Today’s share is an insightful post from Tina Frisco on Rejection and what we learn from it. Tina shared this post on Sally Cronin’s “From the Archive” challenge, where Sally invites bloggers to submit their stories in a series of 4 posts. You can read how you too can submit to Sally’s promo after landing on her page to continue reading this article.
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Today Tina Frisco puts a different spin on rejection. It is rare for anyone to go through their lives without some form of this hurtful action from others. Tina however looks at this as an opportunity to grow and evolve as a person.
Rejection: the Ultimate Teacher by Tina Frisco
Rejection comes in many forms, from many places, and is very painful. What makes rejection so devastating? What causes us to react in a particular way? How can we use rejection to our advantage?
On a purely instinctual level, rejection threatens to extinguish our life force by depriving us of vital nourishment. No being can truly thrive without some measure of love and acceptance.
Rejection devastates when we attach our personal worth to someone or something outside of ourselves. Feeling worthy only when liked and accepted by those with whom we engage sets the stage for rejection.
When feeling disliked or ignored by another, it is wise to step back and view that person’s behavior as a mirror of our own subconscious mind. Often the things we do not like in ourselves are reflected back to us by others, giving us an opportunity to examine what prompts us to react and how we might change. This not only buffers the impact, but also opens the door to personal growth. Becoming the witness rather than the victim allows us to determine if our behavior rather than our essence is being rejected, or if the other person’s bias is in play, and/or if we simply are misreading all the cues.
Behavior learned throughout childhood is largely determined within the context of the example set by the adults in our lives. Continue Reading . . .