Have you gauged you self-esteem level lately? Do you get lost in the mundane day to day activities without ever giving any thought to how much you value your self-worth? Do you ever think about ways you can better yourself in order to feel better about yourself?
In my younger life, I was incredibly insecure and I was my own worst critic, but I didn’t allow it to carry through my whole life. I got proactive and begun working on the things I once hated about myself and learned to appreciate and highlight all the positives I did possess.
For a memoir writer, most of our writing pertain to events and circumstances from our pasts. Many of our experiences are not always happy. For the lucky ones who have found a way to overcome the obstacles, hurts and injustices in situations, it is a major feat and accomplishment. It can sometimes become overwhelming with the amount of memories we unlock.
When I wrote my first book Conflicted Hearts, it was written as a memoir, depicting the events I encountered, beginning with my dysfunctional childhood, under rule of my narcissistic mother. I carried my story through the years because through everything I accomplished in life, the guilt she had instilled in me followed me even though she was sporadically in my life. Much of the way I grew up living in emotional instability, seemed to linger way past my childhood.
Banishing toxic people from our lives does not make us bad people. Although it’s easier said than done, especially when compassion and guilt remain at the forefront of our minds. I looked back on my life after writing Conflicted Hearts and began to search for the reasons why I had developed such a low self-esteem and consequently the habits and quirks I developed from it and with my own tenacity and determination, learned to overcome those feelings of inadequacy in the best ways I knew how. I remembered how much I was ignored, ridiculed, taken for granted and emotionally abused, and it spurred me to write my upcoming book “Words We Carry – Essays of Obsessions and Self-Esteem”.
In my newest book, I share my stories about the hurts I endured and how they affected my identity and the low self-esteem those feelings left me with. I talk about things such as obsessions I developed in order to compensate for my shortcomings, leading me to find a way to overcome those hurdles in efforts to become a better me.
I know there are plenty of women out in the world who aren’t happy with themselves. I want them to know they are not alone and that we all have the ability to overcome our low opinions of ourselves. Even the most confident women have their own demons they’ve overcome or found a way to hide.
We all have feelings of feeling inferior at points in our lives, and we are all very good at self-criticizing. In Words We Carry, I try to convey some of these issues and share the optimism about how I found ways to overcome my own demons. I hope to empower women through my experiences in our quest to love ourselves.
Words We Carry will be out in late October, so if you’re looking for an inspiring read to help uplift your own self-esteem, you may want to pick up a copy.
“I have been a great critic of myself for most of my life, and I was darned good at it without the help of anyone else’s criticisms to assist in the deflation of my own ego.”
What do our shopping habits; high-heeled shoes and big hair have to do with how we perceive ourselves? Do the slights we endured when we were young affect the choices we make when choosing relationships?
D.G. takes us on her journey of unlocking the hurts of the past by identifying the situations that hindered her own self-esteem. Her anecdotes and confessions about Chic-Lit for real demonstrates how hurtful events we encounter in our lives linger and set the tone for how we begin to value our own self-worth.
Words We Carry is a candid view and a raw, personal accounting of overcoming the demons of low self-esteem with the determination to learn to love oneself.
Note: The photo is not my book cover as that is still in the works. I will be showcasing the cover in the next week or so.