not what they do”…but what about those who know EXACTLY what they do? That’s where forgiveness becomes elusive…well, it has for me at any rate. Always nice to connect with others writing memoir about painful events in their lives. All good wishes to you!

    • DebbyGies

      Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. As I write this book it has brought forth many conflicting emotions. I had grown up as an emotionally abused child and my mother issues had carried through my whole life. When I was younger I resented her but as I got older and studied her I had realized that there was no malice intended, she was just a selfish person who had no idea what it was like to be a mother. I grew to pity her. I cannot say how I would broach forgiveness to someone with intent, although I’m sure it would feel a lot different. As it is, it did take me many years to reach forgiveness for my mother’s actions and ironically I have never told her I forgive her this forgiveness was to lighten the burden within me. This book is also, not about forgiveness. It’s about a shitty childhood (or the lack of it) and how I moved through it and the choices I made in life because of it. This is my first book which I am only halfway through first draft and I will soon be ready to post an excerpt. Thanks for your kind wishes. Yes it is great to connect, I look forward to coming to your page.

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