Writing Memoir [Expert Interview] – The Blogger’s Lifestyle

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Today I’d like to share a wonderful interview I had with Kathleen Aherne over at her generous blog – Bloggers Lifestyle. I was just ecstatic when Kathleen wanted to interview me on Writing Memoir. Kathleen also invites bloggers to add one of our blog post links to her Friday posts with a chance to meet and mingle with other writers and bloggers and asks that we click on any of the links on the list, go visit that post and meet a new blogger. I was also honored to have been chosen a few times for the Bloggers Pit Stop feature of the week on her blog. Please enjoy!


Writing Memoir with author Debby Gies


Debby Gies is an accomplished nonfiction memoir author, writing under the name of D.G. Kaye. She writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. I have read her first book entitled Conflicted Hearts. Any good book will keep your interest; a great book feels like you are right there feeling what the characters are experiencing. Conflicted Hearts is such a book, and that is why I read it cover to cover in one day. The sequel to this book has just been published.

Emotions of Writing Memoir

Reading old journals and delving into the past can be an emotional rollercoaster. Do you have advice on how to use these emotions positively and not be swamped by them?


It’s hard to escape the emotions arising when we re-visit painful past hurts. Writing memoir is different from writing fiction because it’s hard to separate our feelings from our words. I like to dissect my memories and look at the reasoning behind the emotion.

I’m a truth-teller, always looking to resolve conflict. The way I process my thoughts about hurts that I harbor within is to find a release for them, usually through my writing. For me, writing helps analyze things and put them in a perspective. My writing isn’t to convict anyone, rather to expose the problem and share how I dealt with my problems; solving my own anxieties from my situations and hopefully leaving a message for others.I forgive you, Writing Memoir

This was why I wrote my newest book, the sequel to Conflicted HeartsPS. I Forgive You, because I knew I had to find resolution and peace within myself for closure from the decision I made to finally abandon my narcissistic mother, and live with that decision after she died. I couldn’t write about it until I experienced the feelings I would go through.


Consulting Family Members

Do you consult with other family or friends to clarify your recollections of past events?


Yes I do. It’s funny though, writing in memoir is writing our truth, the truth as WE know it and remember it. I remember much more than my siblings do because I was the eldest and I took the brunt of my mother’s wrath for years.

I’m also an empath, very in-tune to other’s feelings. I was aware of the discord I grew up in while my siblings chose to tune out. I often spoke about incidents with my siblings and friends who were witness to situations I encountered in my younger life. In my newest book, I did many interviews with various family members.


Permissions and Disguising Identities


As a memoir writer do you need permission to name others mentioned in the story? Do you ever disguise people or place names to protect identities?

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  1. You may have hit exactly why writing memoirs are so difficult for me: They are so personal. You can’t do them without tearing off band-aids and breaking open wounds.

    I’m off to read the rest, Deb.

    1. Thank you Jacqui. I think you got the essence my friend. 🙂

  2. Excellent!

    1. Thanks Jennie. 🙂

      1. You’re welcome, Debby. 🙂

  3. This was a fabulous interview, Deb. I enjoyed it just as much the second time around ❤️

    1. Thank you my ever supportive friend. <3 <3

  4. Will hop over and read the rest of the interview. Thanks for introducing us to Kathleen too.

    1. Most welcome Stevie, and thanks. 🙂

  5. This sounds interesting, Debby and I’m popping over to read on…Happy Sunday! 🌺🌻

    1. Thank you Annika. 🙂 x

  6. Thanks for sharing your interview here…hopping over to read more Deb.

    1. Thank you so much Balroop. 🙂

  7. This is so true: “It’s hard to escape the emotions arising when we re-visit painful past hurts. Writing memoir is different from writing fiction because it’s hard to separate our feelings from our words.”

    1. Thanks Rob, often that is the hard part – separating feelings from words. 🙂

      1. Yes…Also we do things out of ignorance that seem baffling or even shameful in retrospect.

        1. Hindsight is 20/20. 🙂

          1. Sometimes painfully so…

  8. Wonderful, Debby. Going over to finish reading…

    1. Thanks so much Robbie 🙂

  9. Excellent post. I’ve sent it to a friend who is writing a memoir right now.

    1. Oh thank you so much Darlene. 🙂

  10. Fascinating and informative interview, Debby! I enjoyed both the questions and answers. It was very well done. Congrats! <3 xx

    1. Thanks so much Vashti! I saw your shared too, thank you! Oh, I just wrote and posted a review on your amazing book! It should be up on Amazon soon, and is up on Goodreads. I will be featuring it Sunday May 20th on my blog. <3

  11. Excellent interview! Her questions are very good. I hadn’t thought about written permissions but this makes sense for memoir. I learned more about you here, dear friend.

    1. Thanks so much Christy. We always get to learn a new nugget every time we read interviews with our friends. Glad you took something from it too. <3

  12. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your interview, Debby. I learned so much through your answers, even what creative non-fiction actually is. I know I’ve looked up the term before, but the way you simply pronounced that memoir mixed with fiction makes it creative non-fiction. Ha! I’ve just realized that what I’m writing is NOT creative non-fiction. 🙂

    Your other statement that “it’s hard to separate our feelings from our words” is a wonderful way of describing the process of memoir writing. Plus, because we are so involved, and we can recreate memories and feelings, it should help us write in a compelling way!

    1. I’m so glad you took so much from my interview Liesbet. As you can see there’s a lot to writing memoir. But I know you are doing a great job with your upcoming book! 🙂 x

  13. I really enjoyed this interview, Debby. Thank you for being so honest. I agree wholeheartedly with this sentiment: ” My writing isn’t to convict anyone, rather to expose the problem and share how I dealt with my problems; solving my own anxieties from my situations and hopefully leaving a message for others.”
    Best wishes, Nxx

    1. Thank you Norah, for reading and your lovely comment. 🙂 xx

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