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Update: Blogging and Health and Wellness

Just a quick post to update. My hubby has just come home from hospital again, and a whirlwind has happened in this last stint.  My hubby was drained again and a port was inserted to start having homecare and nurse to come drain him at home as needed, it’s just too tough on him getting in and out of the car.


In the middle of madness I got jab one of the Astra Zeneca Covid vax, thanks to another compassionate medical secretary. I’d called my GP’s office for one thing, and got chatting with the secretary about the new opening in my age group for vaccines available in certain pharmacies across my city.  Well, I along with countless others were tying up the lines trying to book an appointment, and I gave up fighting the madness. The secretary told me she’d be happy to alleviate the madness and would get me booked. She asked which location I’d prefer, and ten minutes later called to tell me I was booked for the next day!  Apparently, they skipped an age group here, as they are still vaccinating the over 80 age group. I asked, what happened to the people in their 70s first, and I was told Astra Zeneca vaccine couldn’t be given to 65 and over and they would expire in April, so here I am, dose one injected and no follow up date yet for #2. I sure hope it’s sooner than later. I had the jab on Saturday and my left arm, shoulder, and up the left side of my neck and back are still sore. I hope that’s the worst of it as I have zero time to be sick. I’ve been reading around where many people say they get sicker after the 2nd jab. Can’t wait! (Sarcasm.)


As life is spinning for me at the moment, and until I can get a breath and sorted in new routine, my posts and my visits to other blogs may be limited and random. Gratefully, I do have some posts in draft, but anything newly creative is sleeping at the moment, as my life is in adjustment and denial as too many things sink in.

As I’d previously mentioned in my last post, I’m documenting this journey, and once I catch my breath, I’ll begin editing it and posting in a series about how I navigate the hospital system during cancer and Covid. Yes, my husband’s diagnosis is in, confirmed what I already knew in my soul, he has a primary and secondary cancer. Lots to process while working hard to keep his spirits up. And I must tend to his every need, which is my most absolute priority right now. The hospital has arranged nurses and doctors to come to the home. That is a blessing and easier for both of us.


Thank you all for your well wishes and prayers. They are always most welcome and appreciated.




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  • Jane Sturgeon

    Wrapping you both in the softest love and support from across our Pond. I’m in your pocket with you all the time, doing everything I can to help. I hold you both in my heart and prayers, always. I love you, my unicorn 🦄 buddy. Xxxxxxx 💕🦄💕

  • Darlene Foster

    Tough times my dear but if anyone can handle it, you can. We lost our dear sweet mom last night. At 92 things just stopped working. Because of Covid, I couldn’t be there so I’m feeling a bit down but I’ll get through this. GIve your hubby and yourself a huge hug. xo

    • dgkaye

      Omg, Darlene. I’m so very sorry to hear about the loss of mom. It seems like such a very sad time in the world where so many are sick, dying or lonely. The world could use something uplifting to take us out of the darkness already. Thank you for taking the time to pop over here and leave your kind words while you are nursing your own loss. Stay well and safe. <3

    • Alex Craigie

      I’m so sorry to hear about your mother, Darlene. It’s an agony not to be there at the end but what really counts is the love that you showed her beforehand. She knew she was loved and hanging on to that might ease the heartache <3

  • Toni Pike

    Hi Debby, Sending you all my love and hugs – don’t worry about the world of blogging, just look after yourself and hubby. I’m so pleased you had a jab. Toni x

  • Kate

    I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts. Just such a whirlwind that you’re caught up in so I hope you’re taking good care of yourself.

  • Pete Springer

    I’m glad that the doctors and nurses can come to your home now. At least that aspect of things will make things easier on both of you. I know you’ll do what you can to keep your husband’s spirits up. I’m so sorry for everything, Debby. Even if it’s as you suspected. it’s still hard.

    • dgkaye

      Thank you Pete. You said a mouthful. Yes, I work hard on keeping his spirits up, while I just keep plugging along, not allowing myself to look further than the current day. I guess that’s my coping mechanism. 🙂

  • Jan Sikes

    Sending light and love to you and your husband, Debby. There is nothing easy about what you are both going through. My thoughts are with you.

  • Hilary Melton-Butcher

    Dear Debby – well done … I’m pleased people are helping and things are working through for you – it must be a very difficult time – extremely challenging for you. Take care of you … so you can continue on caring for your hubby. I really feel for you – with some hugs and best wishes – Hilary

  • Gilda Baxter

    I am so sorry to hear your husband has been diagnosed with cancer. My best friend has recently been diagnosed and it is so hard on both her and her husband. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you both. I hope that being looked after at home will be a lot more comfortable for him. Good news about getting the vaccine, I am getting mine today. Here in the UK more than 25 million people have been vaccinated and most of them had the Astra Zeneca, we have been told that the vaccine is very safe for all adults. In any case the risks of not having the vaccine are much greater. Look after yourself and just take one day at the time.

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much Gilda for your dropping by and sharing your insights. This is definitely a lot to swallow while trying to be a soldier to keep my husband comfortable. And yes on the jab! So important for everyone! 🙂

  • Joy Lennick

    Oh Debbie, What an awful prospect for your poor husband and you…You are in my fervent hope that future medical assstance will at least ease both your journeys as much as possible. Take care and remember you are only human…Don’t hesitate to ask for help! I am sure you have many friends – let’s see how many prove their worth. Surely, that’s one of the reasons we are on the planet- to help each other? I’d be in wth chicken soup if I lived next door, already…hugs and heart-felt good wishes. Love Joy xx

  • Jim Borden

    I’m glad that you are finding it easier to have your husband at home. I hope he prefers the change in scenery as well. I am sorry to hear about his diagnosis, but hopefully this ewill enable the doctors to start a treatment plan.

    I wish each of the best; as I’ve said before, you husband is lucky to have you there as his advocate.

    And I’m happy to hear you’ve got your first shot!

  • John Maberry

    So sorry for the news. Times keep getting more trying. You’re an empath so it will be difficult with hubby at home–but far better than being restricted from access while in a hospital. You can count on me for my prayers for both of you.

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much John. Much appreciated. And you hit the nail on the head, being an empath makes the situation much more internally painful for me. And thanks for sending me the Buddhist chant. I’m using it! <3

  • Diana Peach

    Such difficult news, Debby, but I’m glad your hubby is now getting care at home. That’s so much easier and anything that reduces stress and discomfort is a blessing. You have your priorities straight my friend. Don’t worry about blogging unless it’s giving you something to smile about. If you need to take a break, do it. We have your back.

    Congrats on getting your shot. I’ve heard that the second has more side effects, but that they hit the younger folks harder. My parents had no side effects at all. So perhaps so good news there. Sending love and hugs your way. <3

    • dgkaye

      Thank you my lovely friend, for your wishes and support. Yes, blogging has been a great escape for me, and these days, I’m lucky to have a shower. But hopefully, the reinforcements will give me some moments back to breathe soon. And yes, I’ve been reading 2nd jab makes people feel worse – I can wait, no time for that now. <3

  • Deborah A Bowman Stevens

    Life is so unkind at times.
    I know the same old “whine/rhyme”.
    But it’s what I do, converse in verse.
    Blessings to you and hubby.
    I want to see you both bubbly!

    Update on me: Covid-19 can lead to anaphylactic shock!
    I have to say it rocked my world.
    Not in a good way,
    But what can we say?
    We get through it and live to play
    …Another day!

    –Blessings from Deb 💖

  • Erica/Erika

    I greatly appreciate the update, Debbie. I cannot imagine how emotionally and physically challenging. You remind me how it is a blessing to deal with real people helping alleviate the madness versus computer and phone queues. Hugs, well wishes and prayers. xx ❤️

  • Stevie Turner

    So sorry to hear of your husband’s diagnosis and all the upheaval in your life at the moment. Sending my sympathy and best wishes. Don’t worry about blogging – just concentrate on yourselves. x

  • Robbie Cheadle

    Hi Debby, I am very sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis, although I also expected it based on what you’ve shared to date. Wishing you strength and forbearance and I hope your vac to goes well. Hugs.

    • dgkaye

      I do know this Sal. You have been along with me on this journey – no matter how far away you live. I so appreciate you my dear friend. <3 <3

  • Daniel Kemp

    You are a very brave lady, Debbie. I hope your husband’s health improves and your workload lessens, but if it doesn’t I’m sure your strength will pull you through this stupidity we all live in. Over time I’ve come to ‘know you,’ if that makes sense, and now yours is one of the few blogs I read, one reason would be that you write so well. Please don’t stop, as that would deprive me of a huge part of my reading material. Keep safe and well.

    • dgkaye

      Oh Danny, you made my day! I’m so touched at your friendship, concern, and lovely words. Thank you my friend. That means a lot. <3 xox

  • joy Lennick

    Me again, Debs. I had the second jab yesterday and am fine. My arm was just a bit more achey, but otherwise no problems. Just thought I’d put your mind to rest!! Positive vibes, babe! Take care. Hugs Joy xxx

    • dgkaye

      You rock Joy! Thank you for letting me know how round 2 went. You are a true warrior woman my friend. I hope Eric is taking it equally well with the jab too. <3 <3 Soldier on my friend. <3 xxx

  • Amy M. Reade

    I’m so sorry to hear all you and your husband have been going through. All I can offer are my prayers and my fervent hope that you are able to take care of yourself as you take care of your husband. As hard as it is, you have the right idea: one day at a time. One hour at a time, when necessary. You have the support of people all over the world as you and your husband navigate through this. Lots of love and a giant hug.

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much Amy. I know this. I am blessed to have so many wonderful friends like you in my corner. I am so lucky to be part of a wonderful and supportive community. <3 xx

  • Olga Núñez Miret

    So sorry, Debby, although I got the feeling from your last post that you thought the news might not be good. Don’t worry about visiting blogs or commenting, or anything, although I’m sure we’d all appreciate an update when you can manage it.
    Good news about the vaccine at least, and it’s a relief to hear that you’re getting a bit of help.
    We’re all here, and sending you virtual hugs, plenty of strength, and lots of love. Give regards to your husband, and take lots of care. ♥

  • Natalie Ducey

    Oh my, Debby…. so sorry that you’re going through this. I missed this somehow and for that, I’m sorry, too. 🙁 Sending love with hopeful (((hugs))) across the miles. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers. xo

  • Claire Fullerton

    You are so lovely to share your current state of affairs with us. I always keep my eye on you, and , although I have no useful words of wisdom, let me say that I find you inspirational on so may levels, and honor you, so.

  • Lana Broussard

    Dear Debby, I am so sorry to hear this. I am keeping you both in my thoughts and in my prayers. Sending you both lots of love, good wishes, and hugs. Take care my friend, lots of love xoxo.

  • Jessica Norrie

    What a brave post! I do hope things go as smoothly as possible in the circumstances and you manage to only blog as much as you need to to relieve your feeligns and don’t feel the pressure to do more. Self care, husband care – that’s more than enough to fill the time and I wish you many loving moments.

    • dgkaye

      You’ve said a mouthful Jessica. And thanks so much for dropping by. I hope your visit here means you finally got your new computer up to snuff? Hugs <3 xx

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much Jacquie. And yes, although I’m still wading through the governmental process, reinforcements are coming soon. Thanks again for dropping by and sending some love! <3

  • Sue Dreamwalker

    Debbie, so very sorry to return my friend after a month and find your Hubby has been so unwell.. Please know I am sending thoughts and prayers my friend.. Hang in there..
    And sending you loads of hugs and love over the airwaves my friend..
    Love Sue <3

    • dgkaye

      Hi Sue. Lovely to see you back from your hiatus and visiting me. Thank you my friend for your prayers and thoughts. It seems so many of us are facing adversity in these terrible times. I’m glad to see you back round, and your hugs and love are taken in. Thanks again Sue. Love and hugs back your way. <3 xoxo

  • Carol Taylor

    Pleased to hear you have had your 1st vac, Debs…Hoping you get some help in place very, very soon until then …love and warm wishes to you both..your hubby is a lucky man to have you in his corner <3 xxx

  • Carol Balawyder

    I’m happy, Debby, that you’re getting the home care for your husband. I wish both of you all the best in going through this difficult period together. May you have strength and courage and love. <3

  • Damyanti

    Oh Debbie, this is So hard. Sending you and your husband the very best of wishes. Glad you got the vaccine– that at least is a good development. I hope you find some time to be gentle with yourself. Hugs.

  • Jennie Fitzkee

    Oh, Debby! I want to hug you and rock you both. Thank goodness there was some understanding and compassion out there. After all you have confronted with hospitals, it must have felt like a blessing to get your Covid shot and to arrange for home visits for Hubby. Sending you good wishes and much love.

  • Lucinda E Clarke

    I’m so sorry to hear that Debbie. Virtual hugs. (((( )))) One blessing is the NHS. Like here, they are just wonderful.

  • Sean P Carlin


    When you’ve had time to process this experience and structure your “diary posts” into a formal essay, it is going to make for an important document of your vaccination tribulations. In the meantime, I wish you and your husband the best of health…


  • Janice Spina

    Oh so sorry, Debby. My heart goes out to you and your hubby. I will keep you in my daily prayers. Thank God you got to have your first vaccine and that you have assistance to make your husband comfortable daily. Take care and stay strong. You are an amazing woman who has had so much adversity in your life. Sending hugs, love and prayers your way, my friend. 🙏 💕 🤗

    • dgkaye

      Thank you so much Janice for dropping by to leave your hugs and wishes. You are always so sweet and I thank you my friend for your prayers. <3 xx

  • Melanie Stewart

    I am happy to hear that you were given the o.k. Debby to bring your husband home. There were too many frustrations at the hospital for both of you. I am so sorry to hear of the cancer diagnosis though. It’s an awful word to process. There are, however, so many treatments and variations on treatments these days that bring good results; I’m sending positive thoughts that this will be the case. Thinking of both of you!!

  • Christy B

    Oh Debby, I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s cancer diagnosis. He is blessed to have you there with him. Please ask for help with caring for him when needed and remember to breathe. You have a lot on your shoulders and it must be so hard… Your love and caring nature are beautiful. Thinking of you xx

  • Marian Beaman

    Oh, my sweet Debby. I had to scroll way, way down to be able to post, which means you have lots of support here. I am so, so sorry you are going through this. My mother and my aunt died at an advanced age and my brother, unexpectedly, very young. But a husband is different, just as a soul-mate is different from any other relative.

    In all of this, you were able to get a vaccine, which may alleviate one wee concern. As I have mentioned before, you and Gordon are on my prayer card and I will continue to hold you before the throne of Grace.
    A big LONG HUG as you navigate these turbulent waters. ((( )))

    • dgkaye

      Hi Marian. Thank you so much again for your hugs and prayers. The more the merrier I always say, and I feel blessed to have you put us on your prayer card. Thank you so much. And you said it, as I always say every grief is significant to its loss. I’ve lost parents, relatives and friends, and each presented its own unique grief. This time I have no words. I’m not even digesting, I’m just going through the motions right now, doing what must be done. My grief bubbles within as there is no time for that now. Thank you. <3

  • Christoph Fischer

    Thanks for the update, and sorry to hear your nursing skills are so in demand. He’s lucky to have such a devoted wife and I hope he’ll get better soon.
    Hugs and much love from the island across the pond

  • Liesbet

    Oh dear Debby! I’m so sorry to hear about the cancer diagnosis. Like you, I had a feeling something terrible was up. I’m sending your hubby positive vibes right now and I hope you can both find something to smile about every day. Having you around, caring and loving him just lift his spirits somewhat. Good thing the doctors and nurses now come to your home. That must be a big relief, yet also confronting.

    I totally understand – like everyone else – that blogging should take a step back, but I also know you like to document and share what’s going on. Plus, you find comfort and support here to get you through these difficult times. It’s all about the right balance right now and we are all in your corner. Sending you both love and hugs! Xxx

    • dgkaye

      HI Liesbet. Thank you my friend for your love and wishes, and you said it – ‘confronting’. And yes, time is short now for my blogging ventures, but I’m still documenting, and I’m still trying to make it round to blogs I follow – but at a much slower pace. In the midst of madness, my onine friends are my sanity. <3 xx

  • Alex Craigie

    A devastating diagnosis, Debby. Like everyone else I send my love and prayers and hope that you have some respite factored in to keep body and soul together. The exhaustion and emotional impact will already be making themselves felt and you should take refuge in anything that can make you smile or distract you. Wishing there was something more that I could do but I’m aware that the brunt of this falls on you and I can only hope that knowing how much you’re loved by everyone here brings some kind of comfort. <3

    • dgkaye

      Trish, you are lovely. Thanks for all the encouragement my friend. I’m stealing my moments visiting blogs, and that is my connection to my sanity right now for sure. All my wonderful far away friends keep me smiling. Thank you for your lovely message. Hugs <3 xx

  • Mary Smith

    I was so sorry to learn of your husband’s cancer, Debby. Soemtimes there are no words to express or feelings – sending you both much love.

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