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New Reviews For Twenty Years: After “I Do” and Words We Carry – D.G. Kaye

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D.G. Kaye's books reviewed

 

What a beautiful way to end a challenging year! Two new reviews for my newest book – Twenty Years: After “I Do” and another for Words We Carry. There is no better gift an author can ask for than to hope for a glowing review for her books. It’s always so gratifying to know the stories I share from my own life can offer some positive messages to my readers. Thank you.

 

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MegaReader

December 22, 2017

Format: Kindle Edition
Marsha Ingrao

December 21, 2017

Format: Kindle Edition

Are you thinking about getting married? Worried about the future? What happens twenty years later? Most women marry older men when they are younger. Twenty Years: After “I Do explains what you might expect twenty, thirty or forty years later.

Debby G. Kaye writes what I would label as memoirs. Her editor calls this one a self-help book. Deb has a story so compelling that her memoirs work their way into being helpful. She inspires me, not to write my memoirs because I’m not as brave and forthright as she is. However, as an educational consultant, my gut reaction is that her book needs a study guide, and I’m just the person to write it.

Are you married or thinking about getting married to an older man? Maybe not, but if you are married for very long, you will be married to an older man whether you set out to do that or not. D.G. Kaye points out some authentic problems in Twenty Years: After “I Do that you are going to encounter when your husband reaches his 60s or 70s. Probably if you thought about all of them in your 20s, it would paralyze you, and you would never get married. However, as she points out, you think you are invincible when you are that age, and you just jump in. Yet, many people jump into marriages in their later years. They will face these problems without as many years of understanding of their partner.

If you read this book, you will learn how Debby managed to “navigate companionship challenges and show love and kindness to her partner, handling life together gracefully and in harmony.” Some of the hard challenges she shares must have been excruciating to write. What happens when or if wee willy wimps? How do you talk about death, burial, wills? Does your partner have grown children? They certainly play more of a part in your relationship than you might expect since they are out of the home.

This is the perfect gift for the holidays. It’s an easy read with lots of good advice.
Twenty Years: After “I Do”: Reflections on Love and Changes Through AgingTwenty Years: After “I Do”: Reflections on Love and Changes Through AgingTwenty Years: After “I Do”: Reflections on Love and Changes Through Aging

And thank you so much to Marsha Ingrao for this in-depth book analysis report she wrote a post on for Twenty Years: After “I Do”

 

How to Learn What To Expect Twenty Years: After “I Do,” Even If You’re Not a Young Newlywed

 

HOW TO LEARN WHAT TO EXPECT TWENTY YEARS: AFTER “I DO,” EVEN IF YOU’RE NOT A YOUNG NEWLYWED

 

SHOULD YOU MARRY A MAN TWENTY YEARS OLDER THAN YOU ARE?

What happens twenty years after you marry an older man? Most women do marry older men when they are younger. Twenty Years: After “I Do”  tells you what you might expect twenty, thirty or forty years later.

Are you thinking about getting married? Worried about the future? Read on.

 

MEMOIR OR SELF-HELP BOOK? OR BOTH?

Debby G. Kaye writes what I would label as memoirs. Her editor calls this one a self-help book. Deb has a story so compelling that her memoirs work their way into being helpful. She inspires me, not to write my memoirs because I’m not as brave and forthright as she is. However, as an educational consultant, my gut reaction is that her book needs a study guide, and I’m just the person to write it.

When you read Twenty Years: After “I Do” . you will learn how Debby managed to “navigate companionship challenges and show love and kindness to her partner, handling life together gracefully and in harmony.” Some of the hard challenges she shares must have been excruciating to write.

 

YOU MEAN THERE MIGHT BE PROBLEMS IN OUR MARRIAGE?

Are you married or thinking about getting married to an older man? Maybe not, but if you are married for very long, you will be married to an older man whether you set out to do that or not. D.G. Kaye points out some authentic problems in Twenty Years: After “I Do”  that you are going to encounter when your husband reaches his 60s or 70s. Many people jump into marriages in their later years. They will face these problems more quickly than younger people. . . . Continue Reading

 

 

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5 Stars

on November 9, 2017

This book was gifted to me by the author without any expectation or recompense for reviewing. The views are entirely my own.

Words We Carry is packed with the accumulated knowledge, wisdom, survival tips and strategies from someone who went through difficult and unhappy childhood and teen years.

I think it is fair to say that most of us are less than confident about our body shape, and that is particularly tough when you can no longer use the excuse of puppy fat, and your friends are heading out in slinky black dresses and high-heeled shoes.

Unfortunately, not all mothers are born with the nurturing gene and as soon as you become competition, there is an opportunity to reinforce your lack of self-esteem with carefully chosen and cutting words. I would like to think that the experiences that D.G. Kaye describes were rare, but I am afraid that after counselling women on their health and weight for twenty years, the story is very familiar.

Those harmful words from those who are supposed to love us, are the ones we carry throughout our lifetime, unless we can find a way to dilute their power and replace them with affirmations of a much more positive nature.

D.G. Kaye describes her strategies to claim her own identity, build her self-esteem and evolve from the ugly duckling that she had been made to feel she was, into a swan. This involved a makeover in a number of departments, including wearing high heels at all times and over every terrain, and standing out from the crowd with her now signature titian hair colour. She also developed a healthy, outgoing personality and independence that led her to discover groups of people who accepted and embraced her as a friend.

In the second section of the book Kaye looks at the impact this early negative conditioning had on her relationships, including romances with older men whose different approach to dating and expectations provided a more secure environment. Unfortunately, having entered one serious and long-term relationship, echoes of the verbal abuse that she received as a child and teenager, threatened to undo all the hard work that she had accomplished. Thankfully she went on to find happiness and empowerment with someone who appreciates all that she has become.

Kaye looks at issues such as the difference between Alone vs. Lonely, Negativity and Self-Worth, Forming Healthier Relationships, and importantly Exposing our Personality Through the Internet. All the chapters provide commonsense strategies to overcome a lack of self-confidence, and I do think that women and men in their 50s and 60s, will definitely be able to draw parallels to Kaye’s own experiences.

Whilst I recommend this memoir/self-help book to men and women of my age, I also think that it should be read by all mothers whose daughters are heading into their teens and beyond. It might just remind them of how fragile their child is when about to face the outside world, and that there are enough external challenges to be overcome, without encountering them in the place they should feel safe.

It is also a book for young women who are struggling with weight issues and those who feel that they are not as attractive as their friends, or who feel that they are somehow going through something never experienced before.

There is no reason to reinvent the wheel. By reading this they might take strength in knowing that this is an age old problem, and that they can change the narrative and write their own story.

Happy Holidays

 

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23 Comments

  • Sue Dreamwalker

    Dear Debby, what a set of beautiful glowing reviews.. And you are so deserving… I have rarely come across such a sincere, loving genuine person who cares and who can communicate with humour, love and caring.
    I am so pleased that so many are enjoying your books..
    Have a Wonderful Happy, Healthy and Successful 2018 dear Debby.. May love, peace and Harmony follow you into the New Year and into Beyond xxx <3

    • dgkaye

      Oh Sue, thank you for you most beautiful and heartfelt compliments. I am moved by your lovely words. I’ll take all those beautiful wishes thank you. And I wish you back exactly the same! Happy New Year my dear friend. 🙂 <3 <3 Super hugs!

      • Sue Dreamwalker

        Thank you dearest Friend.. I am on a mission I feel this year.. I wrote a whole chapter I want you to know.. Only to read it back and think well, this is becoming negative in its remembrance of the past.. So that chapter may well get scrapped and deleted.. Its hard to write objectively, as I want it to be uplifting, but a story of how I came to write my poems.. So wish you were my neighbour Debby and I could pick your brains over a cuppa LOL.. But I will get there.. Slowly but surely I have made a start..
        I also want to clear out my blog.. Lots of archives no one ever reads, So that is another new year mission to clear the clutter and give my blog a revamp.. As I let go of the need to hold on..
        Sending LOVE and thank you for listening.. LOL.. HUGs and Much LOVE to you.. xxx <3 <3

        • dgkaye

          Well I’m proud of you my friend. You’re on the path to that book. Please don’t be so hard on yourself as you can always revise your work but if you haven’t written anything, there’s nowhere to start. Remember what Hemingway says – ‘The first draft is shit.’ Lol, so true! The idea is to keep writing, write your chapters and don’t look back until you’re done! Don’t edit and dissect as you go, keep writing then begin your edits and revisions and questioning yourself – ‘Did I really write that? What was I thinking?’ Lol, we all go through it. You have already written so many inspirational posts you could collaborate into a theme and write an introduction to introduce and you’d have a book.
          Remember we are our own worst critics! And easy on clearing the clutter in your blog posts. What’s old is new, and can be repurposed for new life or book material.
          Yes, I suppose we could gab forever, and sorry we don’t live closer, but please feel free to email me my friend. That’s what friends are for. <3
          Love and hugs to you Sue, I'm only a keystroke away! 🙂 🙂 <3 xxx

  • marianbeaman

    Once or twice I said to my husband, “I never thought I’d be sleeping with a 70-year-old man!” HaHaHa

    Cliff and I are about the same age, and we have been through 50 years of adjustment, adaptation, and aha moments. I’m about halfway through your helpful book and plan to review it too. Happy 2018 to you, Debby!

    • dgkaye

      Lol Marian, I hear you!. And so stoked you are halfway through my book. I’m looking forward to your thoughts and review!!! Happy 2018 to you and Cliff, Marian! Wishing you lots of joy, peace and good health! 🙂 <3

  • Robin O. Cochran

    I feel Debby ❤ has a wonderful warm way of making the reader feel like she is her best friend and we are chatting over coffee and dessert. Her words in “20 Years After I Do” will be great pieces of advice and very realistic. She’s a great author and friend to all. 💞
    I feel Sally 💗 must be on my Spring book review list. I am taking this winter off, since we continue to have five ten hour days on the work at the warehouse “forecast.” ❄
    I appreciate how each author on this post shares and cares about up and coming writers, as well as members of our blogging community.
    May you both have a sparkling, bright New Year filled with joy and success, as well as healthy and happy homes. ✨🌟 🎆

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much Robin for your beautiful comment. It is a wonderful writing community we have for sure!
      I’m glad to hear you’re going to take some time off and enjoy life a bit. What better than a good book to keep you company. And I think if you read one book by Sally, you’ll be hooked!.
      Wishing you and yours a beautiful New Year filled with goodness and health Robin. <3 xxx

  • John Maberry

    Congrats on the great reviews. Among other things, a preliminary goal for 2018 is reading 24 books. that’s only 2 per month–not a lot but more than 2017! Your newest will be among them. 🙂

    • dgkaye

      Oh thanks John! Yes, it’s good to set goals. I think I set my Goodreads goal at 30 and have met it and gone over it. How I did that I have no idea! LOL 🙂 I look forward to your review my friend. 🙂 Happy New Year again! 🙂

  • Natalie Ducey

    Fabulous reviews, Debby! High five to you! I just finished Words We Carry and will post a review tomorrow. I loved it! You’re a brave soul to share such personal experiences, but you did it brilliantly with a tenacious spirit filled with grace, humility, and humour! Thank you! XO

    • dgkaye

      Oh thank you sooooooo much Natalie for your lovely words. And I’m thrilled you read that book! So excited to read your thoughts on the book and then I’ll be sharing on my blog! <3 xxx Also, I hope you will post it in our FB groups - Literary Divas and #ABRSC! <3

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