Q and A with D.G. Kaye Featuring Author Lisa Thomson – The Wine Diaries

Welcome to Q and A with D.G. Kaye interview series. Today I’m happy to introduce here, friend and fellow Canadian author, Lisa Thomson. Lisa is mostly a nonfiction writer who shares lots of herself and her anecdotes and empowering advice for women going through divorce. But her teachings, in conversational writing, invite anyone to read her wisdoms as she has lots of life experience to offer. And her teachings can easily be applied to any kind of loss in life. Let’s get on with the show!

 

Lisa Thomson

 

About Lisa:

Lisa’s passion for writing began during her divorce and has blossomed into more
creative pursuit without losing that drive to help others. Her two self-help books,
The great Escape; A Girl’s Guide To Leaving a Marriage and A divorce Companion,
help economically-dependent women going through divorce.

Hearts Unbroken-short stories, is her first published fiction. A collection of stories
featuring characters facing tough decisions. Finding love, losing it, and remaining
faithful to their hearts, these characters will show you the power of love.

Lisa’s new release, The Wine Diaries: Musings on Divorce Paired With Wine, is a
collection of personal stories surrounding the author’s divorce journey and
ensuing life lessons. Each diary entry is paired with a wine that suits the mood and
emotions in the writing. This lovely collection of stories will inspire anyone going
through divorce or a dramatic life change. The reader is encouraged to write in
their own diary with writing prompts at the end of each essay. A decidedly
hopeful book, viewing the glass as half full. Wine therapy included!

Lisa resides in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. She was featured in “B.C.
Book World News” as an Indie author to watch. This mom of 3 can be found
practicing Yoga, painting, and junk journaling when she is not wine tasting or
writing.

 

 

Blurb:

The Wine Diaries is sure to please those who love to snoop in someone’s diary. If you are navigating divorce or unexpected life changes, this essay collection is bound to comfort and satisfy. With each diary entry paired with a wine suggestion, you will remain quenched in heart, mind and palate. Grab your wine glass and join Lisa for a virtual wine tour of the heart.

 

Now let’s get to know Lisa a little better:

 

How many books have you written? Do you have a favorite of your books and if so, why?

I’ve written four books. It’s hard to choose a favorite (kind of like choosing a
favorite child). If pressed, my first book, The Great Escape: A Girl’s Guide To
Leaving a Marriage, would be my favorite. It’s my original divorce self-help guide,
and memoir style book written for economically dependent women. The sweat
and tears I put into it, plus, the fact that it almost didn’t see the light of day makes
it even more special to me.

D.G. – I can empathize with your gruel Lis.

 

Do you have a difficult time choosing titles for your books? How do you choose your titles?

Not really. I have almost always chosen the title before writing the actual book.
The titles pop into my head shortly after the book idea itself. There was one
exception though, where my working title did not end up being the official title.
The Icing on The Cake: Short Stories became Hearts Unbroken: Short Stories.

Amazon search engines will sometimes have us re-think our working titles, right?
The Icing on The Cake came up with cookbooks. This would be misleading for my
target audience. Nevertheless, I love a good working title. I can’t get motivated on
a manuscript if it hasn’t got a great title. For example, current WIP’s on my shelf;
Borderline Hysterical, Polarized and Daughter of the Moon. I love all of these titles
but they may eventually change, of course.

D.G. – A lot like me Lis. I’ve always had a knack for titles and headlines. Maybe it comes easier for nonfiction writers?

 

Do your books have messages in them? If so, what are the messages you feel are well received by your readers?

Yes. Female empowerment. Coming out of the fire of divorce, healing after break
ups or major losses, and love wins in the end. Even my fiction carries that same
theme.

D.G. – As one who has read some of your books, I will confirm that!

 

Is there a particular time period in your life that has influenced your writing most?

Definitely. My divorce had a major impact on me emotionally and physically. But
it wasn’t all negative. There were plenty of positive results and learning
experiences that have propelled my writing.

D.G. – I think it’s great that you summoned the courage to share your own experiences to help others.

 

Do you agree with the general consensus that writers are loners?

Not exactly. I mean, we have to get ‘out there’ to get ideas. I believe most writers
have extremely exuberant personalities. Think of Hemingway. He was famous for
partying and enjoying the company of other writers. Sure, it created competition
between him and his buddies but I doubt we would have A Moveable Feast if he
was truly a loner. I could go on with examples but suffice to say I think it’s a myth.

Of course, us writers need some down time to do our thinking, brain storming and
cerebral work. That’s not something non-creatives necessarily require. When
we’re staring into space, we’re using our minds…some people find this hard to
believe. Let’s keep them guessing!

D.G. – Lol so true. Nobody knows what lurks in our minds as we sit in silence. A writer’s mind is never silent!

 

Do you edit and proofread your own work solely or do you hire an editor?

I always hire an editor. It’s crucial in my opinion. I’ll add, too, that having beta
readers is also an effective way to get feedback and make improvements on your
stories. After the professional editing though, there is still a tremendous amount
of work to do. When it comes down to the final draft, your instincts will
sometimes override suggestions. Keeping your voice and original purpose in your
book is key.

D.G. – I agree 100%. It’s essential we keep our voice recognizable.

 

If you could have any of your books made into a movie, which one would you choose and why?

I love this question! Borderline Hysterical (still a WIP) was originally drafted up on
a spoof to shed light on how ridiculous the divorce process can be. I dreamed of it
being an HBO series. Haha!

I would love to see one of my short stories from Hearts Unbroken, made into a
Hallmark movie. Does that sound silly?

In “Sarah’s Decision”, the MC takes a road trip to deal with her growing
uncertainty of her marriage. What happens along the way is a quiet recognition of
what’s missing in her life. Meeting random people, eating at diners, taking a rest
at a cemetery…all lead her to come to a conclusion and finally lose her constant
companion of regret. It has all the ingredients for a Hallmark film; young woman
on the brink, looking for love, pies, and a road trip.

D.G. – Well, I for one would definitely be watching. I really think your divorce stories could actually make a great HBO series!

 

Can you tell us about your new release, The Wine Diaries?

Well, it’s my most personal book to date. I share experiences related to my
divorce and how I got there. Where my journey to separation began and how I
knew when my marriage was over. In addition, I write about some of the signs
that I ignored during my marriage.

I almost didn’t publish this one out of fear. My fear was that of being vulnerable.
I’m putting my life out there even more than I did in my first book. I spent many a
night contemplating the pros and cons of publishing this book. In the end,
obviously, publishing won out. Ultimately, I hope to help those who are going
through divorce right now, or perhaps in an unhappy marriage or relationship.
Also, I believe this book will help people going through a major loss or life
change…because the emotions involved in these scenarios are very similar.

The best part of this book is the wine, of course. While we deal with some heavy
topics, we pair each one with a suitable wine. As I explain in the introduction,
wine is a tonic to our difficulties in life. Enjoyed responsibly, wine can act as a
stress reducer and a be a lovely evening ritual.

D.G. – I am looking so forward to reading!

 

Find Lisa at these Gin Joints:

Her website https://www.lisathomsonlive.com/blog

Amazon Author page https://amzn.to/33oDEwQ

Twitter https://twitter.com/lisalisathom

 

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Sunday Book Review – No Sex Please, I’m Menopausal! by Stevie Turner

Book reviews by D.G. Kaye

 

My Sunday book review on No Sex Please, I’m Menopausal by Stevie Turner.

 

If you like women’s fiction, a bit of chick-lit, and can identify with menopausal madness, you’ll like this book.

Book review, No Sex Please

 

Get this book on Amazon! 

 

Blurb:

After going through the menopause Lyn finds that she no longer wants sex. This is unfortunate, as her husband Neil still does. When he discards her after 35 years of marriage like an old worn out shoe, Lyn moves to Cornwall to start a new life. However, new friends are hard to find, and she feels lonely.

On the spur of the moment she decides to join an online dating site, ‘MatchULike’, just for companionship. Amongst the peculiar people she meets is Peter; shy, and conscious that his ‘gentleman’s’ operation has rendered him an unattractive prospect in the marriage stakes. Lyn makes a friend of Peter, but when Neil gets to hear about the friendship he realises too late that there is more to a relationship than just sex, and he suddenly starts to appear back on the scene and wants to turn her life upside down all over again!

 

My 5 Star Review

 

I thoroughly enjoyed this story about Lyn, whose life is turned around after experiencing residual effects of menopause, while her husband Neil seems to be going through a mid-life crisis. Lyn discovers Neil’s philandering ways by finding out about his adulterous affair he’s having to satisfy his sex drive. This escapade leads to the end of their marriage.
Lyn’s devastation has her moving away and starting a new life with new adventures, friends and relationships. Meanwhile, ‘back at the ranch’, Neil learns his newfound freedom and relationship with a younger woman isn’t all it’s cracked up to be and finds himself pining for his ex wife.
The story mirrors real life in many ways – pitfalls in relationships, side effects of menopause, and marriage mishaps. I found myself laughing with Lyn and drawn into her drama and decisions. And although I’m in total disagreement with some of the choices she made at the end of this book, it was her story, not mine, and that didn’t change the fact that the story was engaging and well written.

SPECIAL EDITION — #Empowered #Divorce #Summit

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A few weeks ago, Divorce Coach, Heather Debreceni sought me out through social media, and contacted me. She asked me if I’d like to participate in an interview with her on the topic of Children Of Divorce. I was touched and pleasantly surprised that my book Conflicted Hearts, had captured Heather’s interest for her summit.

Heather was interested in hearing my perspective on being a child of divorce, and my feelings about the emotions that stir through children who become victims of the emotional turmoil that often occurs when children feel pulled between their two parents. Heather interviewed me, along with 23 other experts — doctors, lawyers, in the field of divorce.

Heather has put together a summit on How To Protect Your Children from the pain of divorce.

 

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I am honored to be part of the Empowerment Divorce Summit, which starts May 18th, hosted by Heather Debreceni.

This remarkable online summit features 24 experts on topics such as parenting, relationships, and divorce. They will candidly be sharing their tips and strategies on how to:

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– Create balance in your life

– Take your power back

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Imagine being a fly on the wall as these top experts share the secrets that will allow you to protect your children, and embrace your new beginnings, so that you can start living the life that you’ve always dreamed possible.

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If this resonates with you, keep reading.

Knowing that people have a solid support network, helps them find peace they crave after divorce. I’m happy to have been invited to participate in this growing support network.

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