Read any good #memoirs recently? Try author D.G. Kaye | deborahjay


November was certainly a grand month for me in regards to being interviewed. I was delighted to find that the multi-talented author Deborah Jay had read and reviewed my first book Conflicted Hearts and then featured me and all my books on her very busy, successful blog page. Thank you kindly Deborah. And if you are interested in hearing Deborah’s thoughts on reading memoir for the first time and reading my book, please feel free to click the link below:

Read any good #memoirs recently? Try author D.G. Kaye | deborahjay.

More Bloggers Between the Covers | 4am Writer

Thank you

I think you all know that when I am posting my own news and opinions here that I like to repost articles I find of interest and helpful here to share with you all. Well, today I am reblogging a post I happily came across on another author’s site, 4 Am Writer, while catching up on blogs I like to follow. I was floored when I discovered that Kate had written a post about a few authors books she wanted to showcase, and I was gobsmacked to find that one of my books was chosen. Kate never informed me, I was just pleasantly surprised to find my book Meno-What? A Memoir being showcased. Thank you so much Kate! Please click on her link to the post below and while you are there, have a look at Kate’s site. She is an author and editor and offers many services.   More Bloggers Between the Covers | 4am Writer.

The Writing Process Blog Tour

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I was thrilled to be invited to this blog tour about sharing an author’s writing process and showcasing other authors and their works. My friend Carol Balawyder has kindly invited me to this tour. Carol is the author of Mourning Has Broken, her memoir about life, loss and grief of a sister and parents. You can check out Carol’s wonderful Blog at and read about her upcoming books and her wonderful reviews of famous women writers and Nobel prize laureates. While you are there, take a look at Carol’s post on the blog tour last week and learn all about her writing process.

And now I am happy to share the answers to the four questions posed to the authors on this blog hop:

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I have just recently finished first draft of my next book. This book is a look at women’s self-esteem issues and the obsessions and hang ups we endure in younger life which have a propensity to devalue our self-worth. It is written from my own experiences and analysis. This book will be published this fall.

I am also writing chapters intermittently for three other books, one is a sequel to my first book Conflicted Hearts, another is essays on rants and reminiscence , comparing life today to yesteryear, and the other is a secret for now.


Writing in memoir can be raw. Some write in first person. Others may write in third person and choose to use another character to represent the story. And some memoirs are written in diary form. Many memoirs are written in one particular chunk of time. But all memoirs are based on a theme. my writing style was influenced by reading books written by William Zinsser, author of the widely acclaimed, On Writing Well. Only I wrote my first book, Conflicted Hearts with some slight deviation. My book spans through my life in different vignettes through time, holding with the same theme about how powerful guilt can continue to prevail throughout life, regardless of what we learn and how much we grow. For me, guilt didn’t exist in one chunk of time, I lived with it most of my life, even through my triumphs. I write raw and true and my voice speaks to my readers as though I am sharing my story with them personally.


I began my writing as a teen. I kept journals to release pent up emotions and to self-analyze events and people in my life. I was driven to try to find answers for people’s actions. In those earlier times writing was self-medicating, and as the years passed I wanted to share my thoughts on subjects that people could relate to and possibly leave some suggestion from my writing about my experiences. I don’t believe we just decide to be kind or nasty. The events of our pasts have much to do with the character traits we acquire.


I try to write five days a week. I don’t impose time-frames on my writing, I go with the flow. Some days I can crank out 2000 to 3000 words, others may only be 500. My outlining process is usually: the concept of the book and then creating temporary chapter titles for the subjects I’d like to include in the book. I begin writing a chapter and when the pen gets flowing full of ideas, I keep another blank page for that chapter for when too many thoughts come at once and I don’t want to lose them. I jot what I want to talk about on the separate page so when I’m finished writing my current thought, I know what I want to write next. When I’m not writing for my books, I will be writing blog drafts or doing creative writing exercises from Natalie Goldberg’s book Old Friend From Far Away.

I write in long-hand. Okay, call me old-fashioned but I just don’t feel creative in front of a computer. For my first book, I had been journaling for years. I had torn out the chapters and began adding to them. I used a post-it-note system where I’d title the chapters so I could add to them or move them around. I know this may sound archaic but it worked for me. I actually tried using Scrivener but I was so overwhelmed by it, I went back to my tried and true system. I did promise myself to try Scrivener again when I wrote my second book, but old habits die hard, so I found myself once again back to my pre-historic method.

My system can become quite messy. If anyone saw my kitchen table (where I love to write) while I’m working, they were overwhelmed by what appears to be a mess of papers, yet I know exactly where to find any page.

Only after finishing first draft do I venture over to the computer. I begin entering my work into Word with my chapters already in order—sprawled out on the floor. Being a tactile person, I just work better when I can pick up a page.

My revisions are all done in Word and through the process it’s not uncommon for me to print off about eight copies of my manuscript between revisions and edits. The human eye catches typos much easier on paper than the computer screen.

Final readings and proofs are always done from paper.


For next week’s blog tour I am introducing two fellow authors here who will be passed the torch. Deborah Jay and Annie Edmonds are author friends of mine. Deborah is a fantasy author and Annie writes in erotic romance. Be sure to visit their blogs next Monday August 4th when they will be joining the blog tour.

Here is a little sampling of what these two talented authors are about:

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Annie is a Jersey Girl born and bred. She has been happily married to the one man that stole her heart thirty years ago. She hopes one day to move her Jersey girl butt to the sunshine state.  She says winters are just too hard on someone who lives with chronic pain.

Annie loves to write and has been doing so her entire life. In 2013 she reached a milestone birthday and decided it was now or never. She needed to write and she published her first novel. She had no idea what to write about so she started asking her friends and their friends what they were reading. When the consensus was erotic romance, she did some research and what she found fascinated her. Annie took her love of romance, and added lots of kink and started writing Second Chances Sammy’s story. It’s the first novel in the Second Chances series. Annie is currently working on book two, Master Mike’s story.

Being an independent author isn’t always easy, but it can be fun when you start to write a sexy blog that you love. She started Sex w/Annie on WordPress and it seems to have hit a sweet spot where followers are concerned. She posts a Sexy Sunday blog for couples and singles every Sunday by 4 pm.

When Annie isn’t writing/blogging and promoting, she loves to spend time with her husband and family. At the beach is where she gets her inspiration. The beach has always been the one place to calm Annie’s soul.  Her interests also include, photography, gardening, and, being a foodie, Annie loves to cook.

Follow Annie at her Amazon author page, on twitter @aedmondsauthor and facebook.


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Deborah Jay writes fast-paced fantasy adventures featuring quirky characters and multi-layered plots – just what she likes to read.

Living mostly on the UK South coast, she has already invested in her ultimate retirement plan – a farmhouse in the majestic, mystery-filled Scottish Highlands where she retreats to write when she can find time. Her taste for the good things in life is kept in check by the expense of keeping too many dressage horses, and her complete inability to cook.

Her debut novel, epic fantasy THE PRINCE’S MAN, first in a trilogy and winner of a UK Arts Board award, has featured frequently in the Amazon Top 100 Epic Fantasy books since publication in July 2013.

Find out more about Deborah at or follow Deborah on Twitter, Facebook, GoodReads and Pinterest

Where are my books? — Createspace delays



I just wanted to place an update here on the availability of my new book Meno-What? A Memoir. As you may have read in one of my earlier posts about The Sticky Royalty issues I’m having with Createspace, I had requested that if any of you here wished to purchase a paperback copy, to please do so from the link I’d attach on my Meno-What? page. When I first published the ebook version in early June, I downloaded the paperback version with Createspace and ordered proof copies for myself to proofread before I hit publish for paperback. Normally the proofs should arrive within a week. Well today is July7th and as some of you have been questioning me about purchasing the paperback, I felt as though I should keep you abreast of why it is not yet available. menowhat thumbnail 100x150_72dpi I have sent numerous emails to Createspace inquiring as to the status of my book delivery. The first few emails I received were very generic, stating my order has been shipped—not very informative. Then I finally got a response that my order would be received by June 27th. Although I wasn’t thrilled about waiting seventeen days, I had no choice. Then it was the weekend and then it came Canada Day, July 1st and still no books. I emailed them again on July 2nd. That time I stated that surely when you send a package you receive a tracking number, and I kindly requested somebody should get on top of that tracking number and see where my books are. The next day I received another email, included in that email was a tracking number from the U.S. I spent over an hour trying to track that number and as I am Canadian, that U.S. tracking number was useless to me. I WAS FURIOUS by that point. After finding that tracking number was useless to me, I wrote this back again:

Well, another day has passed and the mailman has come and gone. This Monday will mark almost ONE MONTH since I have ordered my proof copies of my new book Meno-What? A Memoir, in order to approve and publish. You guys have sent me responses saying it’s been sent, several times. Then you emailed me a tracking number, which has no use to me because I can’t track it anywhere. You are the sender; you should have a means to track what you send with the number.

After numerous requests asking me where the paper back is, others have now downloaded the ebook and once again I will have nobody to purchase these books because they will be buying it on Amazon, just as what happened with my first book — if this one ever gets published. This leaves my money sitting in YOUR account now for almost 7 months that will never surpass $100 now because the book has been out now for almost a month with no paper edition and the thrill has worn off for the eager waiters.

I am asking you to find out where those books are, or have them resent because they sure aren’t here. I am also asking you to please release my royalties in all fairness due to this huge delay. Your attention in this matter is greatly appreciated.

Their reply:

Hello Deborah,

Thank you for taking the time to contact CreateSpace support today. I am very sorry to hear that you have still not received your order. Given the length of time that has elapsed, it appears that the package was lost in transit. Because of this issue, I created order #XXXX to replace your defective book copy. This package is expected to be delivered by Wednesday, July 9 to the following address: .. . . . . Please keep this e-mail for your records as your replacement order number, listed above, will not be included in the Purchase History within your account. If the original package arrives before the replacement, please keep both shipments with our compliments. Once again, I apologize for this inconvenience and appreciate the time you took to contact us. As always, if you have any other questions or concerns, please feel free to contact us again. Best regards,

Really? Funny how my books should now be here in three business days! I particularly liked the kicker, if I receive the first order, I can keep it too. How quaint.

It is so frustrating as an author to not have direct communication when dealing with publishing issues. Waiting hours or days for an email response is just so frustrating, but our hands are tied. And, notice how there was still NO mention of releasing my royalties.

So that’s my update. Once again, I appreciate the interest and the questions from my readers about the option to purchase the paperback edition of Meno-What? As soon as I receive it (crossing fingers it appears by July 9th), I will post the link here to inform you of its availability and I will add the ‘buy’ link on my Meno-What? page. From what I remember of the procedure when I published my first book, Conflicted Hearts, the book is available solely on Createspace for about two to three days and then it gets linked to the ebook version on and that is where people tend to purchase from because it is already conveniently available right there without having to go to Createspace, even though it is always still available there. One thing I did notice though, is that the shipping charges seem to be cheaper from Createspace than they are on Amazon. Why? I’m not sure.

Have any of you had any crazy issues in your publishing processes?


ANNOUNCING—Meno-What? – A Memoir, Memorable Moments of Menopause by D.G. Kaye

I am over the moon with excitement to announce that my new book (ebook version)Meno-What?  A Memoir will be published Tuesday June 10th on Amazon. As I had numerous delays getting this book out, I anticipated the birth of it Saturday June 7th (my birthday) so we could share the date, but as we all know, we can never rely on a due date! 🙂

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NOTE: I would like to ask that if any of you would like to purchase a paperback copy to consider purchasing it direct from Createspace or here on my Meno-What? page by clicking the link that takes you directly to Createspace. The link will be available to purchase from sometime next week and I will post here when it becomes available.  For those of you who may have read my earlier post about Createspace, my royalties there are being held captive until I reach a $100 threshold before they will release my royalties. My books will be available on Amazon, but I made the error in sending family to Createspace to purchase my first book, Conflicted Hearts, as soon as it was live because they didn’t want to wait the two to three days it sometimes takes for the paperback to link to Amazon and after it was linked, my paperback sales have all come from Amazon, thus nobody any longer purchases through Createspace for me to reach the threshold for me to receive my funds. Once I reach that threshold, I will be removing the Createspace link.

Thank you all for your comments and emails, for your interest in the publication of my new book.

Cover Reveal — Meno-What? A Memoir – Memorable Moments of Menopause


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Some of you may have noticed I have been sparse these past few weeks. It’s that busy time once again getting my new book — MENO-WHAT? A Memoir Memorable Moments of Menopause. ready to put out into the world.

It is all the fine-tuning that involves such intricate detail, time for revisions and editors and more revisions. Time to make sure your book cover shines and portrays perfectly what the book is about. And time, again to revise to make sure everything is just right before formatting to prepare for publication.

These are the times when the days turn into nights without notice. The times we find it hard to squeeze in time to even cook a meal, let alone get dressed.

By mid-May, I will be happy to share my new book with all of you. At this time, I would like to share my cover reveal here with the book description listed below.

I was inspired to write this book to show a lighter side of this sizzling phase of life by providing some deja vu moments for some women who have done the dance and to share with others who have yet to experience it, some of the crazy rides menopause can take us on.

Big thanks to my Book Cover Artist and Designer: Yvonne Less,


“I often found myself drifting off the course of normal with a sudden twist of bitch.”


From PMS to menopause to what the hell?

D.G. adds a touch of humor to a tale about a not-so-humorous time. While bidding farewell to her dearly departing estrogen, D.G. struggles to tame her raging hormones of fire, relentless dryness, flooding and droughts, and other unflattering symptoms.

Join D.G. on her meno-journey to slay the dragons of menopause as she tries to hold on to her sanity, memory, hair, and so much more!


D.G. Kaye ©2014

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