D.G. Kaye on Relationships
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Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – D. G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships – Friendships Keeping them Healthy | Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

I’m thrilled to be back at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine with my latest edition of my new column – The Realms of Relationships. In this edition, I’m talking about how to keep friendships healthy, and when it just may be time to say good-bye.


Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – D. G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships – Friendships Keeping them Healthy


Never speak ill




Friendships are the most sacred things we can have. Nobody knows us better than our closest friends – sometimes even better than family. And why is that? Because often, most people aren’t comfortable sharing their problems with families for various reasons.

Children may not wish to tell their parents some things because they may fear they’ll get in trouble for something they did or perhaps they’re embarrassed, or maybe even their secret is about a friend they don’t wish to get in trouble. In adulthood reasons may differ, such as: not wanting family to know they’ve failed at something, got in trouble somewhere, etc. But friends, friends are the ones we choose to share with what’s deep in our souls. Friends are the ones we chose to be friends with us because they accept us – broken fences and all, scars and all. They love us unconditionally. Friends support us through our ups and downs in life. We feel much freer to unburden our souls with friends sometimes more than with family.

Friends don’t judge us. Friends hug us when we need it, and friends understand us – sometimes even without words.

Friends are the family we choose. Friends are the ones we share our deepest, darkest thoughts with, our dreams and ambitions, problems and victories. If a friendship is true, there’s an unspoken respect – a code so to speak.





My Story

Even though I have gone through a ‘break-up’ of sorts with one of my two long-time best friends of 35 years, I still think about her. How could one not? Severing a long-time friendship is like a divorce. You miss the kinship and the support and the good times, and the loss of a good friend can break your heart. But, as I wrote in my first edition of this series, if we’ve exhausted all avenues of trying to mend a fence, maybe it’s time to part ways. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t honor the past, honor what we once had and shared, honor deep dark secrets not to be turned into ammunition to smear that person. . . Please visit the entire post over at Sally’s blog.


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D.G. Kaye is a nonfiction/memoir writer, who writes from her own life experiences and self-medicates with a daily dose of humor.


  • John Maberry

    Not to be too gender stereotypical, but I suspect it’s not as common an issue among guys. The last time it happened between me and another friend was during high school! But then, for decades thereafter, I was on the move until I settled down and got married. Not one for guy friends when I have a wonderful wife/friend. Hmmm. Anyway, what you say makes much sense.

    • dgkaye

      Thanks John. You are lucky to have such a good friendship with your wife. But, I do have to beg to differ, because these relationships apply to all, not gender specific. 🙂

      • John Maberry

        What I meant was, in the stereotypical view, men are thought to have fewer close friends than women. Which, as the word stereotypical describes, may not really be true. Who knows for sure what truth lies in the Mars/Venus equation either. 😉

  • Colleen

    I’m right there with you, Sis… I lost a couple long-time friends, myself. I just felt like I had grown up and matured. There were also political reasons. For the life of me, I couldn’t remember these friends to not vw caring individuals in the past. Suddenly they became obsessed with being “trumplican,” as if that was some badge of honor. The political differences are cultural for me. I don’t think like they do and never have. I think what was so stunning that I never realized they were so into their political and religious dogma. People change. I think it’s healthy to move on if nothing is left of the relationship. <3

    • dgkaye

      Thanks for chiming in Sis. Yes, you are correct, people change, like our tastes change. That’s why it’s important to re-evaluate who we allow into our lives, every so often – kind of like how we clean out our cupboards. <3

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