Today I’m sharing my latest article at Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Blog Magazine and talking about the innocence of children and their ability to see spirit and play with imaginary friends.

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Explore the spiritual side of our natures and the universe as D.G. Kaye shares her experiences and research into this element of our lives.

You can find part Twenty-Two of the series: Manifesting

Welcome back to my Spiritual Awareness series here at Sally’s Smorgasbord. In this post I’m going to talk about child innocence and their ability to see spirit, as well as their make-believe friends.

Innocence, Spirit, and Imaginary Friends

It is said that babies and young children can see spirit because their souls are still pure, and they have no filters. I have encountered witnessing a spiritual event once in my past family life with my niece days after she was born, and other observations when she was a young child with her imaginary friends.

My niece was just days old, born just before the Jewish Passover. On this holiday, at the end of the Seder dinner, the tradition is that the female head of the household opens the door hoping to invite in the prophet Elijah, symbolizing hope and redemption in Judaism as he is said to take a sip of the special wine-filled glass that is set upon the table along with all other wine glasses that have been blessed upon. Elijah’s awaited visit through the centuries signifies the earthly coming of the Messiah. (I think we are still waiting.)

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As a child, it always felt magical to watch the wine cup as my mother or grandmother opened the door. I expertly used to watch the wine cup to see if the rich, red liquid, nearly filled to the brim, would stir or ripple. But on this one particular Seder gathering, my father was cradling my newborn niece, only days old, in his arms, when my mother went to open the door. (This was the one and only time my mother ever made a Seder dinner, and my parents were long divorced by then, but civil to each other.) As traditional, everyone’s eyes were focused on the wine glass in anticipation when my mother opened the door – but I was watching the baby, as was my father. As soon as that door opened – so did the baby’s newborn eyes open wide out of a slumber, as she gave a momentary shriek then immediately closed her beautiful eyes back to sleep. My father and I witnessed the sacred moment, locked eyes with each other in ‘knowing’, and shed a tear together in joy.

My same niece became a very intelligent and playful little girl with great imagination, always years ahead of her age, a child I classified as an old soul. In her early growing up days, I spent a good many years at her house. Whenever I’d catch her playing alone, she always spoke directly to three invisible people – as though she was never alone. Three people with the same rhyming names – Locky, Jocky, and Mocky. (Even I remember their names.) At first after hearing these names repeatedly when I’d visit, I figured it was her grand imagination. But when I eventually asked her who those people were whom she kept speaking to, she casually told me they were her best friends. I knew in my soul they were her imaginary friends, but also always wondered if they were really spirits she could see and talk to or just imaginary.

My niece has a memory like an elephant – like me, for the distant past. And occasionally, when we get together and talk about her childhood, I ask her what happened to her three friends – to which she tells me, she has no idea of what I’m speaking about. It makes me wonder if she’d forgotten her imaginary friends’ and names, or were they spirit ancestors and/or angels who were her comforting as playmates?

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Can Children Distinguish Between Spirits and Imaginary Friends?

Psychologists say that it’s perfectly normal for young children to have imaginary friends. Imaginary friends are part of a child’s open imagination. They may create them merely for company as playmates, or some children may create them for a sense of protection, or as distraction from their surroundings, especially if they aren’t living in a harmonious home. And this makes sense to me as my niece grew up in a parallel tumultuous household, as I did.  Many children invent imaginary friends. But many others do have the ability to sense spirit if one is around, because of their pure and unclouded nature. It’s not as though babies and toddlers all have extra sensory perception. It’s just that they have no bias or filters, and no limiting beliefs.

It’s important to note that a healthy normal child who has imaginary friends is not a cause for worry, and it is in fact, said to be quite normal for young tykes to conjure up imaginary friends. The only thing to make sure of is that the child is not imagining anyone who scares them or threatens their peace, putting them in harm’s way. Often, little children will invent an imaginary friend as a dissociation from experienced or ongoing trauma.

Even in healthy circumstances, I think it’s always a good idea for parents to get to know more about their children’s childhood make-believe friends. By asking them questions about ‘their friends’ we can learn if those are healthy or disturbing friendships – or perhaps if they are indeed talking to visiting spirit, not an imaginary friend.

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My Story:

I remember in my own childhood that it felt much like walking on eggshells and around landmines around my mother, never knowing what personality she’d be sporting, and I felt very alone my entire childhood with nobody to ask questions to or to confide in. The only person I had for guidance was my Aunty Sherry, but even so, anything I didn’t want shared with my mother, I had to hold back, because of course my aunt would report concerns.

I let my imagination run wild to escape screaming and fighting in my almost daily life. And the emotional neglect contributed to my low self-esteem, my starvation for affection, and fear of my mother’s wrath, should I ever dare to ask a question about my father. I was a very nervous child, always with fear. I feared being yelled at by my mother ‘the screamer’. I feared waking up and finding my father gone – again. And I carried with me always, a sadness for my father because he wanted to be with his family, but my mother didn’t want him.

That’s A LOT of baggage for a child to grow up with and carry . . . Please read the conclusion at Sally’s Smorgasbord.

Source: Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – Child Innocence and ability to see Spirit, #Imaginaryfriends by D.G. Kaye | Smorgasbord Blog Magazine

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